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post #21 of 31
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This is fantastic! Thank you for your responses. My mother passed away a few years ago, so I appreciate any baby advice you can give. My mother-in-law is supportive, albeit begrudgingly, and sometimes when I explain how I plan to use EC methods with the baby, I have a feeling she thinks I am going to somehow house break my daughter, and let her out into the backyard to pee and poo like I would a beloved pet dog. She means well though, and it could be worse. She just gave me I guess what you call a baby wearer to try, which is really sweet since I expressed an interest. I don't know though. I fall a lot. Over air. I have also been known to fall out of bed during my adult life. I have to research the baby wearing thing a little more.

By the way, this may be TMI, but I am peeing every ten seconds. This cannot be normal. I had to get up and pee twice during the writing of this very response. My baby thinks my bladder is some sort of squeezy toy. I did not think it was possible to pee this much. I actually called my doctor about it recently, and he laughed and told me to relax. I imagine him rolling his eyes a lot whenever my name pops up in his appointment calendar.
post #22 of 31
Lainey, when you sit to pee, rotate you hips as much as you can and rock forwards and backwards a bit.

When your babe is standing on your bladder it can be difficult to empty your it fully so wriggling about helps.
post #23 of 31
re: the babywearing... if you do fall a lot, baby is a lot safer in a carrier than in your arms. seriously, i have fallen on the ice maybe 2 or 3 times over the course of 3 kids and a lot of babywearing, when the baby was in a carrier. they were always just fine. and with both my hands free i was able to catch myself a lot better than if i'd been holding the baby (or lugging one of those bucket carseats). but do make sure you get a good quality carrier - the kind you can get at most easily accessible stores like BRU and Target are not very comfortable for the mom and not useful for very long. check out the babywearing forum here, or www.thebabywearer.com for more info on that.

babywearing is also a huge helper for EC. babies tend to signal very clearly when in a carrier, making it a lot easier to notice cues. i never missed a cue when i was wearing my baby. the ones i missed were always when i put the baby down on a blanket on the floor or in a bouncy seat. not that it's bad to put baby down occasionally, and i didn't worry about the misses, just saying that it's a lot harder to notice cues when baby is not super close, so babywearing can be a tremendous EC tool.
post #24 of 31
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Originally Posted by pixiepunk View Post
the kind you can get at most easily accessible stores like BRU and Target are not very comfortable for the mom and not useful for very long. check out the babywearing forum here, or www.thebabywearer.com for more info on that.
Target does carry hotslings which are a perfectly reasonable pouch, and I think all new slinging mamas should have at least one pouch for the newborn days.
post #25 of 31
hawk hated that hold, though. OMG, try to put him in any sort of cradle hold and he would FREAK OUT. lol he liked to be up and down. that's it. straight up. silly boy.

but, it did make ECing and BFing easy.

and don't worry, you figure it out, they are safer on there than any other way. and i think it makes them super smart. that's just me though.
post #26 of 31
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Originally Posted by orangefoot View Post
Lainey, when you sit to pee, rotate you hips as much as you can and rock forwards and backwards a bit.

When your babe is standing on your bladder it can be difficult to empty your it fully so wriggling about helps.
Orangefoot - That helps a lot! Thank you. Lainey
post #27 of 31
Neat thread! And thank you, Lisa, for re-posting that article! The last time I read it was before Hannah's first real potty pause, and I'd been wanting to re-read it!

Lainey, as everyone has said, not everyone holds that opinion of EC! True, some people have never heard of it and have their own ideas, but you're going to get that with anything. As mentioned, some people feel pretty strongly about certain things. (I have a friend who is pregnant, who told me that she was "crazy enough to mention that she wanted her baby to sleep with her" and her friend went nutso on her. I told her that my baby sleeps with me! But wouldn't go nutso on someone who chose differently.)

