DS is 24 month old and DD is 1 month old. DS is very active (that is active for a 2 year old - not compared to me, I'm exhausted 
) He is very affectionate with his sister and loves playing near her and "with" her. Of course, being 2, sometimes he is unintentionally too rough or he is intentionally "rough" with her - but it is only too rough because she's so little. Here's the problem - he doesn't seem to have any understanding that his actions have hurt her and that is why she's crying.
Today he made her cry twice -
1 - He was dancing and suddenly moved too close too her before I could intervene. He (luckily lightly) kicked her head
2) He was laying next to her on the floor, patting her on her tummy and signing to her. When he went to get up, he didn't move his hand and pushed down on her tummy/chest.
Both times I scooped her up and sat down with him telling him he has to be very careful & gentle, she's very small and gets booboos easily and she's crying because he hurt her when (fill in blank). I know he has good verbal comprehension. I don't know what to expect from him regarding his ability to comprehend his actions can hurt other people. He's never had any response to "sorry" - whether when it has been said to him or when I've asked him to say it. Last time I said it to him and I really looked at his reaction to the words, he seemed confused about the concept.
Yesterday I started letting him complete actions that I knew would cause minimal hurt for her but would make her cry. I was hoping that this would generate an actual negative response on her part, rather than my telling him "you might hurt her." (As in he's putting his finger in her ear while she's sleeping "C - we don't poke baby. It hurt her and you woke her up.")
Any advice? Thanks.
) He is very affectionate with his sister and loves playing near her and "with" her. Of course, being 2, sometimes he is unintentionally too rough or he is intentionally "rough" with her - but it is only too rough because she's so little. Here's the problem - he doesn't seem to have any understanding that his actions have hurt her and that is why she's crying.Today he made her cry twice -
1 - He was dancing and suddenly moved too close too her before I could intervene. He (luckily lightly) kicked her head
2) He was laying next to her on the floor, patting her on her tummy and signing to her. When he went to get up, he didn't move his hand and pushed down on her tummy/chest.
Both times I scooped her up and sat down with him telling him he has to be very careful & gentle, she's very small and gets booboos easily and she's crying because he hurt her when (fill in blank). I know he has good verbal comprehension. I don't know what to expect from him regarding his ability to comprehend his actions can hurt other people. He's never had any response to "sorry" - whether when it has been said to him or when I've asked him to say it. Last time I said it to him and I really looked at his reaction to the words, he seemed confused about the concept.
Yesterday I started letting him complete actions that I knew would cause minimal hurt for her but would make her cry. I was hoping that this would generate an actual negative response on her part, rather than my telling him "you might hurt her." (As in he's putting his finger in her ear while she's sleeping "C - we don't poke baby. It hurt her and you woke her up.")
Any advice? Thanks.
