Soooo many updates today, so let's see how many I can remember.
Kimmie- I see BFN, yay! (... ok so this was after the first batch of photos- in the second... i feel like I could go either way. i think I see where the line "should be", what MW is seeing, but I'm not sure if I'm just seeing it because I want to see it...)
I too am in the camp where I hate condoms, like will avoid sex with them, however I *did* find that switching types helps immensely (though not so much that I will willingly use them...)
I'm finding now that we're on the verge of TTC, I'm leaning towards DTD not because I want to, but because I want to get pregnant, and I'm frustrating myself with that. I do want to be pg, but like MW said-- I don't want it to be a purposeful thing. I want to have sex for the sake of having sex, not be having it when I'm not in the mood simply because I'm fertile. le sigh.
DH does the same back and forth about wanting to start TTC or not, but I've starting being very firm with him and telling him he's not allowed to play with my emotions. He'll give me a hug and then pat my belly and do the cutesy 'oh hello baby', which is so cute-- but then it gets my hopes up, so I told him the last few times he's done something like that that he's not allowed to unless he means it. A woman's emotions run haywire enough as it is without that!!
MW- We have a similiar agreement, except I give DH more information. I keep him almost daily informed as to what's happening in the cycle, and then when we DTD if i think there's a chance I'm fertile I tell him once, and only once, that he should probably grab a condom. If he declines, then that's his decision. Often he'll ask before I get a chance to say anything, and I always tell him well I'm on CD X, so it's possible, but you make the decision. Sometimes he'll use backup, and sometimes he decides to leave it to chance, but I'm sure as heck not going to be the one to tell him to do something to prevent. I'd love to give him no information unless he asks for it, but I'm not sure he'd go for it, and seeing as this would be our first, and obviously a major life change, I'd feel bad singlehandedly making that decision.
Toolip-- I have that thermometer too, and I love it except that it's not backlit. I don't have a nightstand on my side of the bed, so I keep the thermometer under my pillow. I'm currently trying to find a little flashlight that I can keep under my pillow with it. Other than that, it seems to be accurate enough for me!
As for the method of temping, about 50% of the time I'm getting up just to temp, and then going back to bed, so I just pull the thermometer out from under the pillow, turn it on in the dark, put in mouth, wait for beep, turn it off, put back under the pillow. Then later on I grab the thermometer and take it to the computer and use the memory function to record my temp for that day. Seeing as I don't leave my bed, and I'm still asleep, I don't feel vaginal temping would be very practical!!