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post #781 of 822

It sounds like speaking to others is a natural gift you have. It was just hiding inside because of how you have been treated in your life.

 

It seems to me that when I'm sick/have accidents a lot, it's a direct reflection of stress. I'm not talking about the "Feelings Buried Alive Never Die" reason for illnesses, though that does happen sometimes. You have been through a lot of stress and it could be that your body now "feels" safe enough to release the stress through accidents and illness. Or the stress could be taking its toll in your life. Or an inner cry of "Love me. Take care of me." There are probably a thousand ways to look at poor health and accidents.

post #782 of 822
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Well I have to suck it up and go to the chiropractor.  I am going to be up front with him or her and let them know that I am scared of them.  Yep.  A big baby when it comes to the neck cracking and other such adjustments. 

 

I will call a few places tomorrow.

 

I am hoping to get in ASAP.

 

I have PMS right now so I am totally useless to pretty much everyone.  For two days a month I become totally irrational.  And thanks to birth control pills, I can plan them to be on a weekend, at least.  Yay, I am clever.

 

I think I might ask the doctor when I see her next week if I can try one of those brands where you never get a period.  Not that I mind my period, I don't.  What I mind is the two days of crying, feeling sorry for myself and being totally impatient with the entire world.  That is no fun for me.

 

Plus I could do without the period induced migraines.  I think I might have one tomorrow so I plan to take some medicine ahead of time to hopefully avoid it.

 

post #783 of 822

I have so suggest some herbal supplementation to ease your pms rather than the no-period pill. Please don't mess with your hormones like that. I'm no expert, but I know at least one person on MDC who has a pms herb combination suggestion.

post #784 of 822
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I have so suggest some herbal supplementation to ease your pms rather than the no-period pill. Please don't mess with your hormones like that. I'm no expert, but I know at least one person on MDC who has a pms herb combination suggestion.



Ideally I wouldn't be on the pill at all, but if I do not take it, my period wont go away.  After two months I just couldn't take it anymore.  I am open for suggestions for PMS help, let me know in PM if you want.  Thanks!  :)

post #785 of 822
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I have so suggest some herbal supplementation to ease your pms rather than the no-period pill. Please don't mess with your hormones like that. I'm no expert, but I know at least one person on MDC who has a pms herb combination suggestion.



Ideally I wouldn't be on the pill at all, but if I do not take it, my period wont go away.  After two months I just couldn't take it anymore.  I am open for suggestions for PMS help, let me know in PM if you want.  Thanks!  :)


Ugh, I do know how you feel. I went through a stage when my period lasted around 2.5 months in the summer of 2009. It was horrible. I did get some advice on some herbs, plus the doctor had me take the bc pills wrong to 'shock my system out of confusion' but I quite taking them after just a couple weeks. Birth control is not a worry for me since I already have an IUD in place and I just really didn't like the idea of messing up my hormones with the pill. I know I used Dong Quai root right before and the first couple days of my period, and that did seem to help, although I know everyone's body is different. Also, don't take my herbal advice without checking with someone with knowledge, since I don't consider myself knowledgeable in that area. wink1.gif

post #786 of 822
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Okay so I had this really irrational fear of the chiropractor.  So I have been suffering with this back pain for months now.  I had a bad experience with a chiropractor once, and now that I am seeing a new one, I realize that it was just that one person who was not a good match for me.

 

I regret that I did not go sooner!!  I had my first adjustment yesterday.  He suggested that I stop setting my alarm to take advil in the middle of the night.  I didn't set it last night and I only woke up 5 minutes before my alarm normally goes off.  Plus the pain was a 5, as opposed to an 8!  So I am already thrilled with my results.

post #787 of 822

glad that you went to the chiro

 

.... went yesterday too & had read your post beforehand & was telling my chiro about your post and that I could understand because ... although I 've known him these past 7 years and fully trust him, I'm still apprehensive when he gets about adjusting the top of the spine ..... every time he has to remind me to relax this arm or my shoulders ... and it still doesn't come naturally, although I know all he's even done on my body has been getting positive results

 

hope you'll get all good results from now one with that new person !

post #788 of 822
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I am now on four nights of sleeping all the way through the night without waking up in agony.  I am now a believer in the chiropractor.  I wish I had done this sooner.  When I do wake up, all on my own or with the alarm, my pain is only like, a 2, compared to how it used to be a 10 where I literally could not catch my breath, it hurt so much.

