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post #21 of 29
In our case (with a 7 yo), it would just be one giant pain in the rear. We (the parents) would constantly have to keep track of it - "Did you remember your cell phone? Did you charge your cell phone? Where is your cell phone?" And then the inevitable meltdowns when said phone is left at a friend's, on the bus, at the other parent's house.

She is almost always with a parent that has their own cell phone and/or land line. No need to pay an extra bill.

The other thing - although we are fairly liberal with phone use, DH does not let DSD call her mo in the middle of a meltdown. If we let her call every time she was mad that she had to stop playing Spore to set the table for dinner, the kid would go way over her monthly minutes in the first week.

So yeah, no cell phone at 7.
post #22 of 29
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I have to say I see absolutely nothing wrong with calling your parent every day. I talk to my parents every day, and I am 27. We see each other on average once a week, and proud of it. In fact, DSD, DP and I just came back from playing Scrabble at my parents' house. :P

I think a cell phone is a good stepping stone for when a child enters middle school. But at 7?..
I don't see anything wrong with calling your parents every day if it is just to say hi and how are you today and remind me what temp to cook a roast on. But it sounded like the poster you are responding to meant adult kids who can't tie their shoes without calling mom for input. THAT isn't appropriate or helpful to the maturing of the adult kid. What you do, Oriole, sounds really nice and I am very jealous to be honest.

And I agree - middle school is also our "when you get a cell phone" rule.

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If we do add it to the plan, we'll need to work out in advance with her mom what happens if the phone gets lost. (Do we keep replacing? If so, who pays? Even if we get the protection plan, there's a deductible.) What do those of you whose kids have cell phones do?
Does dsd have a digital camera or a gameboy or some other expensive electronic item? How does she do with remembering it, keeping it in one piece, charging it, self-limiting use, etc? My dd1 is 13 now and super responsible. Her first gameboy (at age 8 I think it was) was left on an airplane. She is on her third phone in a little over a year - she doesn't lose them but they break. MINE never break... so is she not careful enough with them or is her phone really a lemon?

It is - logistically - a bit of a nightmare, and I have a 13 year old not a 7 year old using the phone. It isn't charged. I forgot the charger. It was in my coat and I didn't hear it ring (when I'm trying to call her). I left the house without it and now want to turn around and go back regardless of how far we have gotten. Texting WAY over her limit and a GIANT bill before we went to unlimited texting. The ability to take a photo and instantly forward it to ANYONE (probably not on the Firefly or whatever that limited kid phone is - but I don't think those go on family plans, do they?) I dropped it onto the cement. It fell out of my pocket and into the toilet. And on and on...

Personally, I wouldn't if it wouldn't start WWIII. But in your situation, I don't know that it would be my hill to die on.

AND I really agree with having her use a good/real (not toy) walkie talkie when on her bike or such near your house or near you. We got great ones at Costco that work up to 8 miles.
post #23 of 29
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Does dsd have a digital camera or a gameboy or some other expensive electronic item? How does she do with remembering it, keeping it in one piece, charging it, self-limiting use, etc?
Oh lord, the DS...she got one from her maternal grandparents when she was 4 and that thing was the source of many, many arguments. She wouldn't self-regulate AT ALL, would throw huge fits when she was told she couldn't play at dinner, huge meltdowns if the charger was at the other house, she started emulating all of the fighting in her pokemon games, and then her mom would call and yell at us if she left it at our house (when, sometimes, we didn't even know it was here in the first place). The teeny-tiny cartridges went missing regularly (down the toilet? sucked into the vacuum? eaten by gnomes? Who knows?).

It's gotten better in the last year--it just stays at Mom's. We haven't banned it from here, but it stopped showing up and nobody minded.
post #24 of 29
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Oh lord, the DS...she got one from her maternal grandparents when she was 4 and that thing was the source of many, many arguments. She wouldn't self-regulate AT ALL, would throw huge fits when she was told she couldn't play at dinner, huge meltdowns if the charger was at the other house, she started emulating all of the fighting in her pokemon games, and then her mom would call and yell at us if she left it at our house (when, sometimes, we didn't even know it was here in the first place). The teeny-tiny cartridges went missing regularly (down the toilet? sucked into the vacuum? eaten by gnomes? Who knows?).

