Dingos Take on 2010 at a RUN - Page 58

[calicocj]

Oops forgot to ask...

mamabeth (or anyone!) - I have several folks looking for a mama-made Mei Tei and I'm not sure where to point them since you've been out of business! Any recommendations??

[JenLove]

Massage appointment. Check.
RV spot. Check.
DH and I registered for 5K. Check.

Woot!

I didn't nap, but I cuddled with V and watched/listened to the Apple conference this morning. Relaxing enough. I didn't get out of my pjs til past lunch. It's still looking gloomy outside so I am guessing no hike today. Maybe some cleavage chick workout later.

[HomeBirthMommy]

I had a great class this morning. And some chatting time with Mommabelle this afternoon. Good day!


RM-any word yet?

I am ashamed to say that I was one of those women that did very little research into childbirth the first time around. It took me a long time to come to terms with that birth and I still deal with some guilt surrounding it. I often wonder if it contributed in some way to all of the problems dd1 has. I am proud to say that births 2 and 3 were completely as *I* wanted them.

[mamabeth]

Hey y'all, reporting in with a TM run this afternoon. The weather is nice here but I wanted to watch TV and so I am resolved to not feel guilty about it. I watch Cougar Town which is funny and trashy, and it got me thru an hour.

I like the AT jeans, but I am REALLY loving these Lucky's the more I wear them! I had tried on a bunch in the store, Lucky, True Religion, Joe's Jeans, even when I had $$ to spend, and didn't like them (I am not shaped right, apparently). But these are mid-rise boot cut, I think? The rest are too low for the mama-pouch.

Hi HBM! hopefully next week we can all meet up....it's been forever!

Lofty, so glad you saw the clip! I totally thought this movie was just going to be a hobby of dh's (and it still sort of is) until the Duvall name got batted around. And really, even then I never thought it would happen. so you never know.

Hmmm, Callie, I don't even know what to tell you! I am so out of the babywearing world, sadly. I'm assuming she's been to thebabywearer.com ? plenty of mama-owned businesses there.

Need to get making some biscuits so I will catch you dingoes later.

[eksmom]

Originally Posted by HomeBirthMommy

I am ashamed to say that I was one of those women that did very little research into childbirth the first time around. It took me a long time to come to terms with that birth and I still deal with some guilt surrounding it. I often wonder if it contributed in some way to all of the problems dd1 has. I am proud to say that births 2 and 3 were completely as *I* wanted them.

HBM, you just described me. I know now that I was terrified, and that's why I left it up to the OBs, since they were so much more experienced than I was. It was a traumatic birth, and the untreated PPD didn't help matters either. I mull over the same types of things about DD's personality and my bond with her. DH thinks I'm nuts, so while I'm sorry that you have a similar issue, thanks for putting it out there so I know I'm not alone. DS's birth was very healing for me, but it didn't help with what I perceive to be missing between DD and me. I have never talked to anyone about this because most people can't even seem to grasp that a birth could be bad as long as the baby is OK at the end.

[memiles]

HBM and eks, big hugs to both of you. It's NOT just about the physical health of mom and baby.

[bec]

Oh, believe me, I heard that one all the time after my c-section with my first! I, too, labored without pain meds and on pitocin. My water broke before labor started, and they panicked, set me up with pit, strapped me to the bed (constant monitoring), and made me hold still on my back for 9 hours before saying, "Well, we tried everything, let's get the baby out." Katie was tolerating labor just fine. My body just wasn't ready to be in labor yet. I'm betting another 12 hours would have done it. Especially given the EXACT same circumstances happened with Abby. The difference was that I was at home, with a patient midwife who had faith in me and my body. I did a lot of healing with births 2 and 3

Jeans - I have the big gap in the back, while being tight in the front, and tight thigh thing as well. The jeans that fit me the best are the Jones of New York jeans. I think they are a Macy's brand. Love them!

