What is the worst/dumbest thing anyone has ever said to you about parenting stuff? V - Page 5

[butterfly_mommy]

Originally Posted by PatienceAndLove

No- it's not.
But we do have ppl ask for whipped cream for their dogs...?

Really? That is crazy! No one at our Starbucks has ever offered any child I have been with anything.

Once when we were at the grocery store and DS (who was about 16 mons or so) was in the stroller he wanted to go and I was just finishing up paying. He was having a bit of a melt down so the cashier gives him (without asking me) a chocolate ball Luckily it was wrapped in a coloured wrapper and he didn't know what chocolate was so he just said "ball" and threw it

[luckysgirl]

DH and I took DS to see a show recently. After it was over we walked around for a little while, DS singing the songs to himself the entire time. After a quick trip to the park, we stopped by a little cafe to ostensibly get something to drink for the walk home, but really just to help make it his day a little bit more.

While we were waiting for our smoothies DS was singing yet another of the songs and chattering away about his favorite parts of the show, when a well-dressed woman in her mid-thirties walks up to us and says "You know, little boy, if you don't don't find other things to be interested in you're going to grow up to be very lonely."

I'm not a confrontational person, but it took all I had not to say, "It sounds like loneliness is something you know a lot about."

[Storm Bride]

Originally Posted by InMediasRes

I don't get the big deal about teeth. I've had a lot of comments from people who seem to think it's sad when kids teethe late. My DS got his first at 11mo, and DD just got hers at almost 10mo.

I mean, I guess if I was going to give my 6mo pistachios or something... otherwise, I don't think they're really deprived.

I'm late reading this thread, so I only just read this.

I don't get the big deal about teeth, either. Honestly, dd2 is my last, and she got her first tooth a day after she turned 6 months old. I was kind of sad - not really, really sad, but a little bit - because she's growing up so quickly. I love her goofy little baby grin, and it's just not the same once they're teeth start to show. However, she's the Happiest Baby in the Universe (so much happier than any of my others!), and I'm sure her smile will be adorable, anyway...I just miss the toothlessness.

[Storm Bride]

Originally Posted by AFWife

Another from this weekend: (same guy actually)

*me changing DS's diaper*
D: Is that...
Me: Cloth diapers, yep.
D: Isnt' that expensive?
DH: Well, only at first but after the initial investment...
D: Oh, you wash them???
Me and DH: *pause and look at each other* yes...


I wanted to say, "Hell no, we're rolling in money and just throw them away after each pee!"

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I'm going to remember this post whenever I feel down, tired or whatever. Holy crap!

[Storm Bride]

Originally Posted by joynsyde

One time, one of the great-aunts, or someone I can't remember the exact relation, told us the story of her daughter who nursed her baby until he turned 1 year old, and afterward, her breasts "completely disappeared."
I couldn't help laughing, though I tried my hardest not to!

It may have happened. I've known a couple of women who pretty much completely lost their breasts after pregnancy/breastfeeding. (I've also known a couple who went up a cup size, though.) I don't think it has anything to do with how long the baby breastfeeds, though.

[Storm Bride]

Originally Posted by fyrwmn

one of the charming dr's we saw while trying to have baby #2 (and going thru all our losses) actually told me after the 3rd miscarriage that it was my fault because i was still nursing my then 2 yr old. i couldn't believe that because they didn't know what caused it she woul dstoop to blaming me. we RAN from that practice after that!!!

GRRR...I've had 3 miscarriages and I wasn't nursing. I've also nursed through the better part of two pregnancies. One of those did end in a stillbirth, but as that was after I weaned ds2 (yes - I weaned him - it hurt like *** to nurse that last couple of months, and I just couldn't do it, anymore), and after a long labour, I really don't think breastfeeding had anything to do with it, yk?

I had medical checkups and stuff. I had people suggest my diet (too many carrots!), my activity level (walked about 4-5 hours a week, plus aerobics, plus yoga, plus weights...to sedentary, obviously), and everything else under the sun. The one thing that was never suggested as contributory was my revious c-section. Funny how they're ready to blame me, but not themselves.

Someimtes, s**t happens. People need to get over their need to blame someone for everything.

[heidirk]

Originally Posted by itsmyturn

My 3yo son has a major temper. The littlest thing will set him off. We have been working on proper outlets for him to express his anger for the last year.

Ne ways over Christmas break when I told my son it was time to go. He sat down crossed his arms, growled, and said that he was mad because he did not want to go.
I was happy He expressed his anger without throwing, stomping, or yelling.

My hubands grandmother stated that is sounded like my son needed a few more spankings.
How exaclty is spanking a kid who needs to learn anger management and impulse control, going to benifit from being spanked? Is it magically going to make him feel less mad if I spank him?