It's gotten better in the last year--it just stays at Mom's. We haven't banned it from here, but it stopped showing up and nobody minded.

OMG we had the same probs with my kids, It got so bad that I had to put my foot down ( I usually am pretty lax about stuff). But they where walking, talking, eating, sleeping with these things glued to their mits. I made a week long rule that they could only use it in the bathroom lol. They pooped a lot that week, but after they realized how much they are playing them. Now its better.. But we still have drama at times with the ds, ds lite and dsi, and 360 and playstation... Um hello all 3 boys have at least one game they could be playing.. somehow they all want to play the same one at the same time. But when it gets pushy or whiney.. Its time to go outside or read a fricken book man!!! lol
post #25 of 29
If my child was going to be out alone, a cell phone could come in handy. The disposable ones are about $29 with a camera phone and can be sent along to sleepovers etc. a relative was recently injured and his mom was called via the mom button on the cell-phone, not a call I'd want to get but it beats having an unidentified child at the hospital.
post #26 of 29
I got my DD one when she was 8 to take with her to her father's. He keeps his phone in his pocket and she isn't allowed to touch it, so she needed a way to call me if anything happened. We got a Tracfone and I have to say it has been pretty cheap thus far. The phone was about $15 and came with enough minutes to activate it. Then you buy extra minutes which also increases your "end date". So if you buy 60 min with 90 days it's about $20. So $45 for a phone for 3 months isn't terrible, I think. It's not expensive and it brings us both peace of mind. I got her a case to keep it in so she could keep it visible in her purse (it's really an asthma bag. Yes, she has to carry it all the time). That way she never loses it. If mom wants her to have one, then shouldn't mom be the one buying it and keeping up with the minutes?
post #27 of 29
They're pretty cheap on ebay and some don't require contracts, if that's what you all decide to do.
post #28 of 29
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If you do get one, make sure they block any features you do not want her to have access to, and ask them to make a note on your account that you have done this (customer service can do this) so you don't end up with a surprise internet or text bill.
^^^^Yes, this.^^^^ My brother & SIL just received their December bill with $2,265.77 in data charges from the last month, courtesy of their 12-year old who didn't listen when they told him not to access the internet or download anything over his phone. Eeek - I have no idea what they are going to do about that.

My 13-year old has a Tracfone - after being stuck in the Atlanta airport 2 years ago for nearly nine hours when flying home from summer visitation, we decided it was a good idea for him to travel with a cell phone he could call us from!!! We have it programmed so he can call me, Dad, step-mom or step-dad, a couple of his aunties, and his grandparents. No texting, no pics, no data access - just a stripped down model that he can use to get help but not get into trouble.

His dad wasn't to thrilled about it because he didn't feel he needed a cell phone, but for me the benefit of having a way for DS to get in contact with either of us whenever he needed to outweighed the "cost" of having an angry ex. That being said, I would never have asked his dad or step-mom to be the one to buy & maintain the phone. It was something I felt he needed (and was old enough for - a key factor in your equation, it sounds like) and so I paid/pay for it.
post #29 of 29
If you get a Firefly, the cannot dial numbers. There are like 4 or 5 buttons (1 is 911). They only push one button to connect to the person they are calling.

My friend's DD has had one of these since she was 5. She used it when at Dad's house, so she could call people on it (mom). It was shared with her Grandmother, who used it during the week, when taking DD to and/from school in case something happened.

Again, they can only call one of four numbers or 911 on it, so it is not like a true cell phone where they can txt, pix, call anyone.

BTW - you can enable the GPS tracking feature on the Firefly (believe it is this phone and not another similar type), so that if it is misplaced it can be found.
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