Originally Posted by jenrose
"Difficult births are caused by psychological blockage and a lack of faith in the process."
If only my HOMEBIRTH MIDWIVES hadn't started this sort of debate with me while I was in labor. The one who was there (the one I disliked, of course, and who disliked my husband from the MOMENT she met him, since she wasn't expecting him to be in the darkened corridor as he came out of the bathroom in their offices) tried to stage some sort of intervention, sure that I had indeed been sexually abused as a child and that's why things were going so slowly. No one, and I'm including the OB on call much much later, thought to check his position. We realized after he was earthside (after the midwife basically DID molest me and subject me to a whole lot of nonsense and borderline abuse, and after major abdominal surgery nearly against my will) that he was posterior AND in a superman pose with at least one hand up at his face. NO ONE noticed this. (sadly, I kept having a fantasy of lying down on an ironing board and having hubby lift me at the foot end, to sort of "re-start" things...and of cousre that actually probably could have helped quite nicely, if I'd been able to verbalize it).
They just couldn't figure out that ONE half of the "labor" was prodromal and we were only "calling" it labor because the Washington state gestational period clock had dinged days ago (regardless of the genetics of DH himself being a 44 week baby), they didn't even know what "prodromal" was, it seems, and TWO he was in an awful position. My level of back and hip pain was pretty high (as I'm sure yours was!) but it scared the Hades out of them, and they could not figure out how to HELP ME get through it. So they threw in the towel (and told me they were leaving me if I didn't do what they told me to do, isn't that fun?) and tossed me to the wolves. And were surprised when I told them to get the Hades out of there once they got me to the place where they keep the scalpels...
I am SO GLAD that you knew what was happening and knew you could do it! You are my brand new hero, and if the universe gives me another chance at this whole thing (I'm getting older and DS is 7 and we've been trying since he was 9 months old, and I'm not seeing high chances here) I'm going to keep you in mind!!!!! (and follow any weird ironing board/positioning fantasies that come to mind)
Originally Posted by hasya
I agree about teasing. But I think that teasing at home, between siblings is good, if they know the limits. I have some fond memories of being teased and laugh over them.
My least favorite part of having siblings is the teasing.
I just don't get the parenting stuff anymore, with a 7 year old who is tall and healthy and happy and active, and smart "despite being homeschooled," and social with everyone "despite being homeschooled," and all the rest. Of course, no one knows we don't vax, and the friends who were so anti-cloth diapering never once asked me if I'd gone to disposables, and no one knows how long DS nursed (last time I said "OK" was before he turned 7, but I can feel that I could probably still nurse a determined child if asked to right now so milk definitely doesn't just go away, at least with me).... So I feel kinda free.
Oh wait, I do get homeschooling stuff from my MIL, who things we're doing irreparable damage to DS. She ruins the alone-time she has gotten to spend with him (not much, since she has tried to undermine us from when he was a month old or so) by *quizzing* him. By, say, asking him to read the subtitles on movies they are supposed to be happily watching (he's on the older side of learning to read, just like his father), and when she quizzed him with math she wouldn't let him use his fingers at all. I know that not ALL 2nd graders use fingers, but I know that some of them do, and there's nothing wrong with it at all.