monkey'smom. Ugh. Sorry you are dealing with this. Glad you've got him blocked. My ex was stalking my online profile for a while (sent me a message, even) and what I did was put up a very minimal profile, with no picture, and limited information (but hopefully conveying a bit of my personality/sense of humor). I knew that it was very unlikely that I would get anyone contacting me with that profile, but at least I had a presence on the site in order to initate contact with people. In my first note I explained that I was uneasy about being recognizable online (I live in a very small, rural state, so lots of people feel this way, even without a stalker) and gave more info and offered to send pics if they wrote back. This is how I met ATG.
Butterfly...hoping to hear that at least one of these guys was worth a flip. Update us when you can!
Sabra...
So happy things are going so well for you!
Seie. You sound a bit better
. Don't push yourself to date though, if you don't want to. I know what you mean about the profiles. I look for tone/writing style (and skill, cause that matters to me) more than content in an initial profile...something that shows a bit of personality!
momanderson....you SHOULD pursue a meeting with mudpuppy. Seriously. You and I sound so much alike, I think, and it did me a WORLD of good to just GO on dates with the men who contacted me, and recognize that I AM someone interesting and attractive -- hard to remember after many years in a crummy marriage and many years being no one but mommy to many little children. For a while, I pledged to myself that I would agree to a coffee date with anyone who asked me (barring total weirdos, of course) and it was such good practice and really boosted my sense of who I was and who I was looking for.
Brittneyscott...glad you're back! We were worried about you!
mumblemama....looking forward to your updates as well. And just reiterating what everyone else has said, OF COURSE we want to hear about dates with women as well as men.
Ceinwen used to hang around here, and she came out, got up the courage to ask out her dd's daycare provider and now is happily coupled! I also have dated women in the past, and am certainly open to it in the future. I have the same problem you do though, in that "real" lesbians are generally skeptical/wary of women who are bisexual/"experimenting" which is definitely the category I fall into.
I know I'm forgetting to respond to some of you, but I am at work and should probably get some work done!
Things continue to be good with ATG. There are a few little things that I'm wondering about, as I consider (to myself, of course) if I'd want to be with him long term, but they are all things that are "in progress" for him, so it just depends on how they play out, and what he does to take action in his own life. And in the meantime, I really really like him and he makes me feel great, so ....
: She treated him like crap. We both figure whoever she left him for left her.
Then if he wanted any. I think she likes me...
I understand allowing people to do things outside of normal bounds of friendship when they have a thing for you.. but in the end, it's their choice and no promises were made.
