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post #241 of 1072
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Originally Posted by ramlita View Post
Leigh, I just want to add another ecstatic
Congratulations!!
to your life

People are weird
Thank you! I needed that today.

People are weird. Like, I'm supposed to postpone or cancel my honeymoon (that we've had planned for nearly six months!) for the engagement party that she had just decided to throw herself three weeks ago.

A lot of my friends are married and I take being type-A to a new extreme (thanks to my Mom, list-maker extraordinaire) so I've helped to plan about a dozen weddings by now and thankfully none of them could have been labeled with the 'Bridezilla' tag. At least until now, that is.

Oh, well. One less person on my Christmas card list. (Although, I'm Jewish now, so I guess I should say my 'Happy Holidays' card list. )

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paintedfire,
Thanks. It really hurt right after it happened but it's been nearly three weeks now, I think, so the pain has faded quite considerably. It's just still hard to think that someone you've loved for so long could be so nasty to you, you know?
post #242 of 1072
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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan View Post
"doesn't your insurance let you use any other pediatricians? ?"

plus side, I found a second use for a nursing room today. With two kids, a nursing room with toys means you don't have to chase a toddler while trying to nurse. I'll have to remember that trick.

The other cool thing is I nurse in there to reduce distractions and for the comfy chairs, and the mama with the two kids decided to use the couch visible from the door instead of the more hidden rocking chair and I think it was because she saw me with dd and knew it was okay.

as for parenting stupity, if you nurse a walking kid who asks for "nursing? Nursing?"
Oh man people would hate it that my almost 2 year old says "nurse on this side", pats me, lifts my shirt, drinks and then runs off to play!

I've had lots of stupid stuff said to me, but my "favorite" is from an "Ezzo loving family"
When my first son was just 8 weeks old she asked if he was STTN and of course I said no, because well, he's a BABY...and she said..."well your not being the parent, you need to take charge and make him."

That made me so sad and still makes me sad that parents treat their children as second class citizens and put them through terrible things like that.
post #243 of 1072
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We're visiting family so I have the "normal" list of comments...

- DS should be done nursing by now (he's 13mo AND I'm pregnant)

- GMIL: What are you gonna do with two? You won't spoil the next one like you did this one.

- GMIL: Does DS still sleep with you? "yes" What are you gonna do when the next one gets here?

- SIL: Hopefully you'll have a girl and then you can be done!
post #244 of 1072
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- SIL: Hopefully you'll have a girl and then you can be done!
Yeah what's up with that one? I hear it all the time, "Maybe your next baby will be a girl & you'll be all done," ummm I didn't know the gender of my babies determined the number of siblings they get??? Not to mention I would love for my son to have a brother (or 2, or 3, plus a sister or two...)
post #245 of 1072
I've heard a million-mostly from my toxic mother who has to have things her way. Some are:

1) When DD1 was born my water broke at home. I called the doctor who was to call me back in 15 minutes. Mom kept insisting I had to go to the ER right then because when your water breaks the baby can't take longer than 6 hours to arrive. 28 1/2 hours later DD1 was born.

2) From birth she kept insisting on DDs watching TV ALL DAY to learn. Because a 2 week old can learn ABCs?

3) Car seats don't have to be installed correctly to work.

4) 85+ degrees and DDs have to be bundled in at least 4 layers to be warm?

5) Fruit flavored candy in a plastic cup = fruit cup = healthy
post #246 of 1072
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leaving the baby to cry for 2 hours at a time at night,
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My favorite one she told me about was her ped telling her that because of swine flu and RSV this year, he was advising all his patients to stay home. All winter. So she did.
post #247 of 1072
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LOL. Adorable picture, though.

this is what my son was wearing that day at the library.
I know this is off topic now, but I LOVE that little cardigan. It looks like something a little old man would wear! I want it.

I posted this somewhere else, but it works for this thread too:
I was recently talking to my mom about how we plan to do extended breastfeeding, and she asked about what happens when they get teeth, if they bite mommy, and what I could do about it. I told her about some things I'd read on here and elsewhere and then she told me that when my brother and I were little she had problems with us biting. "Not me," she said, "but other kids" (She didn't breastfeed my brother and only breastfed me til about 4 months.)

Since I'm a first timer I responded that I didn't even want to think about the challenges that might be in store for us down the road. The "terrible twos" and toddler stuff still kind of terrifies me, since I'm not the most patient woman in the world. I think I said "Gosh, I don't even know what I'd do if my little one was biting other kids! I'd feel horrible! How do you get them to stop?"

And she said

"You bite them back. So they know how it feels"

LOL WTF, MOM?!

And when I laughed about that comment she said "Well not HARD, just enough so they know that it hurts."




So I guess she wasn't joking.
post #248 of 1072
But that does seem to be a popular "discipline" concept. "If I do it to them, they'll know it's bad."

BTW, re: toddlers. Start reading up on them when your LO starts cruising. Early toddlerhood was a lot harder on all of us than it needed to be because I thought I'd have a walking baby for a month or two and instead I had a walking baby for about a week.
post #249 of 1072
re the biting stuff.... its just been shown in a popular programme (emmerdale, if you are interested) over here, a toddler bit the womans baby, the woman bit the toddler to show her it hurt/ was wrong.. she was arrested for assault and may go to prson... (i know its not real lol)


sil told mil that its illegal to have a child over 12 months in a rear facing car seat... from the woman whos 9 year old 'doesnt need a booster' ... so now i have my mil on my case and dp paniced so i had to prove it to him!
post #250 of 1072
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Originally Posted by emamum View Post
sil told mil that its illegal to have a child over 12 months in a rear facing car seat... from the woman whos 9 year old 'doesnt need a booster' ... so now i have my mil on my case and dp paniced so i had to prove it to him!
I wouldn't. I'd tell them that sil has to prove she's right, rather than you prove you are. Onus on the troublemaker.
post #251 of 1072
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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan View Post
But that does seem to be a popular "discipline" concept. "If I do it to them, they'll know it's bad."

