Originally Posted by kangamitroo
assalamu alaykum. bumping this thread. wondering how everyone is doing.
hoping this finds you and your families in the best state of health and well-being.
a few months ago i had thought that end of june would find me doing some kind of extra prayer/study, introspective prepping for Ramadan.... yet i have to admit i have been so busy i find it hard to fit in the required prayers lately. i have fallen out of good habits.
so here i am for encouragement.
w'allaykum assalaam! So many new people here since I was semi-active a long while ago!
kangamitroo, I totally understand how hard it can be as a new Muslim. I'm still pretty new myself, and I'm not surrounded by Muslims (or at least by observant ones). I think it's normal in spiritual life to go through times when keeping up practices are more of a struggle.
One thing I did after my baby was born is sign up for a correspondence course with a Sufi group, and start listening to their Sohbets on my walkman at night while my baby was nursing. This changed my life and increased my commitment to remembering Allah and learning more about Islam. The group I did this with is led by Sheikh Kabir Helminski
. Sometimes listening to khutbah podcasts by people who inspire me is also helpful.
I put too much pressure on myself to do salat and it backfired. I know just doing salat even without much passion is better than not doing it, but I have barely done salat since the latest stage of pregnancy. (Astaghfirallah!) I have done dhikr on a regular basis since my baby was a couple of months old, even while thinking all the time, "dhikr without salat is an oxymoron!" I don't believe faith has to be all or nothing, and all these challenges are part of it. Salat is very important, a huge part of faith for me, though, so I'm working to get back into it. If you feel like writing privately about what stops us and how to stop the stopping, feel free to PM me!