Oh can I join this thread??? Pretty please??? Even if I'm very late coming aboard???
I've been super hairy for many years, but for the first couple of years I was a bit self-conscious about it in public -- I never wore tank tops, and always wore ankle-length skirts or pants. I still remember the very moment I decided to be really comfortable with it: I was at a festival and I got to know a woman who was there with her family, she was probably a few years older than me. And she was the most beautiful woman I think I've ever seen, hairy everything and all. I was so envious of how graceful and comfortable she seemed to be in her own skin, just completely at home in her body, and so unbelievably beautiful. And I thought, "what am I hiding my hair for? I could be comfortable in my skin like that too!" That same summer, I threw away all my cap-sleeved too-hot summer shirts and my too-long skirts, and I've been free and hairy ever since.
My DH actually doesn't like my leg hair very much, but he had the good sense to wait until we were married to tell me.
I shave my legs occasionally to "treat" him. But mostly I'm still hairy. I haven't shaved my armpits since our wedding. I wasn't even going to do that, but my mother insisted, and frankly, I was fighting enough battles with my mother about my wedding that I found it didn't matter all that much. It grew back, so I can stop hiding my awful stubble and show off my pretty pit hair again.
As far as shaving for a wedding... I did shave for my brother's wedding, it was the first time in years, and I did it b/c my SIL-to-be was horrified by my body hair. I was a bit irritated that it was that big of a deal for them, but I gave in. I figured I loved them enough to do lots of things that were more distasteful than shaving for a day, KWIM?