What is the worst/dumbest thing anyone has ever said to you about parenting stuff? V - Page 51

[Kelly1101]

Yeah.  He'll totally be pissing in his pants in college if he isn't potty trained by 3.  That happens ALL THE TIME.  It's an epidemic, really.

Originally Posted by rebecca_n 

my father called about an hour ago and i mentioned my dd (11months old) went peepee on the potty and he asked about my ds (3) using  the potty too which he isn't (had a traumatizing experience falling off the potty and slamming his head on the  wall and simply refuses but we're not stressing him about it) so when i said no but that ds is proud of dd my dad told me i need to be the mom and just strip him and force him to sit on the potty until he goes. i said no that would further traumatize him and he would scream and freak out. well apparently if i dont force him then he'll be "p***ing his pants in college" ughhhhh

Originally Posted by Stephenie 

At the store the other day the cashier asked me how many kids I have. I told him two and one on the way. He said "Congrats.... I guess. I don't know how I feel about children."  not really directly related to my parenting but a pretty odd comment. 

That cracked me up so hard.  You should have gone all shrink on him "I wonder if that relates to your own childhood.  Would you like to tell me about it?"

[aeterna]

Ahh, my first contribution to this thread!

A (childless) friend and his girlfriend visited me in the hospital shortly after delivery, during which time they expressed their disgust for another new parent-couple because the mother "wore the kid in one of those wrap things ALL THE TIME" and the father "would run to pick up the kid anytime he started to cry." When I pointed out that you're SUPPOSED to pick up a baby when he cries, they justified their complaint by saying that "crying is the only exercise babies get."

...I smiled and resolved not to discuss my AP plans with them nor ever leave them in the care of my infant. :lol

[mommy212]

My SIL was relating to me a while back about how a friend had started giving their FOUR MONTH OLD chocolate cow's milk. CHOCOLATE! Argh. I said something to the effect of 'Wow, how do people not know this kind of basic nutrition these days?' and she says "Ya, stupid woman, you're supposed to stop giving them formula when you start on milk! Seriously."  I was floored, and speechless. Really? at four months old?

[kindyll]

Holiday season, so of course there is new ' sage advice ' from family members.

-cosleeping is going to end in the death of our baby
-letting her put weight on her legs will ruin her bones forever
-she needs to be sleeping through the night by now (2 months old) and since she isn't we need to fed her formula instead of breast milk
-we need to feed her rice cereal because it is filling but not fattening, because otherwise she will get too fat and be diabetic and obese when she gets older
-I need to give her a bottle of formula every day instead of exclusively breast feeding, because she needs to get used to it just in case I can't fed her anymore
-breast milk isn't as good for her as the formula
-crying is good for her and is training her lungs
-holding her will soil her and I will regret it later because she will always want to be held and we won't have any control
-changing her diaper right away after she pees is stupid because her skin needs to toughen up, and you should wait until she poops too before changing

We've been in town for one day so far. I'm scared to think of what may come up tomorrow.

[swd12422]

I only have two words for you : Hotel room.

[Kelly1101]

Holy CRAP.  All of that in one day?  Yeah, I'd be about ready to scream at some family members to Shut the F Up About My Baby Or We Are Leaving.  Seriously.  Put your foot down.

Originally Posted by kindyll 

Holiday season, so of course there is new ' sage advice ' from family members.
-cosleeping is going to end in the death of our baby
-letting her put weight on her legs will ruin her bones forever
-she needs to be sleeping through the night by now (2 months old) and since she isn't we need to fed her formula instead of breast milk
-we need to feed her rice cereal because it is filling but not fattening, because otherwise she will get too fat and be diabetic and obese when she gets older
-I need to give her a bottle of formula every day instead of exclusively breast feeding, because she needs to get used to it just in case I can't fed her anymore
-breast milk isn't as good for her as the formula
-crying is good for her and is training her lungs
-holding her will soil her and I will regret it later because she will always want to be held and we won't have any control
-changing her diaper right away after she pees is stupid because her skin needs to toughen up, and you should wait until she poops too before changing
We've been in town for one day so far. I'm scared to think of what may come up tomorrow.

[Kelly1101]

One thing I will never get is how people can say "Formula is better for the baby than Breast Milk."  I mean... that's just so massively scientifically untrue.  It's not even a "Crunchy / Mainstream" thing.  Mainstream mode of thought right now is that Breastfeeding is healthier.  That doesn't mean that formula is BAD for all babies (I don't think it's poison), but health-wise-- I mean... getting a statement of "Formula is healthier" to me is like saying that the world is flat.  Please show these people something that shows them how categorically wrong they are, because that's just annoying and mind-boggling.

