I don't know if this belongs in the pregnancy forum or WOH forum or what, so....yeah.
There is a little boy in my class (I teach preschool) who is very aggressive towards me. I have spoken with the directors about it numerous times, and all of his inappropriate/aggressive behavior has been overlooked basically ebcause they want the tuition. Today he kicked me in the stomach hard enough that I felt nauseous. Not long after that he punched me in the stomach. Other staff saw it both times, but nothing was done about it other than a mild reprimand to the child. This is nowheres close to the first time it has happened (to me and other staff) and I have figured out that my choices are to deal with him kicking me (if I get too close) or get another job. After today I am really thinking about whether that job is worth the risk to my unborn baby.
I'm looking at other job options, but the problem is that my 2yo ds goes to the center with me, and has totally bonded with his teachers and classmates. He cries at drop-off time (he is in a different room than me) but that's it. I check on him during the day and he is always happy. His teachers are great people. As far as the center itself, it's not what I would have picked for him (there is no playground equipment, the toys are all plastic and very junky, and there are only maybe 2 bins of toys for all 15 kids). I would like him to be in a less chaotic, more structured setting as well. But when I got hired I needed a job badly and this was the only place I could work and still have ds in daycare, for free.
He has been through a lot of change and instability over the last year, and in the next few months we are looking at several more big changes...the baby's dad and I are working things out and will eventually move in together, ds and I will be moving to a new home either alone or with him, he's getting a sibling, and we are having a lot of behavior even now because of the stress of our current living situation.
If I change jobs now, he will have to leave the center because the logistics of getting him there every day on the bus, and still getting to work anywhere else would be impossible. I will have to either:
A) put him in a new daycare/preschool close to my new job, until the baby is born, when he will have to either stop going altogether ro only go a couple mornings a week if we can afford it (because I only get free daycare as long as I'm working, so while I'm out with the new baby, ds won't qualify for daycare)
B) take him out of this center and juggle him between 3-4 different caregivers (all of whom he knows and likes, but he wouldn't have any kind of decent schedule)
All 4 caregiver options already have to work, and with their varying schedules and transportation issues, ds wouldn't even be able to regularly attend a class (like rec center gymnastics or swimming or something). He enjoys the socialization and I feel like he really needs to be in a structured setting right now, at least PT.
So, what would you do? I'm worried about my unborn baby but I'm also worried about how hard it would be for ds for me to pull him out, and put him somewhere else for 3 months, and then have to pull him out again when dd is born? I will be home with dd for at least 6 weeks, but we are hoping for 3-4 months, with me going back to work in September and ds (hopefully) starting public preschool at the same time.
I guess this is the first time I have to choose which of my kids comes first...
There is a little boy in my class (I teach preschool) who is very aggressive towards me. I have spoken with the directors about it numerous times, and all of his inappropriate/aggressive behavior has been overlooked basically ebcause they want the tuition. Today he kicked me in the stomach hard enough that I felt nauseous. Not long after that he punched me in the stomach. Other staff saw it both times, but nothing was done about it other than a mild reprimand to the child. This is nowheres close to the first time it has happened (to me and other staff) and I have figured out that my choices are to deal with him kicking me (if I get too close) or get another job. After today I am really thinking about whether that job is worth the risk to my unborn baby.
I'm looking at other job options, but the problem is that my 2yo ds goes to the center with me, and has totally bonded with his teachers and classmates. He cries at drop-off time (he is in a different room than me) but that's it. I check on him during the day and he is always happy. His teachers are great people. As far as the center itself, it's not what I would have picked for him (there is no playground equipment, the toys are all plastic and very junky, and there are only maybe 2 bins of toys for all 15 kids). I would like him to be in a less chaotic, more structured setting as well. But when I got hired I needed a job badly and this was the only place I could work and still have ds in daycare, for free.
He has been through a lot of change and instability over the last year, and in the next few months we are looking at several more big changes...the baby's dad and I are working things out and will eventually move in together, ds and I will be moving to a new home either alone or with him, he's getting a sibling, and we are having a lot of behavior even now because of the stress of our current living situation.
If I change jobs now, he will have to leave the center because the logistics of getting him there every day on the bus, and still getting to work anywhere else would be impossible. I will have to either:
A) put him in a new daycare/preschool close to my new job, until the baby is born, when he will have to either stop going altogether ro only go a couple mornings a week if we can afford it (because I only get free daycare as long as I'm working, so while I'm out with the new baby, ds won't qualify for daycare)
B) take him out of this center and juggle him between 3-4 different caregivers (all of whom he knows and likes, but he wouldn't have any kind of decent schedule)
All 4 caregiver options already have to work, and with their varying schedules and transportation issues, ds wouldn't even be able to regularly attend a class (like rec center gymnastics or swimming or something). He enjoys the socialization and I feel like he really needs to be in a structured setting right now, at least PT.
So, what would you do? I'm worried about my unborn baby but I'm also worried about how hard it would be for ds for me to pull him out, and put him somewhere else for 3 months, and then have to pull him out again when dd is born? I will be home with dd for at least 6 weeks, but we are hoping for 3-4 months, with me going back to work in September and ds (hopefully) starting public preschool at the same time.
I guess this is the first time I have to choose which of my kids comes first...
: for Tigerchild. Time for all of you to move on.
