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post #121 of 571
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Originally Posted by MaerynPearl View Post
I started feeling it at 5dpo both this pregnancy and the one with my daughter... I dont think 4dpo is horribly far fetched.
Ooo thanks, that's good obsessing material there. I wish I could remember how early I felt sick with DS. I know it was early but I didn't chart it.
I *could* be 5DPO since I was only charting CM and Cervix position. http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/66196 Here's my chart. Based on what my body has done for 28 cycles, I O'd on CD14. Stranger things have happened though.
I keep trying to make it go away, like, maybe I'm just imagining it. I'm off to try some hummus and see if that works.
post #122 of 571
I tried making mine go away too, started out thinking I overate over christmas (5dpo was the sunday after christmas) got so bad that following wednesday (8dpo) that we all thought I had a sympathy hangover for DF... now it comes and goes. Sometimes so bad that I can hardly sit here... others (like right now) I only feel it when I hiccup (a pregnancy symptom that will be VERY hard to hide for the next 2 months until we are ready to tell our families)

and I also had spotting just after O... which is REALLY weird for me. I never spot post O but there it was, a fairly large amount of brown blood in my panties. So odd.
post #123 of 571
ooooh so many good charts to stalk!!! Tear and Enigo, Jessica and Beloved --- YYYM- I am so sorry it did not work this month... I am getting so excited and anxious for you ladies to join me... SOON, ladies, SOON. Mae-

Everyone else,


(P.S. if you are bored and want to venture to the I'm Pregnant section, i have another name poll up... I need help. Today I actually told my husband we are scratching all the names we have. I am so lost on names.)
post #124 of 571
OK It's official. I will not chart after O next cycle. I need to get on with my life. My stinkin' temp went down a little. I am not out of the game, but I didn't want to test after having a deflated temp.



Woah...Not that it matters, but I just checked my two previous charts. One is a preg chart and the other isn't. On the preg chart my temp went down a little at 11dpo and it went up at 11dpo on the nonpregnant chart.
Oh mann.
post #125 of 571
"It Will Happen" (and other phrases I hate hearing)

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Hello
I'm new to this forum and blogging. I am not sure if I am in the right forum. I have been dealing with some issues and my miscarriage.

Long story, short:
Last year my husband and I miscarried in October 2008. Its been over a year and well the pain is new every month once I realize we are not pregnant. We try, but my cycles don't seem to be consistant. I am going to a specialist tomorrow and then another specialist in reproductive medicine next week. I want to get two opinions before we take our next step. We have considered adoption, but want to first, find out what is going on with my body and why I can not keep the baby and then why I can not get pregnant.

The miscarriage was our first and we have no other children. I guess I am just needing some support out there. I do not talk about this much with anyone. I don't like to talk to people about it who have never experienced it or who don't understand.

My husband (and tell me if you can relate to this) is not in tune with my emotions each month and the feeling of disappointment I have each month when finding out I am not pregnant. Why can't men be more emotional avaliable and supportive in situations like these!???? AGH! I know he cares but, the other day he told me, "I don't know why it still bothers you" WHAT? Of course it bothers me, I had a heartbeat alive in me and it died. Needless to say, he realized that what he said wasn't the smartest thing to say to me. I feel alone with this and don't really know what to do.

I hate it when people say, 'it will happen' or 'there is a reason for it' I HATE phrases like that. I know those things and well, its better just not said at all. Really, there is nothing to say about a miscarriage when you are on the outside looking in with no experience. So I hope there are a few ladies out there reading this post and have similar stories or expereinces that they can relate to me.
Thanks for letting me pour my heart out. It has been a rough year.
post #126 of 571

On a lighter note....

My DH and I are going to our first specialist appointment today....I hope it goes well.
post #127 of 571
Good luck with your appt. LuvMyWestie, and welcome to the BSLs

I am 8dpo and just went to the DT and stocked up on this months tests. I so want to test now, I am only 8dpo though :-/ I might actually test in the morning though. I would have probably implanted the other night if that was what those needling pains were. I wonder how long it takes for the hormone levels t rise enough to be detectable (I know it is too early to test, but it is possible, isn't it??)) arg! I want to pee on them sooo bad. I think i will, hmph.
post #128 of 571
to take this and my last pregnancy as examples... I had morning sickness at 5dpo for both, thus I would have to assume implantation happened shortly before that... that pregnancy I got a bfp at 6dpo, this one not until 12dpo...

