Would be interested in getting others thoughts. I UP'd with my second and had a wonderful experience. I hired a midwife at 36 weeks mainly b/c we were living with my parents and I knew if I went into labor and no midwife showed up my mom would freak. I figured it would be best to be very clear with my midwife about what I wanted so she could hang with family and help create a calming environment than try to labor and convince my mom to chill out.
Anyways, this pregnancy I am living in a small town with only 2 midwives who book 9 months in advance. Because I am a doula and active in my local birth community they called me to make sure they would retain space for me in June. It sort of freaked me out to think about this all to soon and a well meaning friend made a comment about it not being fair to keep myself on the schedule if I might not use them in the end (meaning someone else could have access to a homebirth mw.) There are actually women in our community who want to have a homebirth with a mw, but can't because of lack of access.
I put off any appointments until after the holiday and told the mw I talked to that I am still considering this a consult rather than a prental. I want to explain my situation, my feelings, my experiences and see how we mesh.
Part of me loves the idea of a midwife and I hear glowing things about this one in particular. She's very hands off and will stay in the other room if I'd like which is very important to me.
My concern is that I feel like when I visit any kind of health professional I give my personal power away. (If that makes any sense). When I UP'd I became so confident and aware of my body and my body. I felt like my intuition was sky high. I notice when I talk to a health care professional it is so easy to fall into roles where they are in charge and I nod my head here and there. (Exaggeration, but that is what I feel like.) If I really assert myself I feel like the professional is almost like, "Oh boy...." Which doesn't really matter, but it's not like I am a control freak, I just find that taking full responsibility and power over birth results in a favorable result.
Of course I am considering a UC, but I would hate to opt out of that hard to get midwife spot if I ever need someone's care. It feels like all or nothing, which doesn't feel great.
Anyways, I'd love to hear what and how other Upers and UCers (decided and thinking about it) are thinking and feeling.
Happy Holidays!
Anyways, this pregnancy I am living in a small town with only 2 midwives who book 9 months in advance. Because I am a doula and active in my local birth community they called me to make sure they would retain space for me in June. It sort of freaked me out to think about this all to soon and a well meaning friend made a comment about it not being fair to keep myself on the schedule if I might not use them in the end (meaning someone else could have access to a homebirth mw.) There are actually women in our community who want to have a homebirth with a mw, but can't because of lack of access.
I put off any appointments until after the holiday and told the mw I talked to that I am still considering this a consult rather than a prental. I want to explain my situation, my feelings, my experiences and see how we mesh.
Part of me loves the idea of a midwife and I hear glowing things about this one in particular. She's very hands off and will stay in the other room if I'd like which is very important to me.
My concern is that I feel like when I visit any kind of health professional I give my personal power away. (If that makes any sense). When I UP'd I became so confident and aware of my body and my body. I felt like my intuition was sky high. I notice when I talk to a health care professional it is so easy to fall into roles where they are in charge and I nod my head here and there. (Exaggeration, but that is what I feel like.) If I really assert myself I feel like the professional is almost like, "Oh boy...." Which doesn't really matter, but it's not like I am a control freak, I just find that taking full responsibility and power over birth results in a favorable result.
Of course I am considering a UC, but I would hate to opt out of that hard to get midwife spot if I ever need someone's care. It feels like all or nothing, which doesn't feel great.
Anyways, I'd love to hear what and how other Upers and UCers (decided and thinking about it) are thinking and feeling.
Happy Holidays!
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