What is the worst/dumbest thing anyone has ever said to you about parenting stuff? V - Page 42

[PatienceAndLove]

Originally Posted by Smokering 

She'll have the most toned uterus of any toddler ever. :p

I think that is the funniest thing you have ever said

[beccamama31]

My mother/ whom I don't get along with

has told my kids how red bull is good for them// and has fed it to them behind my back :(

,, and that it has vitamins that will help them stay strong and healthy. We no longer speak much.. It still infuriates DH and I to this day,, and she apparently got through to them because any time we're in a store they always ask if they can get red bull and that it's healthy... rolling my eyes LOL

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by beccamama31 

My mother/ whom I don't get along with

has told my kids how red bull is good for them// and has fed it to them behind my back :(

,, and that it has vitamins that will help them stay strong and healthy. We no longer speak much.. It still infuriates DH and I to this day,, and she apparently got through to them because any time we're in a store they always ask if they can get red bull and that it's healthy... rolling my eyes LOL

...Red Bull isn't healthy for ADULTS. That's insane.
 

[hasya]

Tea makes ME bounce off walls, and I am certainly not serving it to DD! I don't know if pester power will win, but not willingly...

[PatienceAndLove]

I will soon be announcing my pregnancy to my family. I am sure there will be some interesting things that I shall contribute to this thread.

[SquidMommy]

DP and I were at the grocery store with DS tonight, picking up stuff for dinner. DS was being his usual squeaky, goofy, smiley self, which made more than a few people stop and comment on how adorable he is. No harm, no foul - til a woman walked right up to the cart, leaned WAY too close in to him, and asked him, "Is mommy getting you milk? And cookies and ice cream?"

Dude. My son is THREE MONTHS OLD. The milk notwithstanding, I guarantee you, I am not picking up a pint of Ben and Jerry's to cram into his pudgy little maw. Oreos were not on the shopping list, either.

It was reflexive, but I said, "Absolutely not." Probably should have kept my mouth shut, because the woman glared daggers at me and marched out of the aisle like I said I was about to leave my kid in a produce cooler and call it a day. I guess I'm depriving my baby...of trans fats?

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by SquidMommy 

DP and I were at the grocery store with DS tonight, picking up stuff for dinner. DS was being his usual squeaky, goofy, smiley self, which made more than a few people stop and comment on how adorable he is. No harm, no foul - til a woman walked right up to the cart, leaned WAY too close in to him, and asked him, "Is mommy getting you milk? And cookies and ice cream?"

Dude. My son is THREE MONTHS OLD. The milk notwithstanding, I guarantee you, I am not picking up a pint of Ben and Jerry's to cram into his pudgy little maw. Oreos were not on the shopping list, either.

It was reflexive, but I said, "Absolutely not." Probably should have kept my mouth shut, because the woman glared daggers at me and marched out of the aisle like I said I was about to leave my kid in a produce cooler and call it a day. I guess I'm depriving my baby...of trans fats?

She may have been joking...but I totally feel ya there. We went to a bday party when DS1 was around 6mo. One of the grandmas came up and asked, "Did Mommy give you some frosting?" Uhm, No... 1) He's 6mo 2)He has a dairy intolerance so *I* didn't even have any frosting. The best part was that when I politely said, "nope" she laughed and said, "Aww, well maybe next time."

Yeah...

[Amatullah0]

I'm pretty sure DS was about 6mo when someone(young, childless friend) thought it would be fine to give DS frosting(no intolerances, but IMO, frosting is gross, especially for a 6 mo!)

[Kelly1101]

I don't even have to eat like a "crunchy" person (with organic no preservative etc etc) to know that you don't give frosting to a 6 month old.  It's just pure sugar!  Doesn't EVERYONE know you don't give sugar to babies?  Before I had kids I never babysat or anything... but I *STILL* knew that you don't give a baby sugar.  Holy crispy crap.

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by Smokering 

My three-year-old is currently infatuated with my "Third Trimester Tea". Which is vile. It has dandelion, nettles, raspberry leaf, spearmint... burdock? Plenty of weird stuff, anyway. I chug a cup a day out of a vague sense of duty to the unborn, but I find it most unpleasant. DD, on the other hand, can't get enough. I do sweeten it with honey, but not enough to make it appealing to a preschooler... you would think! She'll have the most toned uterus of any toddler ever. :p

Lol.

And my dd declined the fruity herbal infusion I sweetened with honey and lemon juice to soothe my sore throat in favor of asking for the "green hot tea!"

[shnitzel]

Originally Posted by Kelly1101 

I don't even have to eat like a "crunchy" person (with organic no preservative etc etc) to know that you don't give frosting to a 6 month old.  It's just pure sugar!  Doesn't EVERYONE know you don't give sugar to babies?  Before I had kids I never babysat or anything... but I *STILL* knew that you don't give a baby sugar.  Holy crispy crap.

I saw someone I kind of know feeding her six month old jam off her finger at a restaurant, the type full of HFCS. Ich. Guess it has fruit?

