What would you have done? (a bit long... Sorry!) - Page 2

[mamazee]

I would have done the undies under the diaper thing too.

I'd also stop calling them "big boy undies" or anything like that, because of course he wants to be a big boy, and then wearing a diaper will make him feel like a baby, particularly now that there is a tiny baby for him to compare himself to. He can't control when his bladder will keep him dry all night, and I wouldn't relate that to being a big boy. Maybe tell him that lots of big boys still have to wear diapers at night, for a long time after they're able to stay dry during the day.

Another thought - maybe buy a different style of diaper, pullups or good nights or something - and say that those are "big boy nighttime diapers" as opposed to baby diapers.

[JBaxter]

What would I have done...

Let him keep his undies and told him the extra diaper over them would be there just incase he had a little sprinkle at night time. I did it alot when my boys were potty training and we needed to go on a long car trip. Undies then a pull up.

Hang in there

[pixiekisses]

I would have let the kid sleep in his undies. It's my kid, I decide. And actually, overhearing my mom saying something like "you'll see, mummy will say no too like I did" would make me tell her exactly what I felt about saying that kinda thing to my kid afterwards. Not ok, at all.
And I would have held him when he wanted to be held of course, and if anyone tried to force hold my child I would've gotten really mad, physical contact like that is not to be forced, ever.

But that's me, and I don't have any problems standing up for my kids to anyone. Mama bear inside me kicks in.
I would certainly work on it, if I were you though, you are your childs only advocate. And it's nothing wrong with disagreeing with your mother, it is your child, your decision. You said you were polite about it, and that's good. But know that it's your child, and you are the expert, and your mother needs to learn to respect that.