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post #141 of 228
I've posted once or twice, but am trying to get on more often! I'm Tamika, Mum to 5, ages 7,5,4 and 4mth old twins.

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Isn't it funny how the same children who can't hear you screaming at point blank range can hear a soda can pop open or a candy wrapper rattle from the other end of a house full of noise? Interesting phenomena.
Oh how true is that!!!!!

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However, it seems that since the baby was born we've crossed some kind of line. We have an audience where ever we go. I admit that our kids are pretty outgoing, and infants naturally attract attention, but it feels like it's beyond that. People are positive and friendly about it, but yesterday at the grocery store a couple actually stopped shopping to watch us pick out produce. Every time we set foot outside the house I find myself telling people at the bus stop or the mall that "yes, they are all ours."
Our town is quite conservative - 3 is the max that almost everyone has. There are one or two with 4, but I know of NO families besides ours that have 5. We are CONSTANTLY known as 'the family with 5 kids'! LOL

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But I'm a sucker for big cars, even though I don't even want a car, but if you are to impress me with one, it better be a big one. Hummers and Chevys are some of my favorites.
I'm a big vehicle person too! We drive a Ford Excursion and are wondering what we'll do when it craps out - no way to pull our trailer with anything smaller...

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Do any of you go camping? Any tips for me?
What do you camp in? We have a quad bunk trailer that we all fit in. We plan to put the babies in a playpen where the dining table is. We just go, hang out and have fun! Just make sure you have food - menus still work even for camping. Much easier to come back from the beach and know what you're having.

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Originally Posted by mommajb View Post
Sweet names! Coming up with more than one name at once is just one thing on the list that makes my head spin when it comes to twins.
I love those names too!!! And yes - it was mind spinning to have to come up with two names at the same time!
post #142 of 228
A quad bunk trailer, huh? I might have to go look for one of those....

We don't camp, but we do travel a lot. Sure would be nice to have a home away from home sometimes.
post #143 of 228
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Originally Posted by Collinsky View Post
This time next year we'll have another toothbrush involved, for a total of 7 - and even if we have two bathrooms by then, I'm pretty sure all brushing will happen in just one of them. So this is something that is going to bug me for the next few years! LOL
Do you have a piece of wood and a drill? I only have four dc and any sort of so-called 'storage solution' we've found usually has a maximum of four and sometimes six whatevers. Six never ends up being enough anyway because at least one of us has two of the thing to store. I make all of our 'racks' including for towels. I once had all the toothbrushes hung on nails. It worked.

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Originally Posted by annettemarie View Post
I always said I wanted a dozen. I don't think that's going to happen, but I just love the joy a big family brings. And, to be really frank, I had an absolutely craptastic childhood. I see mothering as a chance to sort of even the scales. There's something very redemptive for me in loving my children. I can look at them at their absolute worst and know with certainty in my heart that even when they're being little terrors, they still wouldn't deserve the stuff that was done to me. And in some small way, that helps me realize that what was done to me as a child wasn't because I was inherantly unlovable or defective. Is that too weird?
I resonate deeply with this. What has been absolutely amazing to me is how easy it is to love my dc. I grew up thinking that it was a great burden to love a child (or in the case of my father to continue to love one even when they are different than their parents), so I was delighted to find it so automatic and so natural to me when I was first pg, and since, of course.

This early erroneous belief kept me from having anything to do with small children as I grew, so my first son was the first newborn I'd ever seen in person, let alone held. It was a transforming event to hold him and be so overwhelmed with the ease of love coming from me and the desire to keep loving him and the assurance from within that I just would. To this day, it is easy to love them. It still seems amazing to me. I don't foresee any reason for it to become a burden either. Isn't that amazing? I can just love them now and love them always and I don't have to stop for anything. THAT is something I will always get to do. It's wonderful!

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Originally Posted by rajahkat View Post
What was the original question? Oh! We have a 'big' family because we really like sex and really don't like birth control.

Kat
Yup. Us too. Is this your response to people's questions about your family size? My dh has always wanted to say that, and has but only to close friends who aren't offended.




Mamas, how many years do you have boys and girls sharing rooms? We have all boys now, but if our new babe is a girl, we'll need another bedroom at some point. At what age do you subdivide the sexes?