Exercise - Ooh, boy, did I do a lot today! I planned on Zumba, and then to meet RP to lift weights. I figured that we would lift for about 30 minutes or so. She was a little late (got my class time wrong), so I ran around the track for 2 miles before she got there. I ran into another woman I've been trying to connect with to run with, so I ended up running quite a bit faster than I had intended. Then, RP gave us an hour long routine to lift! All this would have been fine (I've worked out for over 2 hours before, if not very often), except that I had really not eaten enough food for 2.5 hours worth of exercise! Nor had I brought any fuel with me. I was HUNGRY when I got home!

RM - I hope you get an appropriate level of A$$ kissing from mister gym teacher jerk.

[JayGee]

My first birth was a lot like that too ~ induced 10 days after my due date, prepadil, Pitocin, mag sulfate for high blood pressure. No wonder I never dilated past 3 cm in 40 hours. C-section, separated from DS for 2 hours after birth, tremendous difficulty with nursing, PPD, and the world's fussiest baby. I really didn't like him, or myself for at least a year after that. I healed a lot after the two subsequent VBACs. Thank goodness. I wanted to murder anyone who said, "Gosh, it's a good thing you were in the hopsital! Imagine what could have happened otherwise!" Ummmm, like what? A normal, natural birth. Heaven forbid .

Unfortunately, my stomach yuckiness returned this afternoon so I'm skipping my endurance class tonight. I did manage 1.5 miles on the track this morning and 30 minutes of intervals on the elliptical.

[grnmtnmama]

Speaking of births, I did a TON of research before DS. I literally read thousands of birth stories and was mentally prepared for anything. I sought out a midwife and hospital that was most accommodating to what I wanted, I hung out at home after my water broke keeping myself busy until contractions started almost 12 hours later, then labored at home until the last possible minute. Arrived at the hospital ready to go and gave birth in the tub shortly thereafter. It was precisely the birth I wanted, which now that it's likely that it's the only birth that I will experience, makes me happy.

Today turned into a rest day. I have some lower back pain so I paid a visit to my sports doc/chiro. Have to get into a good place before the AZ trip next week.

Working really hard on mental preparation for this race. Getting myself in the head space to embrace the pain and push harder in the tough spots. It's going to be a long day in the saddle and I want to do a lot better than last year. Physically I can't do a whole lot more between now and then, but mentally I can do a lot.

Not wanting to jinx anything, but DS has really turned things around in school. Only one bad day out of the past 12 or so. Things are going much better and I hate to say it, but I really think that the other kid leaving the school helped out a lot.

Off to go crash on the couch, sleepy tonight.

[JayGee]

Anyone else catch the barefoot running story on NPR's All Things Considered today?

Here is the link !

[Geofizz]

Hey Mandy, I'm so happy your DS has been doing better. I hadn't realized the other kid left the school. I've got a friend here in town that gets daily emails from her son's teacher, some of which start with "Guess what your kid did TODAY..." For a perfectly charming kid anytime I see him (in his home environment, of course), it seems totally foreign that they are dealing with all this. Blech.

Anyone know about grossly asynchronous language development? Like, learning to read before knowing how to use basic words like 'the'? We now entertain DS by writing out silly sentences for him to read. All "sight" words come easily, except those words he doesn't use in speech. Stumbling over "the" every time we hit it has been an interesting adventure in language. We're honestly wondering if he'll get the rest of expressive speech by reading it first.

[Penelope]

Skimming along here... I did *not* read that there's such a thing as Lucky Jeans outlet, no I did not!

RR: big fat nada, sigh. Got up too late (5:30 was too late) and now I'm 1.5 glasses of wine into my evening, so - prolly not gonna run 5m. Tomorrow. That's my plan.

My last-semester student evals came today and they were so good I a. cried and b. immediately emailed my colleague to tell him "my evaluations were so good I cried!" I finally feel like I'm hitting my stride with my particular student population. Which is awesome. Especially given that I forgot to order my freakin' textbook for one course! They can rush order them, but good gosh dang. Hellooooo, airheadedness.

