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post #101 of 227
assalamu alaykum. bumping this thread. wondering how everyone is doing.
hoping this finds you and your families in the best state of health and well-being.

a few months ago i had thought that end of june would find me doing some kind of extra prayer/study, introspective prepping for Ramadan.... yet i have to admit i have been so busy i find it hard to fit in the required prayers lately. i have fallen out of good habits.

so here i am for encouragement.
post #102 of 227
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Originally Posted by kangamitroo View Post
assalamu alaykum. bumping this thread. wondering how everyone is doing.
hoping this finds you and your families in the best state of health and well-being.

a few months ago i had thought that end of june would find me doing some kind of extra prayer/study, introspective prepping for Ramadan.... yet i have to admit i have been so busy i find it hard to fit in the required prayers lately. i have fallen out of good habits.

so here i am for encouragement.
w'allaykum assalaam! So many new people here since I was semi-active a long while ago!

kangamitroo, I totally understand how hard it can be as a new Muslim. I'm still pretty new myself, and I'm not surrounded by Muslims (or at least by observant ones). I think it's normal in spiritual life to go through times when keeping up practices are more of a struggle.

One thing I did after my baby was born is sign up for a correspondence course with a Sufi group, and start listening to their Sohbets on my walkman at night while my baby was nursing. This changed my life and increased my commitment to remembering Allah and learning more about Islam. The group I did this with is led by Sheikh Kabir Helminski. Sometimes listening to khutbah podcasts by people who inspire me is also helpful.

I put too much pressure on myself to do salat and it backfired. I know just doing salat even without much passion is better than not doing it, but I have barely done salat since the latest stage of pregnancy. (Astaghfirallah!) I have done dhikr on a regular basis since my baby was a couple of months old, even while thinking all the time, "dhikr without salat is an oxymoron!" I don't believe faith has to be all or nothing, and all these challenges are part of it. Salat is very important, a huge part of faith for me, though, so I'm working to get back into it. If you feel like writing privately about what stops us and how to stop the stopping, feel free to PM me!
post #103 of 227

SoCal mamas?

As salaam alaykum

My family and I are planning a move to Orange county, CA. I am looking for tajweed classes for myself. Do any of you have recommendations?

Thx
post #104 of 227

ramadan and food!

Salaam sisters,
As Ramadan approaches, I have been thinking more and more about food. I have always had a terrible time with my fast because I am awful at getting up and cooking something filling, but this year I am determined to make it every day. Can you ladies offer your suhor recipes? My family would definitely be appreciative.
post #105 of 227
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As salaam alaykum

My family and I are planning a move to Orange county, CA. I am looking for tajweed classes for myself. Do any of you have recommendations?

Thx

Zaytuna is in Orange County, right? I'm not sure if they let people register for just individual courses at this point, but if not they might be able to help you find something in the area more specific to tajweed than their full program offers.
post #106 of 227
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Zaytuna is in Orange County, right? I'm not sure if they let people register for just individual courses at this point, but if not they might be able to help you find something in the area more specific to tajweed than their full program offers.

Zaytuna is in Northern California, in the Bay Area. Orange county is in the Los Angeles area. :0( But maybe I'll email them anyway, they could probably point me in the right direction.

jazakallah khair.
post #107 of 227
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Oh dear ... why did I think they were near Anaheim? I know I've heard of something religiously-oriented around there; now it's going to drive me nuts figuring out what.
post #108 of 227
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Salaam sisters,
As Ramadan approaches, I have been thinking more and more about food. I have always had a terrible time with my fast because I am awful at getting up and cooking something filling, but this year I am determined to make it every day. Can you ladies offer your suhor recipes? My family would definitely be appreciative.
My basic formula is this: Protein, whole wheat and a side of chocolate.

This might be eggs, and whole wheat toast with Nutella.

Or just don't make "breakfast". I often eat leftover dinner.
post #109 of 227
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Oh dear ... why did I think they were near Anaheim? I know I've heard of something religiously-oriented around there; now it's going to drive me nuts figuring out what.
I used to have a friend who lived in OC. The Islamic Center of Orange County is supposed to be huge. http://isocmasjid.com/v1/
post #110 of 227
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I used to have a friend who lived in OC. The Islamic Center of Orange County is supposed to be huge. http://isocmasjid.com/v1/
It looks nice. It would be nice to have a large place to attend in general, but around here it's split up into three or four small places. I wish they would pool their resources and open one large, diverse center, but you know how it goes ... you have to have the Egyptian mosque, the Pakistani mosque, the African American mosque, etc, and heaven forbid they ever seriously integrate themselves.

At any rate, I think what I was thinking of was the Islamic Center near Anaheim where Mishary Rashid al-Afasy led tarawih last Ramadan.
post #111 of 227

keeping cool & covered

please excuse my somewhat petty concern. i have not been at the masjid much in summer. last summer (my first ever visits), i was really hot. i'd be grateful for advice about hijab materials/styles that work best in the heat and humidity.

many South Asian ladies i know wear a very loose cover. but for me, if i do that it just seems to fall and distract me.

it's possible that i will feel hot regardless, since i am not used to it. and the layering i have to do to make my clothes work....well, i probably should invest in one lovely loose dress and wear it every time. that might help.
post #112 of 227
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I wouldn't call comfort a petty concern.