soooooooo

you COULD get a bfp

but if you dont, dont be disappointed! I still got bfns on FRER on 10dpo! and my 12dpo was barely visible!
post #129 of 571
Here's my very early BFP Of course it looks very much like a BFN (like in, exactly)

http://i68.photobucket.com/albums/i9...K/DSCF5336.jpg
http://i68.photobucket.com/albums/i9...K/DSCF5340.jpg
post #130 of 571
Am I imagining a faint line?
http://i68.photobucket.com/albums/i9...DSCF5340-2.jpg
post #131 of 571
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kinda I do...
post #132 of 571
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Originally Posted by BelovedK View Post
Good luck with your appt. LuvMyWestie, and welcome to the BSLs

I am 8dpo and just went to the DT and stocked up on this months tests. I so want to test now, I am only 8dpo though :-/ I might actually test in the morning though. I would have probably implanted the other night if that was what those needling pains were. I wonder how long it takes for the hormone levels t rise enough to be detectable (I know it is too early to test, but it is possible, isn't it??)) arg! I want to pee on them sooo bad. I think i will, hmph.
After I POS the other day at 9dpo in the afternoon, I thought... Now why would I even test under those circumstances? Then it hit me. If I see a neg, well, it was to be expected. I mean after all it was 9dpo afternoon pee, what could I expect? However IF I were to get a + under those same circumstances, well then it would be a happy surprise at 9dpo.
post #133 of 571
When are you going to test, enigo??
post #134 of 571
Tomorrow? Gasp! I swear I can't take it if it's neg. A stark white 12 dpo would knock me over. Right now I still have hope. You wouldn't know it would you? Come on, let's both get BFP's with Tear this cycle. Man I had soooo much EWCM this cycle. You know they say 20-25% chance every cycle? Come on I was spot on this cycle!
I actually bought a 2 pack of digitals (To use after I am far enough into my + ICs)

I was just looking for something in the shed. DH tosses everything in the doorway so you can't get in. Gas cans, chainsaws, my son's baby stuff. There was actually a gas can sitting on the tray of the high chair

I have soooo much stuff to get rid of. I wish I knew whether this baby #2 were ever going to happen. I need my life back.

I think I mentioned that MIL is coming for a visit in a couple weeks. If I am not preg this cycle she will be here during O time and I just can't handle it. (Arggggggggggggggggggg!) She is a religious NUT and if I have one more conversation with her about me not using birth control and just letting god.... (She thinks we must be using it since we haven't had another kid yet. She doesn't know about mc #2, just the first) We usually DTD in the TV room during DS's nap. That is where she would be sleeping. (Ewww, I'll never be able to do it in there again).
Also DH just started working at our new business and is working long hours. Luckily we got all that BD in before it started. Awww crap, see? I just HAVE to get pregnant this cycle with a sticky baby. (I have to be specific, no more pregnancies please if I don't get to keep the baby)

It just occurred to me that not only have I had NO symptoms (except the Maaaybe nausea) I haven't had any kind of "I hate the world/depressed" PMS symptoms. They are usually in full force about now. My boobs are not sore....maybe the right one is a tiny bit sore. I just realized, you know what it probably is though? I have cut out caffeine, processed foods, white flour, nonorganic meat and veg, and I have been supplementing my A%^$ off. Maybe I just cured my PMS symptoms. The only one I ever had was boob soreness (starting at about 4dpo) and depression starting 2-3 days before AF (Who is due Sun, whore.. I hate her)

If I am preg, I am going to drink an ice cold coke. I haven't had one in months. I LOVE coke. I was on a coke and coffee diet when I conceived DS. OMG!! I want one righhhht now! ahhh

Sorry for the rant, I might be cracking up
post #135 of 571
Thanks everyone for the welcome.

LoveMyWestie: You're right the platitudes (it was the for best, there was something wrong w/ the baby . . . etc.) do suck. My theory is that the people who say these things are only saying them in what they think is an attempt to to make you feel better - but it's really to justify the disorder of the world to themselves. It doesn't fit into their rosey view of the world that babies just die for no reason. So, they have to make up cliche'd non-truths when it happens to someone they know. Ignore them and do what you need to do for you to grieve the loss of your little one and as you deal w/ the realities of this ttc roller coaster.

Lyndzies: YES, def a sign.

Nanette56: Those announcements just don't seem to get easier, do they?

BelovedK, jessica s, Tear, enigo & anyone else in their tww:

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(I have to be specific, no more pregnancies please if I don't get to keep the baby)
!!!!! Also I feel for you having your mil visit (especially potentially during O time). The first 1.5 years of our marriage we lived in a little cheap dinky apartment next door to my mil - shared wall. It was awful!! Now she's 30 miles away but hates driving the freeways. So, we only see her once in a while when we decide. Hoping that figuring out how to bd around your mil's visit won't be neccessary. Also I understand your coffee/coke addiction. I have been drinking coffee like it's going out style this whole cycle. I know I shouldn't, but can not help it right now.

