DS is almost 2 and we're still nursing and have a co-sleeping arangement (DS and DH usually spend the first half of the night in DS's bed, and then move into our bedroom at about midnight for the rest of the night... sometimes, we just put DS to sleep in our bed and don't mess with the night time bed change). DS is pretty much nightweaned at this point. He nurses before going to bed and then we don't let him nurse again until 5 AM.
A month or so ago, I was reaching a point of very high sleep deprivation (due to the amount of night nursing DS was doing) and I was very frustrated. Read NCSS for toddlers and implemented a plan. Happened to mention it to my MIL (because we were headed to their house to stay with them for Thanksgiving). MIL told me that SIL did this kind of graduated thing with her kids where they would let them cry for short periods and then gradually increas the amount of time before responding. I told her that I was not going to do any kind of CIO... it turned into kind of a discussion. And I just left it at, we'll figure out a way that works for us. Anyway, ILs are at our house for the Christmas holidays (they are out-of town, so they're staying with us). At one point, DS asked to nurse. When he wants to switch, he says "other boob." MIL frowned and groaned. Later FIL asked me how weaning was going. I told him we weren't weaning DS completely, just at night. So then he asked if DS was sleeping in his own bed, yet (ILs have never approved of us co-sleeping, although they've never been hugely vocal about it... mostly tactfully worded questions about it). I unapologetically told him about what the current arrangement is. There have been a few times recently that my mom has voiced her opinion that she thinks it's time for DS to stop night nursing. However, I feel more comfortable telling my mom that it's not really her place to decide.
Anyway, I know the answer is just to stop saying anything about it to other people and keep on doing what we know is the right thing for our child and our family. I guess I just needed a place to voice my annoyance. I just know that my ILs disapprove. And I don't really care as long as they keep it to themselves. But it's kind of hard for them not to notice our parenting practices when they stay with us or when we stay with them (and btw, asking them to stay at a hotel isn't an option for various reasons). I guess I just need to be grateful that these kind of visits only take place once or twice a year.
It's just kind of annoying me at the moment... so thanks for listening I guess.
A month or so ago, I was reaching a point of very high sleep deprivation (due to the amount of night nursing DS was doing) and I was very frustrated. Read NCSS for toddlers and implemented a plan. Happened to mention it to my MIL (because we were headed to their house to stay with them for Thanksgiving). MIL told me that SIL did this kind of graduated thing with her kids where they would let them cry for short periods and then gradually increas the amount of time before responding. I told her that I was not going to do any kind of CIO... it turned into kind of a discussion. And I just left it at, we'll figure out a way that works for us. Anyway, ILs are at our house for the Christmas holidays (they are out-of town, so they're staying with us). At one point, DS asked to nurse. When he wants to switch, he says "other boob." MIL frowned and groaned. Later FIL asked me how weaning was going. I told him we weren't weaning DS completely, just at night. So then he asked if DS was sleeping in his own bed, yet (ILs have never approved of us co-sleeping, although they've never been hugely vocal about it... mostly tactfully worded questions about it). I unapologetically told him about what the current arrangement is. There have been a few times recently that my mom has voiced her opinion that she thinks it's time for DS to stop night nursing. However, I feel more comfortable telling my mom that it's not really her place to decide.
Anyway, I know the answer is just to stop saying anything about it to other people and keep on doing what we know is the right thing for our child and our family. I guess I just needed a place to voice my annoyance. I just know that my ILs disapprove. And I don't really care as long as they keep it to themselves. But it's kind of hard for them not to notice our parenting practices when they stay with us or when we stay with them (and btw, asking them to stay at a hotel isn't an option for various reasons). I guess I just need to be grateful that these kind of visits only take place once or twice a year.
It's just kind of annoying me at the moment... so thanks for listening I guess.
Hugs and hang in there!!!!!
to my mom, and 
to DS.
totally!!!
