I am SO beside myself. Help... - Page 2

[hotmamacita]

[Savoir Faire]

It sounds like you've had a lot going on. And it also sounds like when it rains it pours.

I think its time to go into self-preservation mode. You've just had too much going on...what you need to do is to survive.

If he wants to go to school, I'd say let him. Right now, so much is going on for you that this might just be a blessing in disguise.

If its not working out, just take him out...but it is worth a try.

[heatherdeg]

Just wanted to update... I'm feeling better today. I think the loss of my aunt, who I was very close to, the night before my last post just really threw me into an abyss.

But dh and I agree that putting him in school at this point would be an absolute nightmare... for all the reasons Ruthla mentioned (and thank you again for that) but also because he has food allergies that manifest in behavior problems that would be a NIGHT. MARE. in the local public school. They use food as a reward currency and their M.O. is bribery for performance... even in the preschool. And unless it's an epi-pen allergy (which equates to an "actual problem" vs. a "suspicion" in their eyes ) they won't "make the rest of the class suffer" for my son's problems. Very nice.

He also has an immune deficiency. So when he's fighting off illness, it can be 3+ weeks of essentially an extremely overtired child (complete with whining, misbehavior, etc.).

So while I'm not really opposed to school if it's warranted, for my ds it's more of a problem than the norm. We're not really sure what to do about OT as we really adore his therapist, she's not available outside of the school and she's really helping him. We have another week to figure that out before school is back in session.

We haven't done much schooling for months. Dh and I think that ds' not being involved in a lot of the things he used to be (swimming, classes of different kinds) isn't really helping the matter at all.

So we're just going to try to tread water for a bit until the fog passes and we can get back on track. He WAH so that's a help. Of course, today I made him leave the house and work at the office as a means of forcing me to move my arse. And it worked because we're all dressed and were fed lunch on time. For whatever reason, dh being here made me just want to sit and do nothing and wait for him to do everything... which is neither fair nor healthy. And dh is creating a menu for us for the next week and doing all the food prep. So we're working through it.

Thanks all. Moment of weakness passed.

[Momma Aimee]

Originally Posted by heatherdeg

Just wanted to update... I'm feeling better today. I think the loss of my aunt, who I was very close to, the night before my last post just really threw me into an abyss.

But dh and I agree that putting him in school at this point would be an absolute nightmare... for all the reasons Ruthla mentioned (and thank you again for that) but also because he has food allergies that manifest in behavior problems that would be a NIGHT. MARE. in the local public school. They use food as a reward currency and their M.O. is bribery for performance... even in the preschool. And unless it's an epi-pen allergy (which equates to an "actual problem" vs. a "suspicion" in their eyes ) they won't "make the rest of the class suffer" for my son's problems. Very nice.

He also has an immune deficiency. So when he's fighting off illness, it can be 3+ weeks of essentially an extremely overtired child (complete with whining, misbehavior, etc.).

So while I'm not really opposed to school if it's warranted, for my ds it's more of a problem than the norm. We're not really sure what to do about OT as we really adore his therapist, she's not available outside of the school and she's really helping him. We have another week to figure that out before school is back in session.

We haven't done much schooling for months. Dh and I think that ds' not being involved in a lot of the things he used to be (swimming, classes of different kinds) isn't really helping the matter at all.

So we're just going to try to tread water for a bit until the fog passes and we can get back on track. He WAH so that's a help. Of course, today I made him leave the house and work at the office as a means of forcing me to move my arse. And it worked because we're all dressed and were fed lunch on time. For whatever reason, dh being here made me just want to sit and do nothing and wait for him to do everything... which is neither fair nor healthy. And dh is creating a menu for us for the next week and doing all the food prep. So we're working through it.

Thanks all. Moment of weakness passed.

we are here for you

one think i know, for me anyway, no matter what it is just having a PLAN helps -- even if that plan sucks (ie what has to be done sucks) jsut having it laid out helps.

sorry for the poor district, we are stucfk in one too.

Aimee