Originally Posted by Xavismom
Feeling really sad and alienated lately. I have a lot of Mama friends, but they are all very very different from me. Had a playdate a few days ago, and my friends got very uncomfortable when I needed to nurse my DS, and I was uncomfortable during discusions on CIO... I just dont know how much more of this I can take
. This is really hard. Having a friend who was like minded when my son was small was what saved me. He was such a hard baby and everyone told me is was because I was doing everything wrong. I'm glad I had someone telling me that trusting my instincts was doing the best thing for him.
I went to a pretty mainstream group recently too. I click really well with one of the moms, even though she does things really differently, but boy, it felt so weird when my DD asked to nurse (she's 16mo).
It really does get better as they get older. The differences in parenting don't seem so huge, and a lot of that stuff doesn't really come up anymore. Instead, you swap funny stories about things they say or do or what kinds of things they are interested in, or you go to places that the kids will enjoy, which gives you something else to talk about besides eating and sleeping habits.
|I am a very shy person normaly, and I will admit its hard for me to make new friends, but I would very much like to be friends with some other Mamas that have more in common with me, and I would very much like my DS to have some other babies to play with.
I'm an introvert. Making friends has been pretty hard for me too. Throw in there that I'm not LDS and I feel kinda outside a lot of the time. You sound like a really nice person that I would want to be friends with
You know, we do really well at LLL. The mamas there have similar parenting styles and there is something to talk about instead trying to make chit chat and make friends. YOu might try that out too. Aren't you up in SLC?
|If you guys do start up playdates and such again, I would really like to join in.
Sorry I haven't been around so much lately. We haven't really been busy or anything, I've just been kinda a homebody for a while. I'm getting really anxious to get out with people again though. Unfortunately, it will be hard to get out this week because I'm going on vacation with my sister and my DD (girl's trip!) to Seattle from the 22-25. I still have a lot to do to prepare for it, and I want to spend as much time with my DS as I can since this will be the first time he's home with just Dad for that amount of time (apparently, they're going camping while I'm away).
But when we get back, we'll be rarin' to play! I really like Mondays or Fridays, but really we can work around just about anything.
Liv, what kind of issues does your nephew have? Is he just really high energy? Sounds like he and my DS might have fun chasing each other around at a park or something. Andrew loves the "chase me until I'm so tired I fall over" game.