January Pagan Circle - Page 3

[mary3mama]

Originally Posted by CariOfOz

I came up with Wholeness and abundance. This is the year my family is whole, even if not all physically together yet

Those are wonderful words. I love the very sound of the word Abundance. I used to look at my very round belly during my last pregnancy and saw to myself, 'I'm not fat, I'm ABUNDANT.'

Originally Posted by unschoolinmom

As I was driving home tonight after picking up some chamomile tea for the kids, I saw the beautiful moon. It was a glorious sight!

What a beautiful moon. I got to watch it rise over the mountains to our east and hover right above the mountain line within the trees for a while. By the time I go to bed usually I can see her out the windows to the west. So very bright and beautiful. Such a nice treat after it being so overcast last night.

Originally Posted by gun

Y2K - I was sitting with a multitude of stored water waiting for the end of the world!

FB group - it's blowing up!!!

My word for the New Year = GUMPTION!!.

Let's see, when 1999 became 2000? I was at home with my dear hubby and our 5 month old first child. We were fairly unconcerned with the Y2K thing, but were ready with extra food just in case. It was my first new year's eve as a mama and I found that I didn't want to be outside my own safe home. The year before I had gotten a confirmation of my first pregnancy on new year's eve and we went to a First Night celebration throughout our downtown and I remember feeling all 'fragile.' Fast forward to the eve before 2000 began I was TIRED and overworked and learning how to be a parent for the first time...which was especially challenging given the high-needs nature of that child.

I wouldn't go back no matter how much money someone offered me. The 10 years from then until now included some of the worst, most depressing, most devastating days of my entire life. I am grateful to be on this end of it and glad that I never have to go *there* again. Onward. Keep looking forward.

Oh, and GUMPTION is a lovely word. I've always had plenty of gumption, just not enough self-confidence to do much with it.

[greenmagick]

Happy New Year

My words for 2010 are Just Do It - yes, stupd Nike slogan but very fitting for me. I am very bad about finishing things or applying things. I will read 30 book on a subject, plan a whole plan out, etc....and then do nothing.

[SunshineJ]

Originally Posted by greenmagick

Happy New Year

My words for 2010 are Just Do It - yes, stupd Nike slogan but very fitting for me. I am very bad about finishing things or applying things. I will read 30 book on a subject, plan a whole plan out, etc....and then do nothing.

One of the gems my dad recently passed along to me was the slogan "ain't nothun to it but t' do it" and boy isn't that the truth on a lot of things! FWIW, I'm notorious for getting a slew of projects started......

[CariOfOz]

Originally Posted by kittywitty

I can't say what word I would pick for last year- I'm pretty sure it's against the rules. . Needless to say, I'm glad 2009 is over.

I think my word for 2010 is mindful.

Great word for the new year I think the word you have in mind for 09 was MY word for 2008 2010 is going to be a year full of awesomeness... maybe awesomeness should be one of my words , it's Jon's favourite word.

Originally Posted by greenmagick

Happy New Year

My words for 2010 are Just Do It - yes, stupd Nike slogan but very fitting for me. I am very bad about finishing things or applying things. I will read 30 book on a subject, plan a whole plan out, etc....and then do nothing.

Ya know, that may be the best advertising slogan ever?! And I think it's a great slogan for 2010 for you

I have been bowling (on the wii ) with the boys. Dh taught me to use it last night, it's so much fun! I'm hoping it encourages me to spend more time engage with the boys (outside of school obviously) as I think Lucas and I especially need that bonding time.

This is going to be a year of completing things for me as well, we can egg each other on I am going to get out my long untouched cross stitch Goddess project and start working on her tonight, I AM going to finish decluttering and organizing, and I am going to 'decorate' a bit since we have decided to stay put in this (icky) area for a little while longer. I figure it should feel like home if I'm going to be here! There are other things that are unfinished as well but I'm focusing on the things that nurture my soul this year. I find cross stitch very meditative, and to be working on such a lovely Goddess image and watching her come together was wonderful. I just got too wrapped up in it and burned out!

[bluets]

Originally Posted by CariOfOz

I find cross stitch very meditative, and to be working on such a lovely Goddess image and watching her come together was wonderful. I just got too wrapped up in it and burned out!

