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Originally Posted by Super_mommy  If he is too young then avoid taking him out..
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There is no such thing as "too young" to take out.
OP. I gave different advice last time I posted, but does this kind of violence happen at home as well as when you're out? Or is it just an out thing?
My response would be different based on that. If he's doing it at home too, then you probably need to come up with a plan to put a stop to all physical outbursts of this kind. DD started to do some stuff like this when she'd get mad at us around 2 (to our knowledge she's never even hit/pushed another kid once, so it was really weird). When she'd hit us we put her on the stairs. She went with the idea that she was overwhelmed by what was happening and needed a break. Our stairs are kind of isolated (away from the action of our house) and work well. We'd either sit with her on our lap facing outwards (watching out for head/face collisions like I said before) and just be with her until she calmed, or we'd set her on the stairs and back off. It seemed almost random as to which she needed. Sometimes if we held her she just got worse, and other times it made it better. So we'd normally start off holding her and if that didn't work we'd walk away.
But we never really left. We would hover and wait until she was ready for some hugs and cuddles. Then we'd talk about gentle touches and help her touch us gently. And if we had any idea of what set her off, we'd talk about that too. But she was a bit slow to talk so we'd often have no clue and just focus on the idea that if she felt she was about to hit us she should go sit on the stairs. Now that she's 3, she often removes herself from the situation with either a tiny prompt "you look like you need a break" and she'll go to the stairs for ~10 seconds and come back more reasonable or sometimes no prompting. She'll go from losing it in the living room to looking at a book in her room on her own.
She never really did this when we were out. But the few times she did I held her in a way that wouldn't let me get hurt and tried to find a safe quiet place for her. Sometimes that was the car. I would put her in the back seat and sit down in the front and just wait for her to work through it.
For me it's really important to me that my children never think it's OK to hurt other people. And I'm included in that.
He left big marks all over DH's face. There were sickness and tiredness factors involved - but there's no way I consider this acceptable! Please help tell me what you would do in this situation.
