This is so hard

[JamieB]

I am having the hardest time right now. DS2 doesn't sleep very well. It's making it really hard for me to be a good mom to DS1. I'm sitting here crying for him right now. DS2 sleeps about 45 mintues at a time at night and maybe half an hour during the day but he needs to be held while he sleeps. ANd because he isn't getting much sleep he is always tired so he needs constant soothing.

This translates into having no time for DS1. It is so sad. I feel like I made a big mistake and things were so good before and I messed it all up. The worst part is that I don't think it will get better for a long time because we struggled so much with sleep with DS1. I honestly don't think I can do all that again.

Ugh, this post is so messed up and rambly. Probably make no sense at all. It's hard to love your baby so much but have these feelings of resentment too. Every single day is a struggle and I don't look forward to my days at all. I just want them to be over so I can stop feeling guilty about DS1 oplaying by himself most of the time.

And yes i've tried a bunch of things for sleeping. Including eliminating things from my diet. He doesn't wake up to nurse or cry. He's just awake. He's also an extremely light sleeper.

I honestly feel ready to start sleep training when I think of the horrible times we went through with DS1. I can't do it again with DS2. There was A LOT of anger

Thanks for reading.

[Roxswood]

How old is DS2? Do you want to talk about what your first one was like for sleep and what your sleeping arrangements are/were?

I feel for you, my dd2 is not a great sleeper, she's actually generally quite a bit better than her older sister was, but its harder second time around like you say because you feel like you're shortchanging the older one. Maybe we could at least sympathise with each other even if I can't offer you any suggestions

[anotherpeanut]

Oh I want to hug you! Serious lack of sleep is such a difficult thing to deal with (for parents and babies). It makes you feel crazy and exhausted and resentful. Can your 2nd child be worn in a carrier at some point so you can spend some time with your other child? I wasn't sure of the ages (maybe I missed it, I have preg brain). Good luck, I'll be there soon I'm sure.

[penstamon]

I wish I had advice for you mama, but all I have is sympathy. My DS is going through the same thing and I only have one child. Someone just told me to take it one day at a time and don't think about long term because you can just let yourself get so depressed.

I second the sling/carrier idea- when I can't get DS to sleep during the day, I just haul him around.