It is a very strange feeling indeed to be given responsibility of a baby. I had my baby in a hospital (not my plan, but that's how it worked out) and it was SOOOOOOOOOO weird to leave with her. Very cool and wonderful, but weird! Once your babe is here, you will know what you do, and you can find people online and IRL to share experiences with. Your instincts will kick in, and you willl surprise yourself. I know I've made mistakes and done things differently from what I'd planned, but it's OK. When I was pregnant people said to me things like I'd had lots of adventures so far, or that I was an educated woman, but now the REAL adventure and the REAL education was about to begin. So true!!!! (I really philosophical on this board sometimes!)

Thank for starting this thread, and enjoy your little one!
post #28 of 31
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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan View Post
Target does carry hotslings which are a perfectly reasonable pouch, and I think all new slinging mamas should have at least one pouch for the newborn days.
ah, yes, the hotsling. forgot that target had those now. i'm not a big fan of pouches in general, but those are good pouches. i was thinking of Bjorns and Snuglis and the like.
i prefer a ring sling with a newborn, they do all the same stuff a pouch does, plus more, and i feel like a get a more secure and customizable fit with a ring sling. that's the beauty of babywearing in this day and age - there's something for everyone!

Lainey - you should check to see if there's a babywearing group near you. the best thing with babywearing (as with so much else) is to see it first-hand and be able to try different things out with your baby.

oh, and make sure you check out the Tribal Area here on MDC for where you live. a great way to hook up with other like-minded mamas!
post #29 of 31
Woah! How about... uh.. keep your opinion to yourself lady. Sorry you didn't have enough time to dedicate to your child....doesn't mean others do not.
post #30 of 31
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Originally Posted by pixiepunk View Post
and - start a year ago. isn't it so odd how you become the local potty training expert? i just want to say, well, um, i did EC to *avoid* the situation you're describing, i have no idea how to handle that! but usually i just say my little EC mantra "just listen to what your child is trying to tell you. Keep the lines of communication open, and respect what s/he's telling you, even if it's not what you want to hear."
Ok, I'm going to try not to derail the thread here, but I have to respond to this, because wouldn't you know it, after I posted that the other day, a friend asked my potty training advice again. She has a girl who's six months older than DD and refuses to poop in the potty. She'll pee in the potty and she wants to wear underwear, but she always goes off under the table or something to poop, because she wants to squat instead of sitting to poop. My first reaction on hearing this story was, well, it's healthier to squat than to sit! That's why in most countries they have holes in the ground instead of toilets! And of course my friend was like, ok, that's nice, but that doesn't help me. But I thought about it and suggested that she try to find a narrow plastic bowl or something that's small enough for her DD to squat over instead of sitting on it. Or else just let her stand in the tub and then clean it up. And my friend was like, wow, a bowl! I never thought of that.

But obviously a baby potty is just--a plastic bowl.

And the reason I tell that story is because it made me realize why all my friends ask my advice about potty training. It's not just because DD has been wearing underwear since she was a year old. It's because EC changes the way you think about the whole elimination need. Potty training is about getting pee/poop in the potty, and EC is about figuring out what your child needs. It's just another benefit of EC that I don't always think of--how it completely changed my mindset about, well, a lot of issues, really. Not just potty training. EC taught me to think outside the box, to think of things that might have been "discipline problems" in terms of what my daughter needs instead of how I can get her to do what I need/want. It's really strengthened--even forced--my creativity as a parent. In a good way.

Even if sometimes other people think I'm nuts.
post #31 of 31
Hi!

You know, I don't even need to click through to see the mental judgements in that article - seen them all before...

As everyone else has said, UGH, people who rant away like that usually have no idea what they are talking about, and jump to conclusions that are fear based and non sensical!

We've only EVER had curiosity, and interest, and related stories!

Be relaxed and flexible in whatever you choose to 'give a go'. There is no need to do anything perfectly (it is impossible and pointless anyway) and for baby No#2 you can always try to get it perfect - nd by then you'll be far more easy going anyway...

Simply, protect yourself from potential ridicule by being confident, doing your thing without defensiveness and just letting people notice if it is in their mind set to do so.

You'll be amazed at what people DO NOT SEE.

Good Luck!
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