I am a Christian and although there are many replies from Christian perspective I wanted to share mine because there are differing opinions on whther a baby goes to heaven or hell.
Mine is that a baby goes to heaven. My basis is mostly from Genesis. When I first started studying the Bible I wasn't all impressed with Genesis for some reason, and have recently started studying. It's really interesting because you can learn alot about our original purposes, what God wants for our lives, where evil comes from and the need for the law, etc etc
But my point is that I simply don't believe that we were created for the purpose of going to hell. God is all good, and he created us to love and worship him, to be in harmony with him.
James 1:13-14 says that "when tempted no one should say, "God is tempting me." For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when. by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed."
I think that since God is good and nothing evil, I think the same can be said for 'God doing evil'. I won't claim to know what is God's like between justice and evil, because sometimes it seems thin, but when we are talking about an innocent, freshly created
being, we are not talking about any outside factors or choices. God knows that baby will die, and I don't think it is his nature to create just to kill (spiritually). I think this way of thinking is in line with
Genesis 1:26 "Let us make man in our image, in our likeness..." ( for the purpose of -good, love...not to confuse the fact that we are sinful- we have free will, and chose sin)
and I don't know where the psalm is, but the one that talks about us being created wonderfully in the womb, much loved by God.
I think all these things line up with the belief that a baby is not created to grow for a few months in his mother's womb and then go to hell.
I didn't read the last page or so of posts (only have so many free minutes!) so that may be WAY off topic at this point...
But it was fun to post
OPoster- I'm so sorry for your loss.... I have been there twice. The pain sometimes never goes away, but I hope and pray that you find peace about it.