Mumblemama- I know 2010 has just begun, but 2009 seemed to go out with flurry of activity and just seemed to stall! Ya my neighbour, I think he may have been my rebound man! I am seriously not impresssed, and not into stupid head games like that. It's not like I wanted to stay all night and play video games and eat all your food. I really was just gonna drop off the movies, maybe see your new puppy and be gone. Whatever, his loss. I seriously don't think he is ready for or wants to make time for a relationship. If he contacts me fine I'll be somewhat polite, but I need to be the priority not the option when you're bored!
as for dating women, do whatever you feel is right. At the end of the day we are really only accountable to ourselves. If it makes you happy and feels right go for it!
Monkeysmom- that guy sounds way to intense! I don't know if I would contact him again. I agree I don't like to have to answer to someone. If I want to answer to someone fine, but I am an adult and I don't have to check in, your not my parents and I'm not 15 anymore!
So my update! neighbour out, his loss
Mudpuppy still sort of in the running, but to be honest I really don't think we'd have enough in common to even make it thru a date!
New guy who I hadn't really mentioned.....he's from pof, we'll call him countryboy,contacted me the first day I joined back in Dec. we exchanged a few messages, nothing big, he did offer to take me out for dinner or even just a soda ( I don't drink coffee). Then I got busy with the kids having chicken pox, Christmas, my neighbour
etc. To be honest I was a bit freaked out that I had run into him while out shopping one day. He recognised me from my picture, and he was easy to spot as well. I don't know why it just seemed odd to run into a guy with no kids in the toy department at Zellers. He is on my fb friends list, and he'd probably seen my status about going out shopping I figured. I know I jump to conclusions! Something I need to work on. Anyway last night on a whim after feeling rejected I messaged him on pof. He came on fb chat not long after and we chatted for 4 hours! 4 hours, I was lucky to get the neighbour to talk an hour and even then it wasn't about anything serious or important! So I pretty much know his life story, I think we have similar values, back grounds etc. He is from a very french catholic family. Youngest of six children. Has no kids of his own, but his x wife had 3 boys that he helped raise. Married for 5 years. It sounds as though he did a lot of the house work, cooking looking after her kids and working at least one if not 2 jobs while they were together. So hard working, responsible he owns his own house with 2 acres in the country. no huge red flags except he is maybe a bit to focused on finding a girl friend. He actually took down his pof last night, because he had been on for a year, lots of dates but hadn't found "the One" for him and was too focused on finding her. I don't know if that is really a red flag, or desperation? but it's a new year and his resolution I guess is to not focus so much on that part of life. He is focusing on buying man toys he never had with his x! Like the new to him truck he bought over the holidays and an atv. oh yes and he is a mechanic as well, almost done apprenticing will go for his license in June. Another red flag possibly is that when he was 24 he had a nervous breakdown, he's 33 now. He said it was mainly due to his business partner, he was in some computer business I think he said. After that he moved to Ottawa to live with his sister and changed his whole lifestyle. quit smoking, doesn't drink much at all.
He messaged me on Facebook this morning to say he enjoyed chatting last night and when could we do it again. He also gave me his # if I need anything. I think I might try to set up a date for next weekend maybe! We both like to go out for breakfast so maybe next Sunday morning we could do just that! I'll keep chatting him this week and see.
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