I'm that way with silk ribbon embroidery.... it's not as frustrating for me as cross stitch (especially counted cross stitch)... and once i'm familiar with the pattern and the stitches, it's easy to make rapid progress. plaid/bucilla makes the most simple and small kits that are quite lovely (though you do have to search for those kits coz i don't think they're making them anymore).

i'm also that way with sewing... though there i tend to overdo it with repetitive projects (i.e., projects of the same type but different fabric) -- that's when i get burned out.

i have found that a good rest from the usual projects is coloring in a coloring book or just on coloring pages. mandalas are great for this - repetitive patterns to some extent but lots of variation so that you can still be creative. i even picked up a simple mandala coloring book for ds so that we have some (rare) coloring time together.

[DaughterOfKali]

Snow snow snow. It's going to snow on and off all day. So, we are stuck at home. Roo wants to go outside and play. :shiver I can't stand snow.

I think I may have gotten too excited about the new apartment. It's pretty pricey and I'm not sure that will work out. Wish it wasn't the weekend... I want to know if it's possible NOW.

I did some research on the school district and have heard good things (for special needs children.) So if I do move there, it'll be nice to know that I could try public school with Roo in the fall (if his immune system picks up.)

[redveg]

Originally Posted by gun

I had decided to give up pop for the new year

I am going to try this too.

Originally Posted by greenmagick

My words for 2010 are Just Do It - yes, stupd Nike slogan but very fitting for me. I am very bad about finishing things or applying things. I will read 30 book on a subject, plan a whole plan out, etc....and then do nothing.

Wow, this is me too. I often have 4 or 5 books going at once, 4 or 5 projects going too and they all get half done, if that! I need to remember 1 thing at a time!

Originally Posted by DaughterOfKali

Snow snow snow. It's going to snow on and off all day. So, we are stuck at home. Roo wants to go outside and play. :shiver I can't stand snow.

I think I may have gotten too excited about the new apartment. It's pretty pricey and I'm not sure that will work out. Wish it wasn't the weekend... I want to know if it's possible NOW.

I did some research on the school district and have heard good things (for special needs children.) So if I do move there, it'll be nice to know that I could try public school with Roo in the fall (if his immune system picks up.)

Snowing here all day too. I think we are getting it tomorrow also I hope the new apt. works out. I use to live in one of those apt complex, I loved it. Met a lot of people, and it had a good sense of community.

[redveg]

Well morning mamas

The end of my kids vacation is around the corner back to an empty house during the week. Any plans for the weekend? Me, well I have to clean my house, basic chores, but the place needs a scrubbing!

My dog Nikki is old, and I think she is slowing down, getting ready to move on She's been/she is such a good dog. We adopted her when my neighbors in Florida just left her, and she's been perfect Well, she's been sick, but just when I think about calling the vet to come over, I see that puppy spring back in her step and I can't do it. So I am just going to keep her as comfy as possible and wait for more signs.

[DaughterOfKali]

The only plans I have here is to clean my room; Clean out the bookcase (will hopefully sell our unwanted used books to the local bookstore); Clean the kitchen; Do the laundry.

Hey, that's actually a lot of stuff. Blah.

[mary3mama]

Originally Posted by CariOfOz

This is going to be a year of completing things for me as well, we can egg each other on I am going to get out my long untouched cross stitch Goddess project and start working on her tonight, I AM going to finish decluttering and organizing, and I am going to 'decorate' a bit since we have decided to stay put in this (icky) area for a little while longer. I figure it should feel like home if I'm going to be here! There are other things that are unfinished as well but I'm focusing on the things that nurture my soul this year. I find cross stitch very meditative, and to be working on such a lovely Goddess image and watching her come together was wonderful. I just got too wrapped up in it and burned out!

Cross stitch is very meditative, isn't it! I do enjoy it. I took a LONG break there for several years simply because I couldn't get my supplies out without several little hands exploring everything and stressing me out. I got it out again last winter and finished the native american chief that I'd been working on since I was pg with middle child. Then I made several other gifts for special people and then hit a wall with a 1950's model car for my FIL. It is so very complicated with something like 9 different shades of grey for the chrome detailing. ACK! I had to set it aside before I gave in to the desire to throw it out the window.