My own favorites for summer are all light silks, somewhat looser weave rayons, and the pebble georgette scarves from al-Mujalbaba ... they're synthetic, but she makes very nicely breathable niqabs out of the same material. What is breathable in front of the face tends to also let a lot of air pass through over the head. I used to wear a lot of cotton scarves in summer, but the ones I have just aren't the best suited for it ... still, cotton gauze would be great if you can find it.

I'm also in the habit of washing or at least wetting my hair immediately before dressing, because under a scarf it's slow drying so there's a really quite long time that you get a sort of low grade evaporative cooling effect going on.

But yeah ... what is on the body seems to count a lot more towards comfort than what is on the head. IME the summer clothes I have now actually tend to be cooler than the summer clothes I had when I wasn't wearing hijab. Now I'm all loose rayons and cotton voiles and perma-shade ... before I was all denims and heavy jersey and the sun beating me down.
post #113 of 227
For comfort in the summer, I tend to go for all cotton shalwar kameez for clothes... and then pair it with a cotton Al Amirah hijab. I find that this combo keeps me pretty cool and comfy. Sometimes I will wear an actual hijab that requires pins and stuff, but 99% of the time, it's just a simple Al Amirah usually in white or cream.

Right now, I'm in yoga pants and a tunic top. The yoga pants are not as cool as the roomy shalwar kameez--but I still like them.

Loose is best for clothes so that you can get some air circulating. At home, I sometimes wear an Egyptian galabaya (sort of like an Egyptian version of a caftan), which is super comfy and cool... but the ones I have are not suitable for going outside (at least to me).

I buy most of my shalwar kameez online, but if you ask at a local Indo-Pak grocery story, they can probably hook you up with a seamstress or a shop that can make you a nice shalwar kameez for not a lot of money. This can be nice because you can pick the fabric or at least see it in "real" life. It's also nice because the seamstress will measure you, so the fit should be great. They can also make you a matching hijab.
post #114 of 227
not a petty concern at all! I hate being hot, so I like wearing linens or silks. I am big on dressing my kids in light colors also though.I personally can't wear anything light because i look like a dork but i like silk lined clothing also. my favorite tunic has a silk lining that allows me to feel so much people than anyone around me. i also really like flowy (if thats a word) that are usually cotton lined, and sandals, sandals , sandals!
post #115 of 227
Assalamu Alaikum:

Saw this article on the BBC about a Malaysian Reality TV show to pick a new imam. I actually would love to watch it--if anybody finds it on youtube with subtitles.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-pacific-10609307


Hope everybody is doing well and getting ready for Ramadan.

Peace.
post #116 of 227
assalamu alaikum sisters,

Does any one know of some good Islamic books for children. I am interested in things like short stories about Islamic history, the sahabah, etc. Things that kids may find engaging and learn from....

Also what kind of activities do they do you in your various communities for day care during ramadan?
post #117 of 227
Assalamu Alaikum:

How old are your kids? In general, I find the GoodWords books to be pretty well done. Let's see... here are some of the favorite ones for my kids (they are 6 (almost 7), 4 (almost 5), and 3).

"I Can Say Bismillah Anywhere"

"Thank You O Allah"

"Muslim Child" (Bunch of different stories)

Any of the Hamza books... "Hamza Learns Wudu" "Hamza's First Fast"

"What Do We Say..."

We have these stories "Prophet Muhammad for Little Hearts" and "Quran Stories for Little Hearts" too.

There are more, but these are what come to mind.
post #118 of 227
Salaam alaykum everyone,

Just found this thread and wanted to introduce myself. I have an 18 month son and I am an American convert to Islam. I've been Muslim for about 4 years but felt drawn to the religion for at least 10. I love natural parenting (however you define it) and I think it fits great with the Islamic perspective.

Looking forward to connecting with all of you!
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post #120 of 227
UmmIbrahim

Ramadan Kareem, sisters.

UmmI, I don't know where you are living now in the US, but you sound very rational in your post, like you know what you need to do to succeed and grow back the iman that was shaved almost clean by the experience. We have been not great in this area, but making new strides to improve, and Ramadan is a perfect opportunity to clean house and build something lovely...right?

I have been checking in when I can with online speakers, and a dear friend has invited me to join her at a sufi center for a long weekend. It will be quite a drive, but we really want to do it, and I feel like our souls need it. Anyway, I'll be thinking of you, too.

I am a little (a lot) nervous about Ramadan, because I have been burning the candle at both ends and possibly also the middle for the past 4 months or so, and now I am going to basically be forced to stop the madness. It's good, it really is, but it means confrontation when I begin to say no to people. Here we go...
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