It won't. You had a right to be proud of your son!

[twead]

I had had a miscarriage over the weekend and the birth center wanted me to come in that next morning. I had called the insurance on my way to the apt to make sure I didn't need a preauthorization or something. They said I didn't. So, when the bill came and they refused to pay I called. The lady on the phone told me I should have called in advance and schedule my appointment better. WTF? I politely told her the next time I was gonna have a miscarriage I would definitely call the insurance carrier to make sure it was convenient for them!

[AspieMom]

I was at a friend's baby shower the other day, the auntie-to-be came up and wanted to hold my son (9mo) and was telling me that she needs to learn about babies, that she doesn't know anything. At one point I we were talking and she asked "So, does he eat?"

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by twead

I had had a miscarriage over the weekend and the birth center wanted me to come in that next morning. I had called the insurance on my way to the apt to make sure I didn't need a preauthorization or something. They said I didn't. So, when the bill came and they refused to pay I called. The lady on the phone told me I should have called in advance and schedule my appointment better. WTF? I politely told her the next time I was gonna have a miscarriage I would definitely call the insurance carrier to make sure it was convenient for them!

WTF? You did call in advance.

[Cherry Alive]

Originally Posted by AFWife

He also told me that if I fed him solids he'd get teeth sooner (we're 8 months with no teeth)

Tell that to my DD. She got her first teeth at 2.5 months. When we started her on solids at 6 months (which she LOVED), she already had 8. Despite eating dinner with us every night, she didn't break any new teeth for 4 more months.

[lrgs]

Originally Posted by hibiscus mum

It's been a rough time so far with DS since he's such a different baby compared to DD. I don't know if he'd be classified as "high-needs" but he's definitely needier than DD was as a baby. At Christmas dinner, I gave DS some turkey and he was thoroughly enjoying it. My MIL said to him, "You're so much happier now that you're eating REAL FOOD, aren't you?"

I was like, "As opposed to the fake stuff coming out of my breasts?"

I don't think she meant to hurt my feelings, but it did sting a bit. Probably because it's true - he does seem happier these days.

I had a simillar issue with my family. Our first 2 months with DD were rough, she screamed pretty much non-stop and it was so stressful. My family used to say she was hungry...........she went form 9 pounds to 14 pounds in 2 months so I know she was getting a enough milk. Anyway, somewhere around 2 months something happened and she became much more content. Then again around 5 months she became constantly fussy, stopped STTN (we just thought sleep regression)....around 6 months we figured out I had a supply issue and she wasn't getting enough...she hadn't gained any weight in 2 months. Once we got that sorted out she went right back to being a happy baby. To this day my family says "Everything was fine with DD once you actually started feeding her".............implying I'd basically been starving my daughter for 6 months...when I know she was perfectly fine for the first 5 months (actually quite chunky). It still bugs me to this day!!!


On the OT.............I really don't agree that 100% fruit juice (without added sugar or sweetner) is the same or worse then pop. There is a huge difference between 100% fruit juice and flavored sugar water. We're mostly water drinkers but the odd glass of juice is not going to hurt us. Even Dr. Sears says there's nothing wrong with 100% fruit juice as a treat.

[lrgs]

Originally Posted by CorasMama

Last night, in a chat with some of my friends, 3 of them decided to brainstorm "what Kate did wrong to cause her baby's omphalocele". The consensus was that it was either daring to get pregnant after 30 or the medications I used to take but stopped in plenty of time before ttc. Neither have any demonstrated correlation (they've been studied) to this particular defect, but that didn't stop them from jumping on the "blame the mother" bandwagon. I was very proud of my restraint, though a friend suggested I should stop taking the zofran for situations like this (she called it defensive vomiting, ).

That's horrible...........I can't believe they said that.

[smeisnotapirate]

When I was miscarrying and in the ER for bleeding, the OB was grilling me about all these things - what are you eating, how active are you, when was your last pregnancy, etc. Here was her list of things I *should* have done to PREVENT my miscarriage:

1. You need to stop running around after that toddler. Aren't you aware that there's something wrong?
2. Stop eating kefir (after I explained what it was). It's obviously poisoning you.
3. Stop nursing your 12mo. It makes your uterus contract, and it's probably what's causing you to miscarry.

When I told her the vitamins I was taking (Rainbow Light prenatal, B-complex, vit D), she gave this dismissive wave and said "Just go to CVS and pick up a normal prenatal with iron. Anything else could be hurting this baby."

I remember laughing hysterically when I got home. I needed the comic relief at that point in my life. But thinking back, I'm thinking - wow. What if I didn't know better??