Then I taught myself to knit and haven't looked back. These days the embroidery floss only comes out when we're doing a craft that needs embellishment. Ah well. I think I'll wait until the hot weather of summer and give it another go. During those days when it is too hot to want to handle yarn, maybe I'll get it out. Plus I need lots of strong, natural sunlight to distinguish those similar tones.

Originally Posted by redveg

Well morning mamas

The end of my kids vacation is around the corner back to an empty house during the week. Any plans for the weekend? Me, well I have to clean my house, basic chores, but the place needs a scrubbing!

Morning!
My dear hubby is almost to the end of his time off. He's been with us since 12/20 (two days he worked from home because of the snow storm) and it has been lovely. To be honest I worried if we'd all be able to handle being together that much, as he is still struggling with depression and frequently the children (and their completely normal child energy) is just too much for him. But he's done very, very well.

So come Monday we go back to me being the lone parent for long 12 hour days and he goes back to the tiring commute.

We did get a chance to have a decent conversation last night about parenting. He actually agreed to read Unconditional Parenting and we chatted about what he's read so far. The bad news is he hates it. The good news is he's persevering with it because he respects my opinion and I've told him that it is worth reading.

Off to it...

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by femme_rouge

Also accepting that the darker/shadow side is an equal and important part of the journey. I don't have to like it, but I need to accept that it IS.

Yeah...been exploring that idea lately. While I am an exuberant, happy, outgoing person, I'm also very dark, very gothic, very...well, I have a dark side that simmers and I don't acknowledge it. I know that I'm about to let it peek out now and then. M and I both. He has a dark side, too, and we both have tentatively acknowledged that we're going to play with that at some point, and I don't know how to feel about that...accepting, maybe? It'd be controlled, this time, and safe, whatever we end up doing, or not doing, or talking about. It feels a lot safer since I'm not drunk and out of control anymore. What I'm feeling (only very slightly) nervous about is I don't know just how that's going to manifest. I do feel safe knowing that nothing I can do anymore will be dangerous, like it used to be, since I'm sober and in control of myself.
That is one thing they say in AA, btw, what you said-- acceptance doesn't necessarily mean approval

Originally Posted by DaughterOfKali

Ok, the reason I didn't see it when driving by was because it was covered in snow. There is a SMALL area of grass to play. Very small, but it's there.
Pool area.

That's really pretty! I hope it works out for you.

Originally Posted by bluets

so while we snuck in some pagan practices, i didn't announce it as such.

Oooh, how subversive Don't you just feel so sneaky? I love that Plus, what's weird is, even if you had announced what you were up to, but didn't say the word Pagan, people would have been all over that. "How cool!" and such

Originally Posted by DaughterOfKali

Snow snow snow. It's going to snow on and off all day.

It's so weird that I can hear your weather from you and M nearly at the same time

We actually have a dusting of snow here, too! Less than an inch, but hey, it's snow

DS has a playdate today. I can't wait-- he's been cabin crazy or something, and driving me up a WALL. Are any of the rest of you single parents of one child? DOK, I know you are. Anybody else? Do your kids drive you nuts with wanting you for a playmate? I dunno-- I loved it when DS was little, but now that he's older, I want my adult time back. It makes me feel like Bad Mommy that I don't want to play with my son anymore. Am I Bad Mommy? Do any of you feel like that? Why does my DS seem needier now than when he was little? I'm so frustrated! I just want to do MY stuff. I don't want to play foosball or whatever And even when I do-- like yesterday, I took DS breaks and played with him all day long, and at the end of the day, he was just as clingy and needy as if I had done nothing but ignore him all day. What should I do??

[Autumn Breeze]

Originally Posted by unschoolinmom

As I was driving home tonight after picking up some chamomile tea for the kids, I saw the beautiful moon. It was a glorious sight!

