18 month nursling and ds2 on the way

[coltynsmom]

Hello everyone. My ds is 18 months old still sleeps with us and still nurses several times a night. I am worried that when ds2 comes in 4 months our sleeping arrangement will no longer be safe! My toddler loves to cuddle with me how on earth can I SAFELY co-sleep with both babies let alone try to nurse both at night?! PLEASE HELP!

[meesh933]

My daughter will be nearly 3 when the new baby comes. She still cosleeps and wakes once or twice a night, although she is no longer nursing. We have a small bed on the floor next to my side of the bed (which is on the floor, no frame) that we try to get her to at least start out in. We are going to replace it with a real twin-size mattress soon, so that I can comfortably go back and forth between her and baby if needed, or Dad can snuggle with her. I'm also planning on having the baby sleep on my chest until it's a little bigger, so that I won't worry so much about DD or DH being near it.

I'm hoping that the arrangement just kind of falls into place and makes sense for us when the time comes. I tend to over-analyze things, and then realize later it just flowed and made sense and didn't need as much worry as I gave it!

[finnegansmom]

What size bed do you have? Do you have rails on both sides?
I cosleep with my 3 yo and my 17 month old and have since birth.
We have a king sized bed. We use standard size pillows, not king sized so there is more mattress only room near the heads. The newborn slept between me and the bed rail. That meant for half of the night nursings, when I need to nurse from the "other" boob, I have to sit up. (I can't nurse from the top boob laying down, only the bottom if that makes sense). It only took a month or so before I was confortable with letting the newborn sleep in the middle. Then it's my toddler, then my husband. You didn't mention if you share the bed with another adult as well, but it could go newborn, you, adult, toddler with the bedrail on both sides.
Now, I'm pregnant again. I think we are going to move the toddler bed into our room for the night and get a twin bed for his room for naps and eventually nights...
The thought of cosleeping with 3 kids is a little unsettling.

[coltynsmom]

we have a king size bed. i don't have bed rails i just used those foam things that go under the sheets until ds was old enough to not fall off. i guess my problem is that my 18 month old still nurses at night and i usually just let him nurse while i sleep but i don't see that working if i am also nursing a newborn. since the newborn obviously needs the night feedings more i am thinking that i will have to night ween the toddler. not looking forward to it! maybe i can at least wait until after the flu season. that will still give me a couple months before the babe is born. thoughts?

p.s. yes i share the bed with another adult. ds is starting to cuddle a little bit with my husband (his daddy) so that is promising too.