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post #321 of 1072
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Originally Posted by smeisnotapirate View Post
I showed this picture of my son to a new woman at our temple - after repeatedly saying that I had a son. She says "OMG, your daughter is just lovely! Look at her hair!" Ooooohkay. Some people just don't pay attention, I think.
she thought that picture was of a girl????? he doesn't look girlish at all.
post #322 of 1072
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Originally Posted by Angelorum View Post
LOL. Adorable picture, though.

this is what my son was wearing that day at the library.
are these people nuts? he doesn't look girly either. LOL. i think the librarian and the lady at temple need new glasses...
post #323 of 1072
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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan View Post
: nope, those weren't "unspoiled" children either.

Here, let me find a picture of an "unspoiled" child for you...
here we are.
Where'd you find a picture of my "unspoiled" baby?! LOL
post #324 of 1072
DD and I go to a local 99 cent store about three times a week. I always have a brief conversation with the same male cashier about the weather or some other basic topic. The day before yesterday he asks me if DD is a boy or girl. I guess the pigtails and the fact that she had on so much pink she could have been a Pepto Bismol bottle didn't matter. And that we are in that store frequently. I told him a girl and his response? "She looks like a boy!" I asked him what a boy looks like and he shrugged his shoulders. I am going to assume he doesn't see very well.Even when DD is not in a pastel color she looks like a girl to me!
post #325 of 1072
The other day DS and I were at Baby Depot. I got up to the register to check out and DS was sitting in the cart, and I had a whole cart full of baby stuff. The cashier looked at me, and asked "Do you have kids?"

One of DP's co-workers has a son she brings into work. One time she was putting her DS into his bucket seat, and DP noticed the chest clip was shoved down as low as possible. He asked her if she knew the chest clip was supposed to be at chest level. She said she knew, but her DS has always been just fine with it like that. They also apparently bought the bucket seat used, and have never used a base with it, because it didn't come with one.

One of my co-workers bought a used car, that was well over 10 years old and came with a built in carseat. She kept telling me how great it was that the carseat was built into the car, and now she wouldn't have to worry about constantly moving and installing her grandson's carseat. I pointed out that the built in carseat was over 10 years old, and how safety standards have changed and it was unsafe to use, but she refused to listen.

The gender comments get old fast. Even when DS was dressed in head to toe blue people would still ask if he was a boy or a girl. I actually had one person tell me he was too pretty to be a boy and that it was a shame his big blue eyes and long eyelashes were wasted on a boy.
post #326 of 1072
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Originally Posted by boringscreenname View Post
He asked her if she knew the chest clip was supposed to be at chest level. She said she knew, but her DS has always been just fine with it like that.
*wince*

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it was a shame his big blue eyes and long eyelashes were wasted on a boy.
Have a feeling that his future girlfriends won't think that.

My husband has enormous brown eyes with long eyelashes, and they are not a bit wasted.
post #327 of 1072
In class the other day, we were working on individual projects. My teacher came up to the person next to me and said, "Hey, I know your son is about the same age as mine. Can I ask you something? Is he BAD?" (emphasis hers) The girl nodded emphatically and said, "Oh yes!" and they started talking about how defiant their kids are and what to do about it. Their kids are 18 months old. They're BABIES. They're not BAD.

To be fair, they did talk about using brief time-outs and natural consequences, but I was still sitting there cringing about the terminology used. I hate it when people refer to children as bad. Just because we don't like what they did doesn't make the person themselves bad!
post #328 of 1072
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Originally Posted by KristyDi View Post
I was at a playground w/ a good friend recently our dd's, both 21 months were hanging out and playing. We were chatting and her 6 month old dd was in her car seat watching everything.

The woman sitting next to us said many many dumb things in the 15 min we were there before she left. This was my favorite.

Several of the older kids, including this woman's daughter and an older toddler boy (maybe 3 or 4 years old) had come over and were playing with my friend's 6 month old. This was fine with my friend and the baby was happy. The woman's daughter said, "Look mama we're playing with baby!" the woman's brilliant response. . .

"Oh, he dosen't want to play with the baby! He's a BOY!"

I guess that despite the fact that this little boy was in fact playing with a baby and smiling and laughing, that boys never never like babies.
I have a friend with six children. As SOON as I get both of my kids out of the car, her 12-year-old son comes and kidnaps my one-year-old. I don't have to do anything but change him for 90% of the time we're at their house!!
post #329 of 1072
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Originally Posted by minkajane View Post
In class the other day, we were working on individual projects. My teacher came up to the person next to me and said, "Hey, I know your son is about the same age as mine. Can I ask you something? Is he BAD?" (emphasis hers) The girl nodded emphatically and said, "Oh yes!" and they started talking about how defiant their kids are and what to do about it. Their kids are 18 months old. They're BABIES. They're not BAD.