My friend has a 4.5yr old girl sharing with a 3 yr old boy, but they've started being a little more than curious, so she's considering separating them. Three seems young, but I guess it depends on the child? If 3 yrs is pretty standard, we don't have much time to complete our house plans! Yikes!!! Then again, we may have made another boy and we can still take our time.
post #144 of 228
subbing .. I've posted a few times in the past but seem to get busy (gee wonder why ) and forget! I'm Sarah, mama to my 5, I'll be 35 in July and thought we *might* be done but like a pp odd numbers don't sit well with me so we shall see dh would have as many as I want (gotta love him ) but of course family seem to think we have a few too many right now. We have one dd (oldest) then 4 boys so of course we get the "trying for a girl?" with the last 2 pregnancies, and while yes I would love another baby girl I love my boys just as much and would welcome many more boys! We own our house... small but it's ours! It's about 1500 sq ft but mil has an inlaw apt on the first floor and that with the basement room takes about 600 sq ft so we're left with 900 sq ft for the 7 of us... it's doable but takes organization and minimalization (2 things which I'm VERY good at ) we do hope to do a 2 floor addition in the next 2-3 yrs so that would give us a new family room so we could extend our current kitchen (10'x12') and a new BIG bedroom with a HUGE closet for the current 3 little boys and whomever might come along before then We would like to get a larger vehicle in the future (might come sooner though if we add to our family sooner than later) as now we all just fit in our 7 passenger Windstar. dh is talking about an excursion (he's a Ford man) but the appeal of a 12 passenger van excites me, lol.
post #145 of 228
I'm having a MAJOR "What was I thinking getting pregnant again!!!?????!!!!" kind of days. I'm gagging and throwing up, have a headache, just want to go to bed, but not only do I have my kids but I also have 7 preschoolers who come here three mornings a week. They are happily eating now, something I cannot even watch today. ugh! I'm 12 weeks today. This will pass soon, right??? I'm trying hard not to just start crying.
post #146 of 228
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Originally Posted by amj'smommy View Post
We have one dd (oldest) then 4 boys so of course we get the "trying for a girl?" with the last 2 pregnancies, and while yes I would love another baby girl I love my boys just as much and would welcome many more boys!
Isn't that SO obnoxious? And people say it right in front of my sons!
post #147 of 228
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Originally Posted by mataji4 View Post
I'm having a MAJOR "What was I thinking getting pregnant again!!!?????!!!!" kind of days. I'm 12 weeks today. This will pass soon, right??? I'm trying hard not to just start crying.
I don't know. I'm having those days myself and I'm 36 weeks today. I'm dreading labor, which is pretty normal for me, I guess. I've always had such an easy time, but I guess I just like to torment myself with thoughts that THIS will be the time that it's really a bear.

Anyhoo, I do hope it gets easier for you.

Kat
post #148 of 228
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Originally Posted by PreggieUBA2C View Post
Mamas, how many years do you have boys and girls sharing rooms? We have all boys now, but if our new babe is a girl, we'll need another bedroom at some point. At what age do you subdivide the sexes?

My friend has a 4.5yr old girl sharing with a 3 yr old boy, but they've started being a little more than curious, so she's considering separating them. Three seems young, but I guess it depends on the child? If 3 yrs is pretty standard, we don't have much time to complete our house plans! Yikes!!! Then again, we may have made another boy and we can still take our time.
We have our older 3 sharing - a girl who is 7 and two boys, 5 and 4. We have just taught them to change in the bathroom or to knock before entering the room if the door is closed.

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Originally Posted by anstar View Post
A quad bunk trailer, huh? I might have to go look for one of those....

We don't camp, but we do travel a lot. Sure would be nice to have a home away from home sometimes.
It is awesome. We lived in it 2 summers in a row while building our house to save rent money. http://diamondrv.rvusa.com/2005-keys...bhs-MA-i104461 that is the exact one we have.
post #149 of 228
so how many toys are are not 'community owned' and belong to just one child?


Obviously there are age categories and currently in my house there are 'girls' toys and 'boy' toys so its easy to separate of whos is whos but with the likely addition of three more kids and (maybe more later?)

for MoM are most toys shared? how many toys belong to just one child at your house? how are 'that mine' fights sorted out?
post #150 of 228
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Originally Posted by onyxravnos View Post
so how many toys are are not 'community owned' and belong to just one child?


