My husband and I are seriously considering moving to Hopkins County (Madisonville and surrounds) or somewhere nearby in order to be closer to some relatives. The story is that we're 40 and have 2 almost 3 year old twins, one of whom has an autism spectrum disorder ... and we've just never done a very good job building a social network ... basically, I was born in Madisonville and nearly all of my relatives are there, although I was not raised there. In my 20s I moved there for a little over a year to be near my grandparents before they died, but other than that ... well I am not sure if we can make it work there. My husband and I are pretty different from my relatives in a lot of ways (e.g., not churchgoing and holy cow, they're almost 3 and I'm STILL breastfeeding!). My husband is a classical musician and I'm kind of a bookstore and coffeeshop addict. (We live in Decatur, GA right now.) I really want my children to have a "tribe" and I have cousins I am fairly close to (but different from!) who have kids the same age ... anyway, I am looking for perspective and advice on this. What sort of challenges do you see for us to try to make this kind of a move? Should I instead try to look at somewhere like Bowling Green or Paducah (I have exactly one cousin in each of those places), which is at least close enough for weekend visiting? Here are things I (think I) know already: schools NOT good, meth problems in the area, ku klux klan problems in the area (yikes! how bad IS this really?), most people expect you to accept Jesus as your personal savior and will ask you frequently if you have done so, I can't even imagine what they would think about the extended breastfeeding, healthcare is horrible .... OK, BUT: wow, if you break down on the side of the road 5 different people will stop to help you, if someone dies, 2000 people will show up with food, if your pipes burst, neighbors will help you, oh, yeah, you KNOW your neighbors!, I can live somewhere where turkeys and deer roam in the yard, there are people there who love me enough to cry when I leave. So ... I think I'm going despite potential obstacles and culture shock (for my husband at least), but before I do this thing, what do you think? Sorry, this is really long winded. thanks for listening!
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12/27/09 at 2:36pm