Anyone ever feel like an outcast? - Page 2

[guest8990]

none of our friends do anything we do- well i take that back, we have cousins that CD.. they all think we are crazy for so much as seeing a MW(we arent, thats what we tell them, to keep them from being so negative)we were thinking of postponing vax until 4(have now decided to only 2 of vax...) and my best friend argued with me forever on it- they have to have them to go to school you know.. they are most succeptable at home, blah blah blah.. and when i try to explain how we feel, i get a hand waved at me and no no no no... also- same person- tried to convince john(dh) that i probably had placenta previa and would bleed out walking down the street one day.. we had already heard my placenta where it should be, btw they just are narrow minded in my area.. she is having her 3rd csection in march, because her doctor, 5 years ago, told her her babies couldnt fit thru her pelvis- hello! God allowed you to concieve, you can have babies! just not in the drs time frame!! but whatever, non of our friends want to even hear of anything diffrent i do feel alone in it, then my husband reminds me that God brought us to UC for a challenge, and not for it to be easy i just cant wait until Squish is here, and then i will point out that their way isnt always right! good luck! and if you want someone to talk to email [e-mail]

[sweet_tart_vt]

All I can say is: "Be the change you want to see in the world', as well as: "Each one, teach one".

I am often made to feel like a freak/outisder, but I do not let it get to me. Every person that asks questions is someone that you can educate. More often than not people are open to listening to you, it is just that there are so many pre-conceived notions of what pregnancy/childbirth/breastfeeding etc is "supposed to be like". It is up to those of us who have BTDT to break down the barriers that stand in the way between those who do not understand and to replace fear and ignorance with knowldege and power.

Blessed Be!
~Shelby~
proud to be a SAHM to 6 wonderful children: 4 boys, 2 girls. Cooking #7 due 5/16/10 (a GIRL!!)
I am a: UC/Waterbirther, EBF,AP,BW,CD,Co-sleep, nocirc, novax, homescool, Wiccan, organic GF/CF free Mama!

[Mother Cake]

Originally Posted by jessica_anne010

I totally get wanting to UC, I'm planning on UCing this one. Personally, I would just not tell them where you are planning to birth, it isn't any of their business. Only 2 people in my extended family (which is very large) know what my plans are for this birth. Do you feel like you need social support while you are pregnant? If not, then just wait and join the group after you have your baby. If you do, then I would go with just politely saying that you'd rather not discuss your birth plans.

Good luck, I hope it works out for you.

Thanks for your suggestions jessica_anne. For me, I think I would at least like the option of some social support during pg, and I guess what I was really wondering is how to find other local UCers. Does anyone have any suggestions about this?

Don't get me wrong, I am really glad to have found these boards, and I know that they are and will continue to be a wonderful resourse for me, but I'd really like to have some local mama's to talk to, too.

I guess my question might be concidered off topic, but I'm wondering how people who have local social networks and choose to UC work it out. And also if is possible to find local UC networks.

[jessica_anne010]

Originally Posted by Mother Cake

Thanks for your suggestions jessica_anne. For me, I think I would at least like the option of some social support during pg, and I guess what I was really wondering is how to find other local UCers. Does anyone have any suggestions about this?

Have you checked Yahoo Groups to see if there is a UC group for your state or your area? That might be a way to find someone closer to you. I was pretty surprised to find one for my state.

[zoebird]

you can also try 'finding my tribe' and such.

i don't know anyone local who has UCed, but i know a number of us are from PA and could get together if we had the time/inclination. i just haven't organized it.

[cathicog]

there should be a UC Yahoogroup for every state. I used to have the link on my website(site is currently down for reconstruction). I was in the VA UC group, so I KNOW there are other mamas out there! It does make a difference knowing you have some real people to talk to who understand...

[Mother Cake]

TY everyone! I think I knew about those yahoo groups at one point, but had forgotten. There is one for my state. I'll check out the Finding your Tribe area again, too.

[amberskyfire]

Ho boy, I felt like a total outcast for years. I didn't know a single person who was at all UC or AP minded. Everyone in our families thinks I'm crazy. I tried looking for someone like me for years, but with no luck.

Then, a few weeks ago, I went to a local breastfeeding group and there was one other mom who is almost exactly like me. The only difference is that she had a HB with a midwife and not a UC, but she thinks UC is awesome and would probably be into it if she could get her husband on board, which she can't.

We were so excited to finally meet another person with the same parenting values that we exchanged numbers and now we hang out a lot.

Do you have a LLL group in your area you could join? You might meet another momma there who is also lonely and feeling like an outcast.