YYYM: Your blurb is soo much more eloquent than I'm able to be right now. Thank you. Mostly my theory has always been that as the oldest of 5, I got all of the crap genes, while my sister for instance has had 3 babies in the last 5 years, using some form of bc each and every time.

Officially I have blood clotting properties that create issues for pregnancies and a "microvascular compromise" which means that when I do get pregnant - if the blood clots don't get them, the fact that my body can't get enough of the right hormones to the babies, will. AND if that doesn't get them, I carry some viruses in my body that take advantage of my lowered immune system and attack them AND if that doesn't get them then the possibility of having a growth hormone defect (my tests later this month) means I don't make enough of the right hormones to get there anyway. I'm low progesterone, high estrogen. It's fun. . BUT when we figure all of this ridiculous stuff out I'll get back on my 14 pills a day and we'll probably do IVF, because it's taken 9 years to get this knowledge, it's all correctable and this girl is tired of waiting!! Other than that, nothing new from me.
post #136 of 571
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Originally Posted by fierrbugg View Post
LoveMyWestie: You're right the platitudes (it was the for best, there was something wrong w/ the baby . . . etc.) do suck. My theory is that the people who say these things are only saying them in what they think is an attempt to to make you feel better - but it's really to justify the disorder of the world to themselves. It doesn't fit into their rosey view of the world that babies just die for no reason. So, they have to make up cliche'd non-truths when it happens to someone they know. Ignore them and do what you need to do for you to grieve the loss of your little one and as you deal w/ the realities of this ttc roller coaster.
Ok, just realized that is NOT what you said. But the same theory could work. Just punch the next person who says something like 'relax it'll happen' to you, they'll get the hint.

My grandfather for years has been trying to convince me that we just need to start adoption proceedings. He honestly believes that THAT will trick the universe into getting us pg because he knows alot of people who have gotten pg w/ in a year or so of deciding to adopt or having adopted. Gotta love him, he's in his 80's - what are you gonna do?
post #137 of 571
We were just at the park and DS was playing with a boy running around. The lady said "Is he your only one?" Oh how I hate that line. I mean why would I only take this son to the park if I had more kids? "Um, no I have 3 but the other two are ugly so I don't bring them outside".
Anyhoo, when I said yes she said, "Oh I can see why, he's a handful". So I punched her in the neck.
post #138 of 571
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Originally Posted by enigo View Post
We were just at the park and DS was playing with a boy running around. The lady said "Is he your only one?" Oh how I hate that line. I mean why would I only take this son to the park if I had more kids? "Um, no I have 3 but the other two are ugly so I don't bring them outside".
Anyhoo, when I said yes she said, "Oh I can see why, he's a handful". So I punched her in the neck.
well on one hand... I do take DD out while DS is in school. Also, when DF is home we have days where one of us takes one child and the other takes the other and we go out having Mommy and DS/DD and RyRy and DS/DD dates. Go out for lunch, go to the park, go shopping and get the other sibling a present without them being there to see.

On the other hand... the handful comment is rude and unnecessary. I may say that about my OWN children sometimes (being a single mom with two kids, one in school and boyscouts and the other one still a bit too young for school... with no other adults around to help... CAN be a handful.) but I would NEVER tell another lady that her child is. That lady deserved to be punched in the neck! LOL
post #139 of 571
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Originally Posted by Nanette56 View Post
ANOTHER FB Pregnancy announcement @ 5 WEEKS along!!!! SOMEONE JUST SHOOT ME NOW!!!!
I totally hear you! Today, I figured out from criptic messages that another of my friends is expecting and is complaining of sickness...I HATE FACEBOOK! I don't know why I torture myself with it anymore.

Engio ...I have been getting that comment a lot lately too, it hurts...have to try the punch in the neck trick though.

I was having an okay couple of days too, and now I'm back to wanting to yell, hide in bed and cry.

What does everyone do when they feel insanely jealous, angry and depressed that helps? I really need some ideas as I've run out of walls to put a fist through.

Welcome to the newbies but...hope you are not here long !
post #140 of 571
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Originally Posted by enigo View Post
We were just at the park and DS was playing with a boy running around. The lady said "Is he your only one?" Oh how I hate that line. I mean why would I only take this son to the park if I had more kids? "Um, no I have 3 but the other two are ugly so I don't bring them outside".
Anyhoo, when I said yes she said, "Oh I can see why, he's a handful". So I punched her in the neck.
Brilliant. She deserved it too.
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