No one else can touch Mommy?

[mrsfrenchy]

18 month old DD gets upset and sometimes even panic-y anytime someone tries to touch me, including DH. Even for just patting my shoulder or getting a piece of fuzz or something off my shirt. As soon as she notices, she goes "Mommy?! Mommy?!" and sometimes (especially if it touching is more than a couple of seconds) she pushes that persons' hand away.

Do/did any of your kids do this? What happened? Were you able to somehow desensitize them to it or did you just humor them and not let anyone touch you ever?

It's slightly annoying as it is, but we're getting a little more concerned about what she's going to do when I have a newborn touching me practically 24/7 (I'm 37 weeks pregnant ATM).

[MeAndVee]

DS was/is like that. BUT its DH and Grandma {Nanma} that he is posessive of. Like if another child even looks at Nanma he yells NO NO MY NANMA! Same for DH. Burglars could run off with me though! We pretty much just ignored it. With him, drawing attention to it would just reinforce it. If he goes to far like hitting someone than we address the hitting. Also playing games like pass the Nanma/DH around where he gets to choose who hugs who next seemed to help. He is 28 months now and it seems it is getting easier for him to share his favorite people. Brand new baby will be tough but involve her in caring for baby and she might just be okay with sharing the love. I know when I was born my older sister {4 at the time} had a hard time. Mom included her in everything...getting wipes and a new diaper out of the laundry to getting Mom a drink while nursing and of course a good book to share. I am sure this is nothing new to you!

[Amber Lion]

My DD does this. We just discovered over the holiday that she is also possessive of her Grandma & Grandpa. If DH sits too close to me, she starts to cry and try and get him away. If other kids get to close to me or DH, she does the same. My parents were quite honored when she burst into tears when they each held a newborn who was visiting, she obviously loves them.

We try to honor that we're "her's" and that she will probably outgrow this eventually, so yeah, no one touches me at the moment! DH and I get our snuggling in when she's asleep.

I've no advice, since we pretty much go along with this behavior over here, but I can see how you'd be worried with the new baby coming! Good luck!

[COgirl19]

DD started this around 2 yo. Whenever DH would hug me she would yell NO MY MOMMY MINE! It was more mad than panicky. She has gotten better and is starting to even be silly/funny about it. I think it's a phase.

[kdtmom2be]

DD is 2.5 and has outgrown this sometime in the last few months, it just kind of faded away on its own. We never made a big deal out of it. We did have a few insensitive souls right after DS was born that would tell her that DH was THIER daddy (some guys at his work that thought it was funny to get her to freak out) and she would have a tantrum screaming "NOOOOO, He MYYYYY Daddy!!!!" and I would console her. Other than that we mostly ignored it, and acknowledged that I am her mommy and that I am DH's wife and that he loves me too, that I am DS's mommy too and that he loves me too, etc etc.

[sarahtdubb]

My DS was like this for a while-- he would get mad when his dad would rub my feet or my back. We dealt with it by getting him involved ("see, I'm rubbing mommy's feet because it feels good.." "yes, it makes me happy, I like it." "Will you help me?"). Now when he sees something like that happening, he likes to join in and rub my feet as well. huzzah! I would just stress to your child that you are okay with the touches you're getting ("just like we like to hug you, we like to hug eachother", etc). Good luck!