[minkajane]

A coworker of mine said the other day that my 7lb 5oz daughter was HUGE at birth and that average for a newborn is around 5 pounds. I said, "Uh, no it's actually 7-9." She waved dismissively and said, "Oh, I don't agree with that, no matter what the doctors say, that's just too much weight for the mother to be carrying around!" I feel so sorry for her poor starving babies.

[Kelly1101]

LMAO.

So to her average means... what she finds desirable?

I'd have to go all Inigo Montoya on her... "I do not think it means what you think it means."

[erigeron]

So how big were this woman's babies? If her body naturally grows 5 pounders, they probably aren't actually starving. (hopefully.)

[jenrose]

*edited because my information source was incorrect*

[livacreature]

Mine is only two months, but I've gotten some good ones.  "That baby is too little to be out!  You aren't supposed to take them anywhere until they are nine months old!"  Really?  Cause I'm pretty sure mama has to go to the grocery store and not become a shut in.  She's healthy, some germ exposure is good for her.  I wear her, so it's not like she's coming into contact with much and she is warm and cozy.

I started supplementing with formula due to supply because she wasn't gaining weight (a pound in two months), she's happier this way, but I'm trying to stimulate my production, so I'm pretty much nursing her or pumping all the time.  I work full time and the four ounces a day I was getting while pumping is simply not enough to sustain her.  Whatever, I am fine with that.  I would have loved to just breastfeed, but baby needs to eat. However..."Why are you going to bother to do that now that you give her formula?  She doesn't have virgin gut anymore, so I don't see the difference."  Really?  I'm pretty sure anyone would agree that SOME breastmilk is better than none, even if kiddo gets some formula to fill in.  I firmly believe that the all or nothing approach is why a lot of women throw in the towel.

Ahhh..."Her eyes are crossed.  If you let her do that, she's going to get a lazy eye."  Yes, she sometimes crosses her eyes, like all babies.  What do you propose I do?  Stick my finger in her eyeball and uncross it?  

"She's never going to STTN if you let her sleep in your room, she'll know you're there."  Welp, she's been STTN since three weeks most nights (I know it is unusual, but I'm very lucky in this camp!), and every single time she does wake up crying, I nurse her back to sleep.  On the flipside, a very accusing woman who asked about her sleep at a coffee shop "Babies only sleep through the night if you make them CIO."  

[crunchy_mommy]

Originally Posted by livacreature 

Mine is only two months, but I've gotten some good ones.  "That baby is too little to be out!  You aren't supposed to take them anywhere until they are nine months old!"  Really?  Cause I'm pretty sure mama has to go to the grocery store and not become a shut in.  She's healthy, some germ exposure is good for her.  I wear her, so it's not like she's coming into contact with much and she is warm and cozy.

I started supplementing with formula due to supply because she wasn't gaining weight (a pound in two months), she's happier this way, but I'm trying to stimulate my production, so I'm pretty much nursing her or pumping all the time.  I work full time and the four ounces a day I was getting while pumping is simply not enough to sustain her.  Whatever, I am fine with that.  I would have loved to just breastfeed, but baby needs to eat. However..."Why are you going to bother to do that now that you give her formula?  She doesn't have virgin gut anymore, so I don't see the difference."  Really?  I'm pretty sure anyone would agree that SOME breastmilk is better than none, even if kiddo gets some formula to fill in.  I firmly believe that the all or nothing approach is why a lot of women throw in the towel.

Ahhh..."Her eyes are crossed.  If you let her do that, she's going to get a lazy eye."  Yes, she sometimes crosses her eyes, like all babies.  What do you propose I do?  Stick my finger in her eyeball and uncross it?  

"She's never going to STTN if you let her sleep in your room, she'll know you're there."  Welp, she's been STTN since three weeks most nights (I know it is unusual, but I'm very lucky in this camp!), and every single time she does wake up crying, I nurse her back to sleep.  On the flipside, a very accusing woman who asked about her sleep at a coffee shop "Babies only sleep through the night if you make them CIO."  

Some crazy ones there!! Uncross her eyes???? lol! And do people really wait 'til 9mos to take a baby out of the house?!?!?!

On another note, I also wanted to mention (and forgive me if I'm out of bounds in suggesting this) that her sleeping through the night so early could be the reason she wasn't gaining weight on breastmilk alone... most infants get a huge portion of their calories during the night & night-nursing is one of the best ways to boost supply... just something I wanted to throw out there if you hadn't looked into it yet!