Obviously there are age categories and currently in my house there are 'girls' toys and 'boy' toys so its easy to separate of whos is whos but with the likely addition of three more kids and (maybe more later?)

for MoM are most toys shared? how many toys belong to just one child at your house? how are 'that mine' fights sorted out?
Oh that's a big fight in the boys' room right now. DSS 14 is SUPER protective of his toys, specifically his Playmobil and Legos. He doesn't want DSS 9 touching any of his ghost pirates or barbarians. I get it because at his mom's house, he's the oldest of 7 and he has to share all of his stuff. But it does get frustrating when they fight about who's blue Lego block is whose and when I find barbarians in his sock drawer because he's hidden them.

Those are really the only things that cause a problem. Other than that, everyone knows what stuff belongs to who and the rule is they have to ask before they use it. But that pretty much just applies to Nerf guns and DS games. The girls share their barbies and barbie clothes. They play with their American Girl stuff together. Board games go on the family game shelf and get used by everyone.
post #151 of 228
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Originally Posted by onyxravnos View Post
so how many toys are are not 'community owned' and belong to just one child?


Obviously there are age categories and currently in my house there are 'girls' toys and 'boy' toys so its easy to separate of whos is whos but with the likely addition of three more kids and (maybe more later?)

for MoM are most toys shared? how many toys belong to just one child at your house? how are 'that mine' fights sorted out?
Almost all our toys are community owned. When they get a new gift for a birthday/christmas/holiday etc they get to play with it on their own for one week, then its available to all.

The few exceptions are my daughters Barbies - the boys are too rough and mean with them, and items already built with lego - if its built you do NOT destroy it unless the person who built is says its okay. My daughter's little Ipod Shuffle is off limits unless the boys ask her for it also, but they really have no interest in it so its not an issue.

The things that are NOT sharable are the stuffies - you leave everyones' stuffies alone - no ifs, ands or buts.
post #152 of 228
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Originally Posted by ChaoticMum View Post
Almost all our toys are community owned. When they get a new gift for a birthday/christmas/holiday etc they get to play with it on their own for one week, then its available to all.
... The things that are NOT sharable are the stuffies - you leave everyones' stuffies alone - no ifs, ands or buts.
This sounds like us. Totally. My three are very close in age, so I don't have a whole lot that one can't play with because they aren't old enough. And babies (stuffies, dollies, cuddles) are TOTALLY off limits. Absolutely not shared, ever.

What we deal with relates to who is playing with something at a given time. the 4 and 3 yos are able to play with a lot of toys at a time in a complex way - building a marching parade out of all the playmobil guys, for instance. The 20mo doesn't get it. He is under the impression that if he is holding it, it is his to play with. If they aren't holding it, it must be available. So, he'll pick up a thing that the others are playing with but not presently holding. I have to remind the youngest that his brothers were indeed playing with it, even if they aren't holding it. And I have to remind the older two that their brother doesn't know they are playing with it if they aren't holding it. I'm just now figuring out that the item does need to be returned to the olders since they were playing with it, but that they should offer something else to the youngest so he doesn't feel left out. That's the hardest right now, I think.
post #153 of 228
Yes, most toys in our home are community too. Currently anyway. My eldest has a few things that he gets upset about the others using, which I totally understand as they tend to be breakable. So I just encourage him to make sure he puts them up high when he is done so no one else gets ahold. For the most part, I don't get involved and expect them to sort out problems on their own.

For example, if the olders want to build something that could get knocked down by a younger, it is their responsibility to go into a closed room to do it, not set it up in the middle of the living room where it then turns into screaming for mom to "keep the baby away!"

Honestly, they all share pretty well, and we don't have too terribly many toy arguments. (Yay!)

Kat
post #154 of 228
Very few items in our house are community owned. Mostly, I think that is because of the age differences between the same gender children, with most being about four years different. Anything that does not belong to someone specific belongs to me, the caretaker. That includes all the games in our game room, the computers, the books, and a few select toys.
post #155 of 228
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Originally Posted by onyxravnos View Post
so how many toys are are not 'community owned' and belong to just one child?

?