To be fair, they did talk about using brief time-outs and natural consequences, but I was still sitting there cringing about the terminology used. I hate it when people refer to children as bad. Just because we don't like what they did doesn't make the person themselves bad!
When DS was just a few months old we went to a party with my mom & everyone was asking me, "Is he a good baby?" and I always smiled & said yes. My mom whipped around & said, "Don't say that!! He's not a good baby at all! Tell them what he's really like!" To be fair, he was (is) very very high needs but to say he's not "good", that he's "bad" when he's only a few months old?
post #330 of 1072
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Originally Posted by Stephenie View Post
Oh my goodness I think we have the same MIL.
My MIL will get out some stickers and a notebook and make my ds put one sticker per page. "No no, we can't put two stickers on the same page..." Or the last time we were there she wanted him to "finish" a page in the coloring book. "I won't put it on the fridge unless you finish it." As if he cared. He just flipped to the next page, scribbled a bit and the same fight started over. I always want to scream "Quit micromanaging my toddler!" at her. Thankfully we now live 2500 miles away. haha.
That sounds like my aunt. She and my uncle don't have any children (thank goodness). We were at my grandmothers house and my ODS was eating chocolate pudding, some of which got on the tablecloth. She FREAKED out, even though my gma didn't care at all-every time his fingers got near the table she would go "look out! he's going to get it on the table!!"
post #331 of 1072
Just had another fun comment. A labor and delivery nurse just told me the reason babies sleep for 12 hours after being circ'd is because the sugar paci they give them makes their brain think they've eaten. Riiiiight. It's not because they're in shock from being stapped to a board and having their genitals hacked at. I actually said that to her (in a nicer way) and she just laughed and shrugged.
post #332 of 1072
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Originally Posted by minkajane View Post
Just had another fun comment. A labor and delivery nurse just told me the reason babies sleep for 12 hours after being circ'd is because the sugar paci they give them makes their brain think they've eaten. Riiiiight. It's not because they're in shock from being stapped to a board and having their genitals hacked at. I actually said that to her (in a nicer way) and she just laughed and shrugged.
I know my newborn always slept 12 hours after eating In the hospital I was lucky if she slept 30 min. Somehow I doubt a sugar paci would have helped.
post #333 of 1072
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Originally Posted by minkajane View Post
Just had another fun comment. A labor and delivery nurse just told me the reason babies sleep for 12 hours after being circ'd is because the sugar paci they give them makes their brain think they've eaten. Riiiiight. It's not because they're in shock from being stapped to a board and having their genitals hacked at. I actually said that to her (in a nicer way) and she just laughed and shrugged.
Shouldn't one be worried if an infant sleeps that long after ingesting straight sugar??
post #334 of 1072
ive been given a swing... the woman who gave it to me said its great, the swing rocks them and plays music to them, then the seat un clips from the frame and lies back so they can drink their bottle and you dont need to pick the baby up.....
post #335 of 1072
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Originally Posted by BarefootScientist View Post
WOW. That is just unbelievable.

Although it does make me want to go get my DS a Asian baby doll to see what type of reactions I get...then again maybe i don't want to know.
two comments....that only happens whenn its a white kid with a nonwhite doll. no one ever said anything to me (a liitle brown girl) about my white doll babies. I didn't get my first black baby til I was older...I guess they were still a novelty 20-odd years ago.

secondly and I swear I won't hold it against him because he honestly didn't know better but while I was at work dd's dad was trying to soothe her, and she didn't want the paci (she's never taken it really) so he tried to get her to suck on it by dipping it in PEANUT BUTTER. oy. we had a looong conversation about what two month old babies can and cannot ingest.
post #336 of 1072
My DH(who by now should know about BFing) brought this up-

DH: Are you having supply issues?
Me: No, why?
DH: Your boobs look smaller

They are smaller because I have stopped pumping for a freezer stash. While I was building the stash I would get engorged if I didn't nurse/pump often.
post #337 of 1072
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Originally Posted by Raine822 View Post
My DH(who by now should know about BFing) brought this up-

DH: Are you having supply issues?
Me: No, why?
DH: Your boobs look smaller

They are smaller because I have stopped pumping for a freezer stash. While I was building the stash I would get engorged if I didn't nurse/pump often.
(I really did this just now. I admit I was giggling a little though, because (unfortunately) that sounds just like what many men would say.)
post #338 of 1072
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Originally Posted by boringscreenname View Post

One of DP's co-workers has a son she brings into work. One time she was putting her DS into his bucket seat, and DP noticed the chest clip was shoved down as low as possible. He asked her if she knew the chest clip was supposed to be at chest level. She said she knew, but her DS has always been just fine with it like that. They also apparently bought the bucket seat used, and have never used a base with it, because it didn't come with one.
I had an acquaintance who put her son in the bucket seat with the chest clip down on his belly, and the straps so loose that if he squirmed they slid off of his shoulders . I already disagreed with a lot of her parenting, but held my tongue. When I saw that I just couldn't keep quiet. I gently pointed out how the straps need to fit, and she says "oh, its uncomfortable for him if its too tight" . Last I heard the child (who has miraculously survived to age 3) is living with grandparents.
post #339 of 1072
I have very 'spirited' toddlers, one with high functioning Autism who I swear has a stash of speed hidden in his room. My parents constantly tell me that their children (4 of us) never did anything like what mine do. My father informed me this morning that the reason my kids are the way they are is because I don't spank, and I would "reap what I sow", even after I informed him that it was our parenting decision and the Dr said not to. Right like it worked so much better for them, only one of my siblings speaks to them.
post #340 of 1072
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Originally Posted by isign View Post
I have very 'spirited' toddlers, one with high functioning Autism who I swear has a stash of speed hidden in his room. My parents constantly tell me that their children (4 of us) never did anything like what mine do. My father informed me this morning that the reason my kids are the way they are is because I don't spank, and I would "reap what I sow", even after I informed him that it was our parenting decision and the Dr said not to. Right like it worked so much better for them, only one of my siblings speaks to them.
OT but the bolded reminded me of a family story my dad tells.

My mom was having some problem with me when I was a a kid and called her mom for advice. Several minutes later she hung up the phone rather forcefully and exclaimed "Either we were the world's most perfect children or my mother has a terrible memory! All she ever says is, "I don't think any of you ever did that" when I ask a question!"
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