just because of the number of babies they've had? And if so, where do you draw the line? I am due in July and considering another UC (already had two UC's). I am considering a UC because that is my only homebirth option; there is no midwife option this time.
Anyway, while I sort out my plans and feelings about the upcoming birth, I am doing prenatal care with an OB practice, at the hospital where I would definitely transfer if anything went wrong with a homebirth. I really don't plan to deliver with this OB practice, but need to keep my options open for later in case of emergencies.
So I picked the OB who has the reputation for being most "hand off". He does VBAC's against hospital policy. Was really excited to meet him. But once he started asking questions and figured out with my past history of homebirths (he doesn't even know the UC part) and my current wishes to decline some standard tests (like nuchal translucency) he starts talking about how "high risk" I am because of my "grand multipara" status. This is my 6th baby. I have never had hypertension, blood sugar issues, no sections or any other risk factors. Solely based on my number of pregnancies, he makes a big deal of my "very high risk" pregnancy". Huh? I even started to disagree with him, and told him that while there are risks during labor and delivery as a "grand multipara" I did not think that made the actual PREGNANCY high risk. He disagreed and said the pregnancy itself was definitely high risk. I was so blown away I didn't even think to ask him to explain and back that up with research.
Am I wrong? Does pregnancy risk escalate if you have had lots of babies already? Surely the risk of birth defects increases, but I'd say that is more to do with maternal age than parity. Right? And I am well aware of risks during labor/delivery. But what the heck makes my pregnancy high risk, at say, 16 weeks, more so than a mom who's only had one or two babies?
The other thing this guy said that really ticked me off is that due to my "grand multipara" status I would surely risk out of homebirth, regardless of what country I was living in. (Not in the US right now.) I beg to differ! Where on earth would you risk out of hb solely based on parity? And even if that were a factor, 5 babies is not some kind of record here. Sigh.
I think this guy is trying to bully me into his standard of care. But I don't have other options, so I am going to have to suck it up. I guess I'll feel better, though, if I hear from other mamas and midwives about higher parity births. Risk is all relative anyway. I prefer to think in terms of "higher" risk and "lower" risk. No pregnancy or birth is risk free, but it's not like there are only two catagories and everyone falls neatly into one of them.
What do you think?
Serena
Anyway, while I sort out my plans and feelings about the upcoming birth, I am doing prenatal care with an OB practice, at the hospital where I would definitely transfer if anything went wrong with a homebirth. I really don't plan to deliver with this OB practice, but need to keep my options open for later in case of emergencies.
So I picked the OB who has the reputation for being most "hand off". He does VBAC's against hospital policy. Was really excited to meet him. But once he started asking questions and figured out with my past history of homebirths (he doesn't even know the UC part) and my current wishes to decline some standard tests (like nuchal translucency) he starts talking about how "high risk" I am because of my "grand multipara" status. This is my 6th baby. I have never had hypertension, blood sugar issues, no sections or any other risk factors. Solely based on my number of pregnancies, he makes a big deal of my "very high risk" pregnancy". Huh? I even started to disagree with him, and told him that while there are risks during labor and delivery as a "grand multipara" I did not think that made the actual PREGNANCY high risk. He disagreed and said the pregnancy itself was definitely high risk. I was so blown away I didn't even think to ask him to explain and back that up with research.
Am I wrong? Does pregnancy risk escalate if you have had lots of babies already? Surely the risk of birth defects increases, but I'd say that is more to do with maternal age than parity. Right? And I am well aware of risks during labor/delivery. But what the heck makes my pregnancy high risk, at say, 16 weeks, more so than a mom who's only had one or two babies?
The other thing this guy said that really ticked me off is that due to my "grand multipara" status I would surely risk out of homebirth, regardless of what country I was living in. (Not in the US right now.) I beg to differ! Where on earth would you risk out of hb solely based on parity? And even if that were a factor, 5 babies is not some kind of record here. Sigh.
I think this guy is trying to bully me into his standard of care. But I don't have other options, so I am going to have to suck it up. I guess I'll feel better, though, if I hear from other mamas and midwives about higher parity births. Risk is all relative anyway. I prefer to think in terms of "higher" risk and "lower" risk. No pregnancy or birth is risk free, but it's not like there are only two catagories and everyone falls neatly into one of them.
What do you think?
Serena








...is that your OB there is saying just the same things that OBs here would say; that what you are hearing is 'standard OB talk', not a special effort to bully you. Not exactly lying to make you toe his line.
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what MsBlack and nikirj said. I have assisted at births of the 10th- 14th babies in some families, and if overall health is good, mom takes good care of herself, and has help(thereby reducing stress level) then the birth is generally no different than a 2nd or third birth. Baby may move around a little more(one time the baby's hand was on top of its little head, and the midwife felt her fingers drumming the top of her head- had to move that hand back and baby was born within a few minutes) but other than that, all was normal. I know a couple of ladies who had their 16th at home, no problems. I think that based on what the OB was probably taught, and sees in a hospital situation, then her fears might be a little justified. But at home we usually don't see problems like that, and the moms generally take very good care of themselves, and that avoids many problems...Remember Susannah Wesley(mother of Charles and John) had 20 children, including 2 sets of twins. I guess nothing was scarred up on her uterus...
Enjoy your homebirth!

