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post #141 of 195
*bravery*
post #142 of 195
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Welcome Lilypie!

Would waxing your face be a realistic option, or is your facial hair too thick to easily remove with wax? That eliminates the risks of cutting yourself, and it looks more natural (not stubbly) when it grows in.
post #143 of 195
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Welcome Lilypie!

Would waxing your face be a realistic option, or is your facial hair too thick to easily remove with wax? That eliminates the risks of cutting yourself, and it looks more natural (not stubbly) when it grows in.
Ouch!!!

Welcome lilypie!
<-----the sending of bravery your way

I'm glad you found us.
post #144 of 195
Welcome welcome, Lilypie! I had a close friend in college who had hirsutism and she was always super-anxious about her body and facial hair. It was very hard for her... and I remember having lots of conversations about it then. We spent a lot of time commiserating -- I have a fair amount of facial hair, too.

For loads of years I had determined to be proud of my facial hair and refuse to remove it, in part because I didn't want to have the perpetual anxiety about shaving and waxing that my friend had. I was determined to come to terms with it, no matter how long it took. Then, finally, just a couple of years ago, I decided on a lark to try waxing it. I love it. For whatever reason, I was always self-conscious about my mustache in a way that I'm totally not self-conscious about my pit/leg hair. So now it's the only hair removal that I do. And I don't feel anxious about it anymore -- and I don't get nervous when children stare and point, waiting for the inevitable giggle, "you have a mustache!!!" Somehow, I never could come to terms with it. So, all of that is to say, Lilypie, join the club of those of us who are deliberately hairy... except for our faces.
post #145 of 195
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Originally Posted by Comtessa View Post
So, all of that is to say, Lilypie, join the club of those of us who are deliberately hairy... except for our faces.


I have a mustache too, and I HATE it. Resorted to chemical depilation, which I also hate, but not as much. Sometimes I tweeze some of them. Sigh.

A friend of mine has the same thing as you and she shaves daily. Or she did. I haven't talked with her about it since I moved away, but she was under going laser hair removal which was effective, just was taking forever.
post #146 of 195
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Anywho, I went to pool last month and this little girl kept chatting with me, and grabbing my feet that were in the water whilst I parked my poolside. She popped out of the water and exclaimed, "YOU HAVE HAIR LIKE A MAN! You need to shave!" I told her I have hair like a woman, and no I don't need to shave, or I choose not to, or something like that. It was hilarious. I will say that that was the last time that day she bugged me.
Kids will inevitably point out things they're not used to, or things they just suddenly notice, hey? A friend of mine was bending down to get something from a lower shelf in a busy grocery store, and her little daughter exclaimed "Mama, you have a BIG HEINY!"

Lilypie32, bravery your way!! As for hair removal on the face, it's the only kind my DP does right now as well. She has this battery-powered tweezing thinger. It gives me the willies though. She's thinking of getting laser hair removal on her chin... apparently it only feels like a sunburn for a couple days and that's it.
post #147 of 195
Hello All! I am new to this forum and SO happy that I stumbled upon (today of all days (more on that later.)

A quick intro, I am a Minnesota mama with 2 children and a husband. I haven't shaved my arm pits or my pubic area for 4 years. I have shaved my legs about 4 times this summer and I do not shave fall-spring, however I have decided that I am going to stop shaving my legs all togeter starting about 4 weeks ago. I do tweeze my eyes brows some but it is mostly just to keep them "clean" I do not shape them or anything to drastic.

So, if I could segway into a insident that happend earlier today (x-posted in the main forum)

I recently started a new job and today was my 3rd day, it is at coffe shop and roastery. My (male) boss pretty much draged me away (politley) from the rush that we were having and brought me to the back room and said "I don't know if you are aware of this or not but you have a body odor." I was so taken aback, it had never occured to me that I had "body odor," even though I am keenly aware that I DO have a natural body smell, kwim? Nobody has ever said anything about my smell (other then compliments) before.

I do not wear deoderant, I think that it is gross and I have never liked it, plus I didn't think that I smelled foul.

He said that a couple of people complained! So, he sent me home and I was pretty embaressed

So here is what I think; I do have a body smell, it really isn't aweful but I think that people are so use to not smelling a normal body and they noticed mine and they thought that is was a sign of me being dirty or something.

Has anyone else ever experienced this before? Do you have your own smell that you don't try to overtly cover up? What would you do in this situation?

