So yesterday I was talking with dp about all the home birth stories I've been reading and how with most of them, you notice it's like "the midwife got here, I felt like I needed to push, the midwife checked, his head was there, I could feel him moving down, my body pushed him out, etc." Like, the midwife is there and helpful, but the mama knows what to do anyways.
He was like, yeah, that seems right. The baby's gonna come out no matter what. The midwife can help but the birth is the birth.
So I just decided to put it out there, "I think we should wait til about halfway through, find a midwife to check and reassure us that everything is fine, then when the labor day comes, just stay home, not call anyone, chill out, eat, drink, watch funny movies, relax, sit in the tub and let it happen; we can call everyone later and say, 'oops, it happened too fast, we kept waiting for it to get worse, and next thing you know, I was pushing' and just have the baby at home by ourselves". I also told him that I think I'll "know" if something's not right, at which point he could load me in the car and drive down the block to the hospital.
I'm getting teared up thinking about this. My man is so awesome. He was just nodding his head the whole time and agreeing with me that we can do this ourselves and that it will be better than being at the hospital or even having a midwife at home. It wasn't me convincing him or trying to sell him on the idea. It was us naturally being together on the same page, both feeling the same way about what we want for this birth.
So I guess we're officially, intentionally planning a UC. Things might change, and that's okay. I'm open to that, too. Even if we end up in the hossy, it will be all right. I'm just feeling really grateful right now that there's no disagreement between me and my man, no struggle or coercion on either side.
He was like, yeah, that seems right. The baby's gonna come out no matter what. The midwife can help but the birth is the birth.
So I just decided to put it out there, "I think we should wait til about halfway through, find a midwife to check and reassure us that everything is fine, then when the labor day comes, just stay home, not call anyone, chill out, eat, drink, watch funny movies, relax, sit in the tub and let it happen; we can call everyone later and say, 'oops, it happened too fast, we kept waiting for it to get worse, and next thing you know, I was pushing' and just have the baby at home by ourselves". I also told him that I think I'll "know" if something's not right, at which point he could load me in the car and drive down the block to the hospital.
I'm getting teared up thinking about this. My man is so awesome. He was just nodding his head the whole time and agreeing with me that we can do this ourselves and that it will be better than being at the hospital or even having a midwife at home. It wasn't me convincing him or trying to sell him on the idea. It was us naturally being together on the same page, both feeling the same way about what we want for this birth.
So I guess we're officially, intentionally planning a UC. Things might change, and that's okay. I'm open to that, too. Even if we end up in the hossy, it will be all right. I'm just feeling really grateful right now that there's no disagreement between me and my man, no struggle or coercion on either side.
) or going to the hospital. I can't express how grateful I am that he is being so supportive 