 

Wow, I am thrilled!!!!!

post #789 of 822

B vitamins are really helpful for PMS. 

post #790 of 822
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Guess who is divorced? 

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Guess who is divorced? 


Then I take it that congratulations are in order.
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post #792 of 822
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I am super excited.  I just lost 320 pounds of abusive ex husband!!!!  And in a mere eight days, I will have a brand new phone number so he wont be able to call me anymore.  Life is good!

post #793 of 822
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B vitamins are really helpful for PMS. 



You know I used to take B vitamins every night to help ease carpal tunnel pain, then stopped.  And my PMS symptoms were less then, I just put two and two together.  I will go back to taking them tonight, thanks!

post #794 of 822

Many many hugs and congratulations, Jaime!  I'm so happy for you!  

post #795 of 822
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So I am divorced now and I have no idea what to do with my freedom.

 

I will continue to go to therapy and the gym and the chiropractor.  I am trying to be as healthy as I can be.

 

I still can't decide what I want to do with my life, though.

 

I suppose I do not have to make any decisions right now this second. 

 

What an awesome start to 2011, though.  Being free.

post #796 of 822

No, you don't have to make any decisions right now. Keep in mind this advice is coming from a 36 year old who still doesn't know what she wants to 'do' when she grows up. kewl.gif

post #797 of 822

Recovering is the first step. I've been divorced since Feb (though I haven't seen him since last Dec) and am still freaked out about the idea of a relationship with a man (I gave myself at least a year and a half for a "relationship vacation" though). So, I'd say that recovering, healing, getting to know yourself - who and what you really are and what you really want in life - would/should/could be first priority (and your therapy sounds like it could be/is a part of that).

post #798 of 822
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At my last therapy appointment my therapist asked me if I wanted to date again.  I looked at her like she had three heads.  I do NOT want to date right now.  I want to enjoy my freedom.  My goal is to get a better job and move out on my own.  I want to have my own little apartment to decorate how I want to.  I want my own space and the freedom to do what I want within it.

 

None of this includes a man.

 

Although, I do have a friend, more like a best friend.  I would consider being more than friends with him one day, but not now.  But in the future, I could see that happening.  Distant future, though.  I really want to be on my own for a good long while.

post #799 of 822

Congratulations!  I'm very happy for you.  Not knowing what to do with your freedom must make you elated - what a delightful dilemma! 

 

Also, I wanted to pipe in on the where to live theme, only to say this - Washington state absolutely is beautiful, there is no question.  I lived there briefly.  Briefly because it turns out that I do get seasonal affective disorder pretty badly.  I had never noticed it living here, where it's sunny most of the time (although bleeding cold for quite a few months).  But there were months at a time when I was mildly depressed on the west coast, and one of my best friends is the same way.  Actually, for her, it was more like moderately to severely depressed.  So I moved back to the sunny, freezing prairies.  I don't do great with the short winter days, either, but it's not as bad as the dreariness.  I just mention this because it might be a more significant factor than a person would believe if they've never experienced it.

 

And as for feeling like you're socially awkward and don't understand what people are saying half the time . . . I think nearly everyone feels like that.  I really do.  I guess there are people who feel like they always understand everyone and make friends in the blink of an eye, but I also think that at least some of those people are just arrogant.  The best advice I've ever given anyone (because I really don't like to give advice) was when I was trying to tell an old friend that he needs to make new friends, and the way to do that is to realize that everyone you meet probably feels just as insecure and awkward as you do.  Talk to them with the assumption that they want to talk to you but are too scared to really do it . . . once in a while, someone will obviously have no interest in talking to you, but much of the time you can make some real connection to someone, even if it's just a brief one.  It sounds like you already have figured that out, but I just wanted to reinforce it - as far as I can tell, other people crave connection as much as I do.

post #800 of 822
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I hope that everyone had a great Christmas.  Mine was great.  I did miss actual Christmas day with my family, because I had a sinus and ear infection both.  Miserable.  But I am feeling much better now.  I am getting sick a LOT lately, so I am going to focus on healthier eating and exercise now in the new year to improve myself.  Looking forward to it!

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