Thanks for the time.
post #148 of 195
Hi Auroara Bobcat! Welcome to the tribe.
Wow, that was really harsh of your boss to send you home. How embarrassing. He couldn't have just asked you to wash up some right there at work and continued working?
I like a natural body odor too, but I do acknowledge that there are certainly times when my body odor (or that of others) is actually offensive. For instance, perhaps you were nervous, it being your third day of work and all. I find nervous sweat smells bad. Or it could just be that, even though normal body odor is not unpleasant, an assertive body odor and the strong smell of coffee roasting and freshly ground might combine to be kind of off-putting to the appetite.
I think chemical deodorant is awful, too, and I find the natural ones are expensive and don't really do much anyway. I have found that just a smear of coconut oil with a little baking soda rubbed on the pits after a shower does wonders with keeping bad smells away.
I hope it goes well for you!

Jen
post #149 of 195
Thanks Jen. Yes, I think that him sending me home was the embarassing part. Any who I will work on natural was to smell less offensive to people
Glad I found this tribe.
post #150 of 195
I spray diluted tea tree oil under my arms and I find that reduces odor a lot.
post #151 of 195
Thread Starter 
I can understand that it's embarrassing, but I can also understand why you boss said something. Jane and Joe Public just want to get their coffee and donuts without having to rethink their positions on natural body care. Whether it's a "nice body smell" or a "body odor" it simply doesnt' belong in THIS workplace.

You don't need to use a chemical antiperspirant- but something like a deodorant crystal or tea tree and coconut oil in your pits before showering might help a lot.
post #152 of 195
Ruthla, I totally agree that the boss has to think about keeping customers. And you are right, the odor doesn't belong in THAT workplace.
But I think he could have just asked her to wash up in the bathroom, even run over to a drugstore and get some deodorant to put on after washing up. Then she could have been up to the workplace standard of scentlessness and still finished out the workday. Being sent home is just so humiliating, like you are gross or dirty or did something terribly wrong, when really it was just a case of not realizing that there was an issue.

Just my experience, if I use tea tree oil I smell way way worse. I think it kills of any beneficial bacteria for me or something. Same with the crystal but to a lesser degree. Baking soda and coconut oil does it for me. Point being, you may need to experiment around to see what works for you.

Best to you!

Jen
post #153 of 195
I agree with Jen. being sent home serves no real benefit except to "teach her a lesson" through humiliation
and yeah, a quick spray of tea tree works well for me, but every body is different - you might need to experiment a bit.
post #154 of 195
Thanks Jen, I appreciate your comment and advice.
post #155 of 195
hey, my SIL doesnt shave at all, My brother said it was because women shaving only began because of a gilette campaign in the 50's or something for housewives? He told me a long time ago, does anyone know about this? Does anyone not shave for similar reasons?

Just want to add, I somewhat unintentionally have let my hair grow out and i feel liberated? lol I have only been plucking my eyebrows, everything else is hairy, I kinda like it
post #156 of 195
bobcat, s from ND!

I've found a crystal to be really effective for managing BO. Actually, I only have to use it every other or third day. I haven't tried any of the other methods, but I hope you find something natural that works for you.
post #157 of 195
Oh, and I was going to say that sometimes I use a lavender/spearmint EO spray in my hair and that is enough of a distracting scent for people to not really notice what else I smell like. I'm short, and most people are about level with the top of my head, instead of my pits.
post #158 of 195
Can I join? I rarely shave and then only below the knee, but always the pits otherwise I get painful rashes. I long for a day when I can skip shaving below the knee, too. DH is coming along nicely, but I don't think he's ready for that yet.

Years ago my SIL was telling me that I only wore make-up because of society's influence, but when I asked her why she shaved her legs she couldn't answer (honestly). I've always found that pretty funny.
post #159 of 195

I haven't shaved anything in 3 weeks. I have never gone longer than a week since i was 11. Always admired those women who could go without but never had the self love to just let it be... can i just say... I love it!

 


Edited by Barefootinthewoods - 7/18/11 at 11:44am
post #160 of 195
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I haven't shaved anything in 3 weeks and dp hasnt even noticed. I have never gone longer than a week since i was 11. Always admired those women who could go without bbut never had the self love to just let it be... ......I was making breakfast today and can i just say... I love my armpits.

I think I look like a cavewoman and i it.

Can I join?
Hi Barefoot! Welcome!
I love being a cavewoman too.
I've been hairy for years and years, but I am still looking for the self-love to stop covering my gray. I hate this feeling of not wanting to look "old"... but there it is. I'm afraid to look old. I use all-natural henna, but still, I color my hair. I even make excuses. I tell myself it's because I want red hair (naturally I'm dark brown.) but who am I kidding? Yeah, I do love red hair but even so it is mostly because I don't want to be silver... yet. I love beautiful long silver hair on older women... but I guess I'm not yet ready to call myself an "older woman."
Help anyone?

Thanks!
Jen
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