[livacreature]

Yeah, I tried getting her up to feed her, but unless it is 100% on her own terms, she will refuse to latch and fall asleep.  She will happily nurse if she wakes herself up. I now pump at night to keep it coming.  She doesn't nap at all during the day, so I think by the time night rolls around, she is spent.  She's a creature of habit!

[crunchy_mommy]

Originally Posted by livacreature 

Yeah, I tried getting her up to feed her, but unless it is 100% on her own terms, she will refuse to latch and fall asleep.  She will happily nurse if she wakes herself up. I now pump at night to keep it coming.  She doesn't nap at all during the day, so I think by the time night rolls around, she is spent.  She's a creature of habit!

wow that's amazing, could she send some of that habit over to my 3yo DS who still can't seem to fall into a routine??? lol

[Greenlea]

If I have to hear my BIL say one more time that "if a child can talk, and ask to nurse then its time to stop nursing" one more time I'm going to scream!  He's not quite pertaining this to my son, as he's only 14 mths old and doesn't talk, but to refer to that BS at all is annoying.  Sure, my son may not talk, but he does sign for milk when he wants to nurse.  I wonder if thats that same thing as "asking" to my BIL. 

I also saw some posts in an online discussion that if a baby has teeth, its time to stop nursing.  Really?  Cuz my 1st son got his first tooth at 5mths, was I supposed to stop nursing my 5mth old?

[tooraloora]

Originally Posted by Greenlea 

I also saw some posts in an online discussion that if a baby has teeth, its time to stop nursing.  Really?  Cuz my 1st son got his first tooth at 5mths, was I supposed to stop nursing my 5mth old?

According the people I dealt with who had this mindset, yes. When DS started teething at around 4-5 months, I was told several times that I was done nursing.

[livacreature]

Do they think teeth mean they automatically with chew your nipple off instead of latching?  Weird....

Oh, both DH and I have gotten a lot of anti-dad comments.  He does babycare while I work on weekends and in the late afternoons/early evenings.  I do the babycare while he works during the morning/early afternoon and nights.  "Oh, that won't last long.  You're going to hire a sitter for her within a month."  "Dads are fine for older kids, but they just can't do babies."  "Dads don't know what their kids need."  "I can't believe your wife talked you in to that!"  I've had several people ask if I was worried he would drop her/forget to feed her/not change her.

Seriously.  He can do everything I can do just as well except you know, breastfeed.  I don't know why society doesn't seem to think that dad's can be equal parenting partners.  I'm a better mom because I work.  I'm able to work because I know that she is with someone who loves her as much as I do and is on the same page with her care.  He loves taking care of her, I would never second guess his ability to care for his child.  It would be so offensive to say that stuff about a mother, but people seem to think that dad=non-nurturing Homer Simpson.

[tooraloora]

Originally Posted by livacreature 

Do they think teeth mean they automatically with chew your nipple off instead of latching?  Weird....

Exactly. Shortly after the first teeth break through the gums, human nurslings transmogrify into piranha-like creatures. As such, the moment a nursling begins showing signs of teething, it is imperative that the mother begin weaning the child from the breast, else she will be devoured by the baby beast. Instead of continuing to offer the breast at this point, the mother should offer nutritious foods that would allow the baby beast to make use of its ferocious new teeth and nourish its growing body in ways breast milk cannot, such as cookies, Cheerios, french fries, and Big Macs. At this time, it is also necessary to begin providing the baby beast with other beverages. Some baby beasts may resist this, but thankfully modern technology has brought us Nesquick, Koolaid (aka juice), and soda to make this transition go more smoothly. The odd mother may fall into denial about her child's metamorphosis and continue to nurse, insisting that all is well, but undoubtedly she is actually a masochist, and is most assuredly hiding bloodied and partially (or fully) severed nipples under her blouse.

[mommy212]

Originally Posted by tooraloora 

Exactly. Shortly after the first teeth break through the gums, human nurslings transmogrify into piranha-like creatures. As such, the moment a nursling begins showing signs of teething, it is imperative that the mother begin weaning the child from the breast, else she will be devoured by the baby beast. Instead of continuing to offer the breast at this point, the mother should offer nutritious foods that would allow the baby beast to make use of its ferocious new teeth and nourish its growing body in ways breast milk cannot, such as cookies, Cheerios, french fries, and Big Macs. At this time, it is also necessary to begin providing the baby beast with other beverages. Some baby beasts may resist this, but thankfully modern technology has brought us Nesquick, Koolaid (aka juice), and soda to make this transition go more smoothly. The odd mother may fall into denial about her child's metamorphosis and continue to nurse, insisting that all is well, but undoubtedly she is actually a masochist, and is most assuredly hiding bloodied and partially (or fully) severed nipples under her blouse.