Plus, stressful meeting after which the president of the faculty sniped at me (for not making the academic dean shut up, which, I do not have super powers, thank you, or tenure either) and dh is really trying my patience and and and. So good to know my students like me and the cookies I bring to class.

[Runningmommy]

Originally Posted by eksmom

Oh, RM, I would be the same way with the anxiety and the phone ringing. I hope the teacher just calls already so that part can be over with.

Okay , so he called, and described the situation in the "nice"way. He didn't aplogize or talk about the yelling. So, I'm having dh call him. I felt too wussy and think that dh could do a better job as well as the fact that it will tell that dang gym teacher that both of us are upset. I did tell the teacher that school should be a safe place for children to be guided and encouraged and not brought to tears and yelled at. I have a meeting at the school for something else on Friday, which just so happens to be the day that ds1 is having gym again. I just think I'll hang out at the gym that day, HMPH!!

mamajb, our kids get close to an hour of phys ed every four school days. I wish it were 9 hours a year! Is it possible for me to homeschool him only for PE?

[kerc]

Originally Posted by Geofizz

Anyone know about grossly asynchronous language development? Like, learning to read before knowing how to use basic words like 'the'? We now entertain DS by writing out silly sentences for him to read. All "sight" words come easily, except those words he doesn't use in speech. Stumbling over "the" every time we hit it has been an interesting adventure in language. We're honestly wondering if he'll get the rest of expressive speech by reading it first.

He does lots of visual things, right? Like the puzzles upside down thing. If his visual learning skills are really well developed and his reading and writing learning skills are also being used.... if you think of learning styles as the VARK thing: visual, heading, reading and writing, kinesetic. How we learn language usually comes from hearing it because of course we can do that sooner. But I could see it working another way. And in case you wanted to think about this: Erin's learning math like a crazy person. ONLY because her teacher is super good about asking them to express things using words, to tell stories and to use that written language (not numerals). She is faster at learning things like times tables when we have her write out and read: nine times nine is eighty one.

[1jooj]

RM, I have vague memories of kids "testing out" of PE. As in, meeting requirements outside the class. Wish I could remember more, but I don't. Gym class sucked. My kids, luckily, enjoy theirs (for now).

And thanks JayGee for the link to NPR. Reminded me that Temple Grandin was on TOTN this afternoon, and I wanted to go back and read that segment.

Plan went to client. I am taking an extra spa day tomorrow, I think. Doing a bunch of stuff here, too, but I think I am going to leave early and go to the Y and do stuff I like, all alone. Picked up dh, then stopped in to see my sister, got groceries--ALL the stuff I was out of! --and made the kids a nice dinner. Dh watched a movie and dozed all afternoon, and I am pretty sure they are all sleeping now. I am so ready for a few hours to myself.

[Geofizz]

Originally Posted by kerc

He does lots of visual things, right? Like the puzzles upside down thing. If his visual learning skills are really well developed and his reading and writing learning skills are also being used.... if you think of learning styles as the VARK thing: visual, heading, reading and writing, kinesetic. How we learn language usually comes from hearing it because of course we can do that sooner. But I could see it working another way. And in case you wanted to think about this: Erin's learning math like a crazy person. ONLY because her teacher is super good about asking them to express things using words, to tell stories and to use that written language (not numerals). She is faster at learning things like times tables when we have her write out and read: nine times nine is eighty one.

Hmm, not sure I see the connection. He has excellent visual and spatial skills. His receptive language is also quite good (though hard to evaluate at this point given his expressive language problems). Non verbal reasoning also really good. The thing is that the way the speech therapy has been done on both phonological speech and articulation has taught him how we use text to code words. It was a small step to reading. Minus the fact that he can't figure out what that 't-h-e' word is.

And I'm jealous of Erin's teacher. Our math band-aides are getting pretty flimsy.