[Amatullah0]

Originally Posted by shnitzel 

I saw someone I kind of know feeding her six month old jam off her finger at a restaurant, the type full of HFCS. Ich. Guess it has fruit?

maybe... LOL

but it honestly could have been me. Not that I would open up a new packet of jam to feed baby, but if I had a smear of it on my finger, and baby was eating solids, and I didn't know or care about "the evils of HFCS" aka "the evils of refined sugar" I would probably do that with no thought to it. 

now, feeding a whole package of jam to the baby? thats probably something my mom would do. I cringed when she gave DS cranberry sauce at thanksgiving (at 16mo old)

[crunchy_mommy]

Originally Posted by Amatullah0 

maybe... LOL

but it honestly could have been me. Not that I would open up a new packet of jam to feed baby, but if I had a smear of it on my finger, and baby was eating solids, and I didn't know or care about "the evils of HFCS" aka "the evils of refined sugar" I would probably do that with no thought to it. 

now, feeding a whole package of jam to the baby? thats probably something my mom would do. I cringed when she gave DS cranberry sauce at thanksgiving (at 16mo old)

This reminds me of my FIL feeding my nephew (who must've been about 6mos old at the time?) We were all having Chinese take-out and FIL kept dipping bread in soy sauce -- SOAKING it in soy sauce, actually -- to give to DN. I was just very, very thankful that my 1yo DS was at the other end of the table happily munching on my steamed veggies & tofu.... (well, FIL is actually great about asking if DS can have stuff... but let's not tempt him )

[swd12422]

Originally Posted by SquidMommy 

DP and I were at the grocery store with DS tonight, picking up stuff for dinner. DS was being his usual squeaky, goofy, smiley self, which made more than a few people stop and comment on how adorable he is. No harm, no foul - til a woman walked right up to the cart, leaned WAY too close in to him, and asked him, "Is mommy getting you milk? And cookies and ice cream?"

Dude. My son is THREE MONTHS OLD. The milk notwithstanding, I guarantee you, I am not picking up a pint of Ben and Jerry's to cram into his pudgy little maw. Oreos were not on the shopping list, either.

It was reflexive, but I said, "Absolutely not." Probably should have kept my mouth shut, because the woman glared daggers at me and marched out of the aisle like I said I was about to leave my kid in a produce cooler and call it a day. I guess I'm depriving my baby...of trans fats?

This reminds me of a time I had DS at Target. He has always been very good out at stores, and was sitting quietly in the cart holding a piece of dried fruit. A lady came past, smiled, and said, "Oh, no WONDER you're being so good -- Mommy gave you a cookie! Is that a good cookie?" I said, "He always this good, and it's NOT a cookie. It's FRUIT." I was so annoyed that anyone would assume a kid is only behaving b/c they have a cookie! Then she said, "Oh, you're such a GOOD mother, giving him fruit!" I just walked away. I really wanted to say something like yeah, I'm a terrific mom, I give him fruit and only beat him when he needs it. But I didn't want to continue the conversation with her...

[treeoflife3]

Although I have to say... my kid behaves better in the grocery store knowing she'll get a cookie half way through since they hand out free cookies for kids.  They are probably filled with about a million things I'd never buy or let her eat otherwise but it gets me through the trip like nothing else ever worked for us.

[Honey693]

Originally Posted by treeoflife3 

Although I have to say... my kid behaves better in the grocery store knowing she'll get a cookie half way through since they hand out free cookies for kids.  They are probably filled with about a million things I'd never buy or let her eat otherwise but it gets me through the trip like nothing else ever worked for us.

We do this and i steal bites

[treeoflife3]

Originally Posted by Honey693 

We do this and i steal bites

I don't because I think they taste yucky haha but a simple 'remember, if you are patient, you'll get a cookie over there' is all I need to do now to keep her from screaming to amuse herself since helping me gets boring really fast apparently.  No other treats of any type ever worked like the special cookie at the store that she otherwise never gets.  I can't not bring her with me and I can't shop with her screaming.  It works... she stays quiet and I get my shopping done without stress.

[Irishmommy]

Originally Posted by Honey693 

We do this and i steal bites

Both kids were GF for a couple of years (we're trialing food now). They would get the free cookie for me.

[swd12422]

Oh, believe me, I'm not at all opposed to a little bribery to get through the day. I know lots of kids just don't like the grocery store and it's a chore. But my kid was always the opposite: great while out and a terror at home, and it just rubbed me the wrong way that that lady assumed that every kid his age needs to be bribed to be quiet at the store.

[hasya]

Oh yes, that, about quiet babies! DD is the same, swd! I have had people tell me that I am depriving DD of the "good stuff" when I refused juice or cookies or some such for her.

I have one - from a very dear friend, actually, and she stopped as soon as I told her to, but it is actually something I used to hear from many people, growing up.

I was siphoning DD's nose (she's teething and mucousy everywhere) when DH was out of town. My friend was helping me by holding her down for it. DH manages to do it by himself. No idea how. But I can't. Right on cue, she began screaming. My friend can be quite strong in the face of shrieking (she doesn't have children yet), but made me stop because it became too much for her. I stood up to wash up, and my friend starting cooing, "Bad mommy". I stopped her from saying that. I don't want DD learning to blame others for her problems.

Similarly-

A child would fall and the parents/adult caretaker(s) go and start beating up the ground to pacify the child. Agreed that the parents aren't trying to send any message beyond "Here's a distraction", but I think that it makes children learn to blame others for their own mistakes. I stopped DH from doing this the other day. I choose to hold her and let her cry while I wipe her tears or kiss her or ask if she's in pain or is frightened (not that she understands; she turns 1 in less than 2 hours!!!). Only after a few minutes do I get up and walk over to some place interesting. I don't push it, though. If she gets interested and stops crying, great! This usually works, or some more holding and a new interesting place helps.