Thanks everyone for the welcome. LoveMyWestie
: You're right the platitudes (it was the for best, there was something wrong w/ the baby . . . etc.) do suck. My theory is that the people who say these things are only saying them in what they think is an attempt to to make you feel better - but it's really to justify the disorder of the world to themselves. It doesn't fit into their rosey view of the world that babies just die for no reason. So, they have to make up cliche'd non-truths when it happens to someone they know. Ignore them and do what you need to do for you to grieve the loss of your little one and as you deal w/ the realities of this ttc roller coaster. Lyndzies
: YES, def a sign. Nanette56
Those announcements just don't seem to get easier, do they?BelovedK
, jessica s
& anyone else in their tww:
Originally Posted by enigo
(I have to be specific, no more pregnancies please if I don't get to keep the baby)
!!!!! Also I feel for you having your mil visit (especially potentially during O time). The first 1.5 years of our marriage we lived in a little cheap dinky apartment next door to my mil - shared wall. It was awful!! Now she's 30 miles away but hates driving the freeways.
So, we only see her once in a while when we decide. Hoping that figuring out how to bd around your mil's visit won't be neccessary.
Also I understand your coffee/coke addiction. I have been drinking coffee like it's going out style this whole cycle. I know I shouldn't, but can not help it right now. YYYM
: Your blurb is soo much more eloquent than I'm able to be right now. Thank you. Mostly my theory has always been that as the oldest of 5, I got all of the crap genes, while my sister for instance has had 3 babies in the last 5 years, using some form of bc each and every time.
Officially I have blood clotting properties that create issues for pregnancies and a "microvascular compromise" which means that when I do get pregnant - if the blood clots don't get them, the fact that my body can't get enough of the right hormones to the babies, will. AND if that doesn't get them, I carry some viruses in my body that take advantage of my lowered immune system and attack them AND if that doesn't get them then the possibility of having a growth hormone defect (my tests later this month) means I don't make enough of the right hormones to get there anyway. I'm low progesterone, high estrogen. It's fun.
. BUT when we figure all of this ridiculous stuff out I'll get back on my 14 pills a day and we'll probably do IVF, because it's taken 9 years to get this knowledge, it's all correctable and this girl is tired of waiting
!! Other than that, nothing new from me.