BTW, re: toddlers. Start reading up on them when your LO starts cruising. Early toddlerhood was a lot harder on all of us than it needed to be because I thought I'd have a walking baby for a month or two and instead I had a walking baby for about a week.
A little OT, but what books would you recommend for early toddlerhood?
post #252 of 1072
Thread Starter 
Dh's most recent comeback:

FIL: When are you going to turn DS around the right way? (we still RF at 13mo *gasp*)
DH: He IS turned around the right way.
post #253 of 1072
Ok so here is one from my loopy 89 year old grandmother who is obsessed with the fact that I am still nursing DS at 2 yrs 4 mons.

GM "I bet your the only mother who nursed this long"
post #254 of 1072
Speaking of nursing, my MIL and mother both ambushed me after I gave birth to tell me some horror stories about breastfeeding.
Not your usual fare either. both of them warned to make sure I wore a sweater AT ALL TIMES! Because apparently, if my chest is uncovered and the wind hits it, my milk will FREEZE IN MY CHEST. My mother went to tell about one woman this happened to, and how she ended up in the hospital with a severe infection. My MIL chimed in about how her aunt had her left breast cut in half because her milk was frozen solid in her breast.

I think I just smiled and nodded. I wore a sweater around them outside for a little bit, but gave up after awhile. It was too ridiculous.
post #255 of 1072
I just remembered one that I heard a while ago.

My dh's aunt was holding dd, who was getting fussy, so I told her it was time for dd to nurse. I waited a few seconds for her to hand her over, but she didn't, so I told her to give dd to me and repeated that it was time for her to nurse. Then dh's aunt said that didn't hand dd over right away because she was waiting for me to go and sterilize my breasts first!

This was back when dd was starting solids and this aunt was always trying to give her unwashed produce, saying that there was nothing harmful on it because it was from her garden. So unwashed fruit and veg was okay, but unwashed boobs not.
post #256 of 1072
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Originally Posted by pear-shaped View Post
My dh's aunt was holding dd, who was getting fussy, so I told her it was time for dd to nurse. I waited a few seconds for her to hand her over, but she didn't, so I told her to give dd to me and repeated that it was time for her to nurse. Then dh's aunt said that didn't hand dd over right away because she was waiting for me to go and sterilize my breasts first!
That reminds me... When BIL2 was an infant he got sick and was put on antibiotics. He ended up getting thrush. When MIL took him to the hospital for it the nurses made her feel HORRIBLE about it and told her that he got thrush because SHE obviously didn't wash her hands after using the bathroom and didn't wash her breasts before and after nursing. Seriously? She figured out (on her own) later that it was the antibiotics and not her hygiene.
post #257 of 1072
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Originally Posted by neverdoingitagain View Post
Speaking of nursing, my MIL and mother both ambushed me after I gave birth to tell me some horror stories about breastfeeding.
Not your usual fare either. both of them warned to make sure I wore a sweater AT ALL TIMES! Because apparently, if my chest is uncovered and the wind hits it, my milk will FREEZE IN MY CHEST. My mother went to tell about one woman this happened to, and how she ended up in the hospital with a severe infection. My MIL chimed in about how her aunt had her left breast cut in half because her milk was frozen solid in her breast.

I think I just smiled and nodded. I wore a sweater around them outside for a little bit, but gave up after awhile. It was too ridiculous.
hil.ar.i.ous!!!!!!!!!
post #258 of 1072
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Originally Posted by neverdoingitagain View Post
Speaking of nursing, my MIL and mother both ambushed me after I gave birth to tell me some horror stories about breastfeeding.
Not your usual fare either. both of them warned to make sure I wore a sweater AT ALL TIMES! Because apparently, if my chest is uncovered and the wind hits it, my milk will FREEZE IN MY CHEST. My mother went to tell about one woman this happened to, and how she ended up in the hospital with a severe infection. My MIL chimed in about how her aunt had her left breast cut in half because her milk was frozen solid in her breast.

I think I just smiled and nodded. I wore a sweater around them outside for a little bit, but gave up after awhile. It was too ridiculous.
Wow, you win the prize! That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard in my life!
post #259 of 1072
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Originally Posted by butterfly_mommy View Post
Ok so here is one from my loopy 89 year old grandmother who is obsessed with the fact that I am still nursing DS at 2 yrs 4 mons.

GM "I bet your the only mother who nursed this long"
If you really want to rock her world you could show her the news piece of youtube about the mom in the UK nursing her 8 year old.

Course that might not be the best way to make her think extended nursing is normal.
post #260 of 1072
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Originally Posted by AFWife View Post
That reminds me... When BIL2 was an infant he got sick and was put on antibiotics. He ended up getting thrush. When MIL took him to the hospital for it the nurses made her feel HORRIBLE about it and told her that he got thrush because SHE obviously didn't wash her hands after using the bathroom and didn't wash her breasts before and after nursing. Seriously? She figured out (on her own) later that it was the antibiotics and not her hygiene.
Oh, that is so sad!
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