Most of the toys are shared. The older girls each have their own American Girls dolls. they know which stuffed animals are their. they have a shelf in their room that is their own stuff.
post #156 of 228
We're like Jenny here it seems. Not so many "community owned" toys. They get stuff for their birthdays etc. and that is theirs. But they learn to share of course. With some exeptions (like babies, stuffed whatevers etc.). One can always ask to borrow anything, but sometimes I'm fine with a no, other times I might encourage sharing.
They're generally good at sharing and we don't really have any toy fights.
post #157 of 228
How does bedtime go for all of you?
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How does bedtime go for all of you?
Badly atm.

One teen works till late then wants to stay up even later watching episodes of House online in the kitchen; his bro goes to bed about 9.30ish without any trouble but once he is in bed ds1 can't really do stuff like watch movies in their bedroom, hence the kitchen thing.

One 6yo would go to bed alright if she didn't have a nutty procrastinating little sister who refuses any bedtime approaches at all. Frida fights sleep at all costs and even if you pin her to the bed she won't be asleep before 11pm and there will be a lot of palaver inbetween. Stroke me here, no not like that, stroke me there, I'll hold the hand you are stroking me with and move it myself, I'll kick you. I'll need a drink, I scream in your ear that I don't want to go to bed, I want a story but I don't want you to read it out loud or hold the book or turn the pages....... on and on with insanity until she finally gives in. It makes no difference if it is me or dh. She will grow out of it some time.

FTR I'm not looking for a solution: I'm just complaining.
post #159 of 228
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How does bedtime go for all of you?
Generally very well.
First, we eat supper together sometime before the first bedtime. Then one of us takes the 4 yo. to the bathroom, brush teeth, get undressed, wash, put on jammies. Then hugs for everyone, and into bed, read a few books and he either falls asleep while we read or we finish up and say it's time to sleep. He either rolls over and goes to sleep or asks for some audibook or music (calm, night time music, obviously, not disco). We put it on, and he falls asleep just after that while listening.
He's in bed (and lights off) by 7 pm. He wakes up early, like around 7 am.
Same routine with the 6 yos., they are in bed by 7.30-8 pm. Only difference is that we read in the library 'coz they are in the family bed where the 4 yo. is asleep. And if they want to listen to audiobooks/music after they get into bed they do it on their iPods, and we turn them off after a certain time. (Latest, 8.15 pm.) And they can gladly sleep until 8 or 9 if they get the chance, but if they're going to school, they get up around 7.30 am.
And the 11 yo. takes his bathroom trip alone, but essentially the same for him too. But we don't read to him though, he reads on his own after going to bed. He likes it when we follow him in, and kinda "tuck him in" before he reads, he's the only one who sleeps in his own room. He's in bed by 8.30-9 pm. (Lights off by 9.15 pm.) He has to get up 7.30 am. for school.

The baby is just starting to get some kinda bedtime routine. We usually do her night routine in the bathroom between the 6 yos. and the 11 yo. Around 7.30 pm. Then she gets her last bottle of the day around 8 pm. and falls asleep on the feeders chest/in our arms/wrap while we are walking her just after that. And then we just put her in the family bed. She sleeps until somewhere between 12-02 am. when we go to bed, we take a bottle in with us and give it to her then, kinda in her sleep, and change her diape, and then she sleeps until around 8 am.

Gosh, that was long.
It's just that we like bedtime, even though we are very AP and GD, we stick to bedtimes. It's our only chance to get to talk a little and spend some time together alone, after everyones bed times. And we need to talk, or sometimes just watch an episode of something while cuddling on the couch. Or do other stuff.
We've never let anyone cry or anything, but we've worked so the bedtimes and falling asleep alone would work. Everyone is happy like this.



On a totally different note, I have all this time to write because I'm in the hospital with little miss cotton ball button once again. She had a grand mal seizure that wouldn't stop and she went into status epilepticus while we were in the ambulance to the hospital. They managed to stop them by "knocking her out" there. She stopped breathing during the seizure and I was bagging her the whole time, but she didn't start again, so she had to be intubated and put on a vent. So, she's "asleep", on the vent, are staying like that at least until tomorrow. So I'm just sitting here, watching her, and being scared and worried anyway.
It's night time, so I try not to bug her too much, during the day I talk to her, sing to her, read to her, stroke her, hold her hand etc.
I hope, hope, hope we can get her to wake up and come off the vent tomorrow.
post #160 of 228
saying a little prayer for Little Miss Cottonball.
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