Yay, I'm so glad this thread is still alive! I'm working my way through the epic original right now. to all the mamas who have had to deal with hurtful comments. Reezley, that was so rude. I hate when people make assumptions based on a one-second glimpse into your life.
I've been lucky and had very few negative interactions with strangers; in fact a man came up to me in a restaurant once and said, "I noticed your little one's feet sticking out of the booth and figured you were nursing; I just wanted to tell you that my wife nursed all of our children and it's such a wonderful thing to do." And then he showed me a picture of his wife and their many children.
I had a couple, though, from customers when I was pregnant and working in a bookstore. So, I'm 4'11. I'm a tiny person and I was toting around a massive baby belly. One customer (who was taller than me) asked me to find a book for her, so I brought her over to the section and pointed it out--it was on a high shelf. She looked at me and said, "Oh, can you get it for me?" I get that was I was the employee and she was the customer, but seriously. Get a stool yourself and get the book, don't make a tiny, obviously uncomfortable pregnant lady carry over a stool and climb up on it.
Another very nice but misinformed customer was exchanging knitting ideas with me, and I told her I was planning to knit a wool diaper cover. She was awesomely encouraging about me using cloth, but assured me, "but you have to get the rubber pants. If you're cloth diapering, you MUST use the rubber pants." It actually freaked me out until I went to our local cloth diapering store and they told me no one even makes rubber pants anymore.
I've heard lots of annoying things from my family, mainly my in-laws, but it was mostly the old, "Oh, you'll spoil her by holding her so much!" DD could never stand being still and when she was tiny she needed to be bounced and moved a lot of the time. And whenever we were at my in-law's house, she cried a lot and was really uncomfortable (not sure why--she just hated it there), so I spent most of our visits just walking and bouncing her. DH's grandmother was watching me do this once, and said "Don't you want to sit down?" and I said, "Oh no, thanks, she won't want to sit down." She shook her head and said, "I just don't remember any of my children being like that. I don't remember any of them crying." Oh, ok. Your babies literally never cried and mine is weird for doing so. Right. She's a super sweet old lady who's pretty vague sometimes, so I had to chalk it up to that, but as a stressed-out new mom it really upset me.
My MIL told me that I was making DD "not like people" by taking her back if she cried when someone else held her. However, MIL is actually pretty good most of them time. She respects me even if she doesn't understand me--once she even hastily stopped her SIL from feeding my DD ice cream when she was EIGHT MONTHS OLD. I wasn't watching with the eagle eyes I have now for random people trying to feed DD because she was barely eating solids at that point and it hadn't even occurred to me that anyone would try to feed her anything without asking me, let alone ICE CREAM.
Whoo, that felt good. Long live this thread!