Originally Posted by AFWife
My mother was wondering if she was going to be invited to our next birth. I told her I'm planning a homebirth so it may just be me, DH, DS and the midwives. The rest went like this...
Her: But who's taking DS?
Me: No one. He's going to be here.
Her: You're going to want someone that can take him...it's going to be traumatic. He won't even be 2 years.
Me: He'll be 21 months. Old enough to understand.
Her: It's going to traumatize him.
My mom's giving me the same spiel - "Luke's going to have to come over and spend the night at least once before that baby comes so he gets used to me."
"Uh, why does he need to get used to you?"
"Well he can't be there when that baby's born! He's too little! He'll get traumatized seeing you like that!"
"That's what DH is for."
"DH is going to be too busy with you to worry about the kids, you're not going to want them there."
"That's why I have a doula."
"Well I just think it's stupid, those kids are going to be traumatized."
And on and on and on. All because HER birth experiences lead her to believe this, nevermind they're MY kids and MY birth.