[JenLove]

Birthing ~ What a raw subject! It's so why I don't want to have more kids now. I'm so afraid of another c-section. I read so much, but I was in need of a doula VERY badly. DH was not as educated as me and although he knew what I wanted he didn't know how to support me in the way I needed it and I was in no way capable of having a discussion about it once things got going. Damn you nurse asking if I wanted demerol during transition. So I until I find a birthing center or a local midwife (and we are settled).. I'm just not ready.

FM ~ We went on a family hike by the San Pedro river today. So cool because there are trees and grasses there because it's actually WET. DH and I noticed the smell of mud right away... what a good smell.

We got in about 1 1/4 miles with the dog and V in the pack. It was pretty leisurely but fun none-the-less.

RM ~ I do believe you can HM just one subject. Most ppl do it the opposite way and bring kids in for gym, but you should totally do it.

V wants to tell you all about her FM. xdfgx

[kerc]

Originally Posted by JenLove

Birthing ~ What a raw subject! It's so why I don't want to have more kids now. I'm so afraid of another c-section. I read so much, but I was in need of a doula VERY badly. DH was not as educated as me and although he knew what I wanted he didn't know how to support me in the way I needed it and I was in no way capable of having a discussion about it once things got going. Damn you nurse asking if I wanted demerol during transition. So I until I find a birthing center or a local midwife (and we are settled).. I'm just not ready.

What you need is to get hooked up with an ICAN group. I figured out all the post-section fears because I WAS pregnant. But I got past a lot of it because of the online ican mailing list. You can do it, I know you can.


Wendy ... I think I miss read your first post. Or maybe was on crack when I read it. Never mind my post.

Yes, math. We are truly enjoying our teacher combo this year. Pretty good thing too because we were close to exploring Catholic schooling. This is not something you take lightly when you grow up in a mostly Catholic suburb of cleveland as the token ELCA Lutheran (dh). :

[Geofizz]

Originally Posted by kerc

Yes, math. We are truly enjoying our teacher combo this year. Pretty good thing too because we were close to exploring Catholic schooling. This is not something you take lightly when you grow up in a mostly Catholic suburb of cleveland as the token ELCA Lutheran (dh). :

Looked at that last week for DS. The kid needs to go to kindy next year. I fear school for him if it doesn't start for another 20 months. Starting early requires having zero deficits, and of course, the expressive delays are going to be the stopping point. Not disabled enough for school services, but too disabled for a reading kid operating at a >2 second grade level for non-verbal things.

[babybugmama]

Okay - take this fwiw, I did not have a c section for my first (how, is amazing given that I pushed for 3 hours...most would try to coerce one at that point). But my first birth was absoultely AWFUL. It actually was traumatic. I had to work through a lot. Funny enough reading a book about labors...all different kinds, it was very anectdotal, was what helped the most. And my second labor. It was amazing. I did not really experience pain except when pushing, and contracting, and E was moving during said pushing and contracting. That hurt. But it was amazing.

Wendy - what you're dealing with is beyond me...but our brains are unique and how we learn to do things is not always "by the book." The fact that he is...that's fantastic! He's obviously a really smart guy, he's just absorbing his world in a less predictable way.

Jen - read, educate your hubby as best you can, the best advice I ever read was to keep my hands and my jaw relaxed and if I needed to, to make that noise horses make (not they whinnying, but the raspberry sounding one) since it forces you to relax your jaw. It worked. During one contraction on the way to the birthing center I actually felt my cervix totally open. Enough that in my head I thought, oh sh*t, I'm having this baby in the car.

4 on the mill. My hip is pinging tonight. I think it's not stretching mon or tue. I guess I need to stretch even on the days I don't run.

I made dh a darth vader cake for his bday...it was a major hit. It had these cake toppers that were darth vader and luke skywalker...the light sabers light up by pushing a little button on the back. There is a three year old boy blissed out in his bed, holding in his grubby little hands darth vader and luke skywalker. I really need to get him a light saber. I am so not a commercial mama. But man when you see what joy a toy can bring a kid...