Originally Posted by tooraloora
Today I was informed that it is my fault that my DS isn't talking yet because I've always responded to his needs, and that I should stop responding to him immediately or he'll never have any reason to talk.
I was basically told this...by DS1's case management person. He was speech delayed (and is now leaning advanced). She HATED his signing for some reason (the speech therapist had no problem with it) This woman would hold toys back and tell him "Can you say more?" He would sign it. "No, say MORE." He would sign it. "No..." By that time he was DONE and would get up and walk off. The next time it happened I stepped in after the first "no" and said, "He DID say more." She looked confused at me and kept writing on the sheets "Refuses to say 'more' instead of sign." UHM, he was communicating...lets work on words he DOESN'T know.
She was also the one that seemed upset that my son didn't know basic shapes. I tried teaching him the names and how to identify them and he did not care one iota. He did, however, care about learning animals and could tell the difference between a cheetah and leopard at 2...but there's obviously something wrong because he doesn't know a circle from a square (which he does now).
lol More about her...
She also was shocked and weirded out that he didn't know who Barney was...I HATE Barney. He annoys the crap out of me. We don't have TV (we watch things online) but she was always surprised when my kid didn't know "basic cartoon characters."
Yeah, we're not in therapy anymore...
Originally Posted by erigeron
A friend got us 2 packs of sposies. I was irritated at first... but then when the baby was born, it turned out she didn't fit into any of the cloth diapers we had--they were all too large, and we were glad we had those disposables after all.
I was more irritated that I registered for specific cloth diapers and my mom showed up with a bunch of Gerbers from babies r us and said that these were the best prefolds you can get now. Um, those are the best prefolds you can get at a brick and mortar retail chain store, but there ARE better ones out there, including the SPECIFIC ONES I REGISTERED FOR. Blah.
Keep 'em. They make great kitchen towels!
Originally Posted by Kelly1101
Yeah. He'll totally be pissing in his pants in college if he isn't potty trained by 3. That happens ALL THE TIME. It's an epidemic, really.
Only if there's a direct correlation between not being potty trained by 3 and excessive drinking...
Originally Posted by livacreature
Do they think teeth mean they automatically with chew your nipple off instead of latching? Weird....
Oh, both DH and I have gotten a lot of anti-dad comments. He does babycare while I work on weekends and in the late afternoons/early evenings. I do the babycare while he works during the morning/early afternoon and nights. "Oh, that won't last long. You're going to hire a sitter for her within a month." "Dads are fine for older kids, but they just can't do babies." "Dads don't know what their kids need." "I can't believe your wife talked you in to that!" I've had several people ask if I was worried he would drop her/forget to feed her/not change her.
Seriously. He can do everything I can do just as well except you know, breastfeed. I don't know why society doesn't seem to think that dad's can be equal parenting partners. I'm a better mom because I work. I'm able to work because I know that she is with someone who loves her as much as I do and is on the same page with her care. He loves taking care of her, I would never second guess his ability to care for his child. It would be so offensive to say that stuff about a mother, but people seem to think that dad=non-nurturing Homer Simpson.
Dude. I had BAD PPD with my first. When my husband got home he was like Super Dad with DS1.
Some of mine...
DS2 is intact (DS1 is circ'd) and, upon learning this, my dad tells me "Well I'm glad someone circumcised me." Yep, that should TOTALLY be your next Christmas card to your mom. "Thanks for the circumcision!" SIGH
Just yesterday DH came upon a conversation about "when it's time to stop BFing." A friend, who wasn't involved but knows DH's stance, brought him in because DH loves to debate. When asked "How long do you think babies should BF?" DH didn't hesitate before replying, "2 years." He was bombarded with comments like "Yuck, you're one of THOSE." and "OMG That's child abuse!"