Originally Posted by BettinaAuSucre
My partner keeps waffling between wanting a kid and not.
last night he was rubbing my tummy, and saying he wanted to TTC now.
but earlier that day, he said he wasnt sure whether kids were a good idea.
i am so freakin confused!
not sure whether i should go or not.
s: Men can be so confusing on this issue. I hope that he makes a decision soon, for your sake!!
Originally Posted by MarineWife
I can't stand condoms, either. I don't know that they really hurt me but they don't feel good at all. When we've dtd with condoms that's all I can think about. Not enjoyable at all. My dh suggested a vasectomy but I told him I would be very upset if he did that. Not only do I still want the possibility of having another child some day, I'm not convinced that surgical sterilization is as safe as everyone says. I've known people who've had vas reversals because they decided they wanted more children only to find out they are still sterile because of sperm antibodies. Who knows how else that might affect a man's health.
What about using abstinence just during your fertile window? Or is it too long? That's part of my issue with abstinence. My cycles are so long and irregular with weeks of potential fertility based on CF and horrible cramps during my lp that make dtd nearly impossible that we'd never dtd using abstinence. I feel like w/d is our only option at this point.
Well, I had about 12 days of creamy/watery this cycle and due to religious reasons we can't have sex for the first 7 days of my cycle. So it really cuts out on DTD. The main reason though is that I really enjoy sex during my fertile time and at other times I don't nearly as much. I feel that cutting it out at the time I enjoy it the most is kind of unfair to me, as I really want to enjoy sex too.
We were just arguing about that this morning. He wants to use a condom or abstain during anytime I have fertile type fluid, and like I said he already w/d ALL the time no matter where I am in my cycle (as a matter of fact, he even w/d when using a condom!) so I'm just feeling like...to put it nicely...sex is going to suck for me from here on out.
I'm just feeling sorry for myself. I understand not needing another child right now, but it sure can put a damper on things to have to be so careful. We'll get it figured out. Thanks for commiserating with me.
AFM today: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2be681
It feels as if AF is at my doorstep, but this is the longest cycle I've ever had. I have alternating AF and pregnancy symptoms so I'm not sure what to think. I don't have any tests so don't tell me to take any!!
I guess only time will tell.