[nudhistbudhist]

smeisnotapirate-wow! brutal. Good thing you know better. I'm sorry for your loss.

I gave birth two weeks ago so i have hormone brain, bear with me :P

Someone posted on MDC that so-and-so was looking to do an interview with a lotus-birther. I contacted the person and did the interview last week. It was a guy doing the interview, which I thought was pretty brave (he didnt really know what he was getting himself into interviewing ME of all people lol). The lady that was putting it all together hired him to shoot it. Anyways... I will share some of interview, not word for word, but pretty darn close:

Him:They want me to shoot some footage of you watching your birth video. Is that ok?

Me: Yup. Let me put it on my computer. (I put it on.)

Him: (Videoing me watching it.)

Me:This parts awesome... Her head is all the way out, and I thought her body would just slide out on the next push, but she was pretty big and she was pretty stuck. The midwife had to give her a good tug while I was pushing.

Him: Umm... do you have any footage thats not adult-oriented?

Me:No way, man. It's birth!

Him: OK, we'll just film it and they can edit what they want.

scratch What did he think a "birth video" looked like?

Oh, and the other time he almost fainted...

Him: Was there anything in particular that you had to consider before making your decision about Lotus birth?

Me: The major thing for me was that I was weighing the benefits of a peaceful gentle birth for my baby verses the postpartum benefits for me from eating her placenta. Lucky for me, I had DS's placenta in the freezer from his birth, so I could have my lotus birth and eat it too.

Him:

[claddaghmom]

The nursing during pregnancy comments are starting to trickle in...


"You can't nurse during pregnancy; your body will choose one or the other!"

"If you continue to nurse, the kids will have rivalry between them!"

"Your body can't be making milk anymore" (Me: yes, I can see and hear her drinking) "Well then it's just watery stuff now"

In regards to her seeing a stranger and running towards me: "You just need to leave her w/ a babysitter for a few days so she figures it out" (what is IT??)

[boringscreenname]

This wasn't really a stupid comment or anything but a sort of strange encounter. A couple weeks ago, DP, DS and I were checking out in a store. There was an employee on break behind us, it looked like she was getting ready to pay for a meal.

Anyway she tells DP, that she was looking for a sucker to buy for DS, but couldn't find any. DP said, "Thanks for offering, but that's ok, he's still too young for suckers." So she offered to give him the York Peppermint Patty, she was going to buy for herself. DP told her "Thanks, but no thanks, we don't want him to have so much chocolate and sugar since it's getting close to bed time." I don't think DS would have liked a York Peppermint Patty anyway, since they have a rather strong taste to them.

Anyway that was our first experience with a random stranger offering our child candy.

[Comtessa]

We had a bank teller offer DD a lollipop when she was 5 months old. I didn't say anything - I figured I'd just eat it on the way home - but DH, trying to be polite, unwrapped it right there and offered DD a taste!



Then later he had the nerve to ask if I recorded "DD's first food" in her baby book!!!

[minkajane]

A young woman came into my maternity store today to buy a nursing bra. I got to talking to her and asked if she had gone to any breastfeeding classes. She said, "No, my family said not to because my mom nursed her kids for a few months each, so she'd be all I need!"

I kept talking with her and she was CLUELESS about BFing. Thankfully, I was able to answer some questions she had and give her some good advice to get started.

This sort of thing happens on a regular basis. The other day I had a girl come in for a nursing shirt in case her baby wouldn't take a bottle around her family when they met her. I ended up talking with her for a good half hour, explaining nipple confusion (and demonstrating with a pop bottle ) and the supply and demand of BFing, as well as getting her thinking about why people hide to feed their babies one way but not another. She did end up picking up a nursing shirt and bra and left with no plans for bottles!

[bezark]

Originally Posted by minkajane

A young woman came into my maternity store today to buy a nursing bra. I got to talking to her and asked if she had gone to any breastfeeding classes. She said, "No, my family said not to because my mom nursed her kids for a few months each, so she'd be all I need!"

I kept talking with her and she was CLUELESS about BFing. Thankfully, I was able to answer some questions she had and give her some good advice to get started.

This sort of thing happens on a regular basis. The other day I had a girl come in for a nursing shirt in case her baby wouldn't take a bottle around her family when they met her. I ended up talking with her for a good half hour, explaining nipple confusion (and demonstrating with a pop bottle ) and the supply and demand of BFing, as well as getting her thinking about why people hide to feed their babies one way but not another. She did end up picking up a nursing shirt and bra and left with no plans for bottles!

That's awesome! I wish someone would have knocked some sense into me like that.
We're still going strong with no end in sight at 10 months, but I really did very little research on BFing before DS arrived. I assumed that something so natural would come naturally to us.
Fortunately, I had access to a great LC.