Wasn't it!?! I put a glass of water out to charge last night because it was just SO clear!! Incredible!!! It's warming up so that I may drink it. It's cooooooooold and partially frozen

We're getting ready to head out to the chiropracters this morning, and then Game Stop and Publix. Mostly I'm looking forward to coming home again so I can start putting Christmas away

[Autumn Breeze]

Originally Posted by Maiasaura

Are any of the rest of you single parents of one child? DOK, I know you are. Anybody else? Do your kids drive you nuts with wanting you for a playmate? I dunno-- I loved it when DS was little, but now that he's older, I want my adult time back. It makes me feel like Bad Mommy that I don't want to play with my son anymore. Am I Bad Mommy? Do any of you feel like that? Why does my DS seem needier now than when he was little? I'm so frustrated! I just want to do MY stuff. I don't want to play foosball or whatever And even when I do-- like yesterday, I took DS breaks and played with him all day long, and at the end of the day, he was just as clingy and needy as if I had done nothing but ignore him all day. What should I do??

I'm not a single mom, but my husband leaves for work around 8:20 am and gets home around 8pm, so I am here ALL DAY with my two. They usually play together, and most days I'm schooling the older one for a few hours.

I don't mind sitting and playing games, like card games, board games. But I SUCK at imaginative play. Always have, so I really enjoy games a lot. My kids however, would rather I imagine with them. What I do best here is just turn on music and not worry about their volume or mess. Which is difficult as well but easier than trying to imagine (and the kids just say , no mom, come on, that's not fun)

I HATE IT I hate not playing with them. I adore it when they want me to read or play a game though. I don't think you're a bad mom, but I do understand how you can feel like one because I feel like that frequently

We're still good moms, no one ever said "you're only a good mom if you play with your kids all the time"

[mary3mama]

Originally Posted by Autumn Breeze

I HATE IT I hate not playing with them. I adore it when they want me to read or play a game though. I don't think you're a bad mom, but I do understand how you can feel like one because I feel like that frequently

We're still good moms, no one ever said "you're only a good mom if you play with your kids all the time"

Definitely not a mama of an only here....but I totally understand! I can play board games and do arts and crafts projects with them but am not fond of imagination play or sitting and building with legos for hours on end.

I'm developing the ability to do tea parties with my youngest (she got a tea set for christmas) and to encourage her to do *cooking* in her play kitchen. And I don't really mind building with legos but my 44 year old overweight body does NOT do sitting on the floor for long. Ouch!

It's a balancing act to be with and play with them but still have interests of one's own.

Oh and here hubby takes off for his daily commute at about 5:30am and gets home just before 7pm...yeah, it's a long day.

[mamaofthree]

got up this morning with the bird feeder full of a rainbow of birds! blue jays, cardinals, black capped chickidees, and some black and white bird, titmouses (or is it titmice?), so cool.
and we are burried in snow! sheesh! nice to know we have no place to go. i think i will bundle up the boys and send them out into the world... they are getting house bound. lol
just a couple more days and sis is back in school. i wish she wanted to be homeschooled again. the bummer is she isn't really liking school. i don't get it. she has so many options and she just wants to be in school. oh well.

h

[kittywitty]

I'm not a single mom of 1, but I understand. My mom was with me for 8 years. Thank goodness I'm introverted and had tons of pets and a reading addiction! My kids are so demanding and I get almost no help at all. It's been so hard with my very extroverted 2 yo. No matter how many kids are around she has to have my undivided attention 24/7, and I am sooo burnt out and NOT into imaginative play. I'll read, play board/nintendo games, do crafts...but really not into playing dolls!

My baby bro is an amazing artist and is drawing me a charcoal goddess picture. . He is somewhere between Jewish and UU. He and my mom have been going to the UU here and attending an earth based sirituality group when they get a chance.

[kittywitty]

Does anyone happen to know a good magickal/pagan supply store for books/herbs/candles and whatnot around Cincinnati? I'll be here until Monday afternoon and haven't been in a pagan friendly store in ages!

[bluets]

Originally Posted by DaughterOfKali

Snow snow snow. It's going to snow on and off all day. So, we are stuck at home. Roo wants to go outside and play. :shiver I can't stand snow.

mind sending some of it back to the midwest? super cold + no snow = unpleasant.

[ian'smommaya]

Originally Posted by bluets

mind sending some of it back to the midwest? super cold + no snow = unpleasant.

it's brutally cold here too.

[wombatclay]

We're cold too, but we have lots of snow so at least it's pretty!