well, it's a new year, and my dreadlocks are now 4 months old. they are for the most part locking up nice and tight, but i find that washing them is time consuming with kids (back in my kid free days, i could spend HOURS washing, drying, palmrolling, felting, etc; it was a whole part of my routine)! felting has def. helped in rounding up the stray hairs (in the rare instance i have the time to do it), though my 7 month old son is grabby and quick to make my dreads a frizzy wonder . it's hard to keep up sometimes, so i've resigned myself to doing very little maintenance, unlike in the past. they look nice, though, so i'm not complaining!
I have a hard time making time to do maintenance. I have lots of crazy loops and a bunch of loose hair at the scalp. DH promised to help sew it in this week. I'm also looking at dying them red again this week. I'll be glad to have some more uniform color.
We've been on the road for three months and it's been fun finding things to make beads out of. DH made me a piece from some driftwood we found on the west coast. They're such nice reminders of places we've been.
Mine are almost three months old. I don't know how they're doing since I've never really been around anyone with dreads for more than a few minutes. I'd like a mentor!
The only thing I do is rip them apart after I wash them. I didn't do a whole lot of backcombing initially, so I think they have a long way to do. The thinner ones unravel still. Some of the thicker ones are getting tighter, though. The hair on the bottom of my head is barely knotting up at all. It is an interesting process!
Mine are 4ish months old, and still have 1 more to backcomb in. That will make 21, I had a friend count for me yesterday :P .The two I put in last week not counting my dreads are locking up wonderfully. I have some wispy hair throughout(how did I miss it all?) but I love my hair now. I love wearing a ponytail and looking put together, and I love wearing it down and feeling primitive. Next step is definately beads,soon! The cool thing is that all the naysayers and conservatives at the least concur it suits me, and alot of them said they actually like it! One girl at my church has approached me to put hers in, but the youth pastors have stepped in and asked my help in having her wait a bit. I sent her to picture searching at knotty boy and dreadhead and she is determined to have it done, but willing to wait until school is over. She will look beautiful dreaded!
Mine are approaching their 9th month. I lurve them. One of the best decisions I've ever made. Unfortunately, I have arthiritis in my wrist & shoulders so can't do as much rolling and other maintenance as I'd like but I am fortunate to have a local salon (for a fee of course) and dready moms willing to help out.
I tried to count mine, just did half my head and got 33, so I think I am in the 50 -70 range. I have a ton o'hair and many of my dread are on the small side (pencil to sharpie sized) which works for me.
I've decided to take the plunge and begin the patient process of allowing my hair to loc. At first I thought I'd backcomb and palmroll them in(no wax!). But I think allowing my hair to do the process on it's own feels right for me.
I'm not usually a patient person, this will be a challenge. I have a few reasons for wanting this but I think the most important one to me, is to let go of trying to be someone I'm not. To let the real me show. To let go of caring what others think.
I have barely begun, I'm on day 3 of no brushing. And have stopped using shampoo and conditioner in favor of baking soda water wash and vinegar water rinse(my hair feels so much cleaner too!). As my locs start forming I will 'rip' them apart to keep them from forming one huge loc!
I am here for support and advice from other lovely loced ladies
Hi ladies, I will try to keep this short. I have been really thinking of what I want to ask but it always ends up a very long story. So I have been lurking for over a year and always wanted to get dreads but lately its all I think about. It seems to fit where I am in life, Im really trying to be myself and not what society thinks is beautiful. But that has been a huge struggle. I came from a home where my mother and grand mother have never left the house without spending hours washing, drying, curling, teasing, spraying their hair, fulll face of makeup and ironing every piece of clothing (even tshirts!) And I also realized the other day that I have never been told I was beautiful without spending hours getting dressed. So Im fine with that now. I stopped wearing makup the last few years and have recently stoped shaving as well. That has been wonderful and not so embarassing since dh is deployed for six months, I feel like I can get used to it without worring about his reaction. But the reactions my family has expressed has been almost hurtful. My mother says Im manly and its just gross. And if I get dreads mine and my husband's family will not be accepting. It doesnt help that I live in the Bible Belt of the south! So Im a little worried about the reaction I will get. My dd had dreads last year and I brushed them out because I was recieving so many nasty comments.
Also I am a midwifery student and hoping to get an apprenticeship in about a year and Im worried that dreads will limit my options. There are only 2 midwives in a two hour drive of my home.
It comes down to me being worried about the reaction of others. Im a pretty plain person but people dont see that. Im kindof the wierd-o of town because I not only had a baby naturally but at my house also, and I breastfeed a toddler. I have had people tell my mother they want to meet me because I sound so weird. DH doesnt like the no shavign or dreads but he said he loves me and wants me to be happy. We have both made a lot of changes in our lives since we have been married and we are closer than ever so I dont see getting dreads as being a problem. He will probably tease me and think is rediculous but Im sure he will help me palm roll them every night
Ok, that turned out really long, but I would love to hear the emotional process of getting your dreads. Im sorry if this is totally rediculous, Im just trying to figure things out. Thanks ladies, I really enjoy reading all the posts!
(((hram))) I just hear so much sadness in your post and it sucks that others think they should have any say in how YOU look.
I saw a tee shirt at my husband's tattoo studio that said something to the effect of tattoos being windows to the soul...you either see something special shining through or are so focused on what is on the outside that it is an armor to keep you out. Dreads definetly do the same thing! People either see that you are natural and beautiful the way you were made, or they automatically see what they want and you know to use more care around allowing them in. I see it as a sort of radar...
I am also in the Bible Belt, and it is so funny to me to constantly hear how my husband and I don't look like "normal" christians! I guess I get a kick out of weird things though .
So that was a longish post about how I just think that dreads are a wonderful form of self expression. I used to feel slightly rebellious with some things but that was sorta a negative feeling to me and I didn't like it so I try not to feel that way anymore. It is more like a positive statement about how society doesn't make my rules instead of me breaking theirs...it makes sense in my mind lol.
Thank you so much wendybird. I have been such an emotional wreck the last two days, just really missing my husband. He is the one who reminds me that I make the decisions for myself and shouldnt let other people infuence me.
"It is more like a positive statement about how society doesn't make my rules instead of me breaking theirs...it makes sense in my mind lol. "
The process of letting go of what other people think was one of my goals/challenges. I wore a bandanna the first several months because it took a while for me to get comfortable with how people might react. Where I was living you just never saw anyone with dreadlocks (or hairy legs). I was at a point in life where I needed to be my own person and it took courage. It was a confidence boost to gradually become more and more comfortable with the way I was not worrying about what other people thought of it! It took a year or more but now I don't think twice about going out with my dreads down and a skirt on!
We have traveled all over the US and I love experiencing the different cultures. By far the stares and comments were very noticeable in Texas of all places. I was surprised. wendybird we were in OK for a while and they were just the nicest people by far. We were warned before we got there but I was really pleased.
ETA: if anyone is in Florida and knows of a place to get good maintenance done let me know. I'm considering going to dollylocks studio.
Ok, so I really am not very patient. I decided that my hair needed a jump start to the locking process. Me and dh twist and ripped my hair into small thin sections. I let my hair section itself pretty much(I haven't combed in over a week). This is how I look! It really doesn't look like dreads yet, buy I'll leave them be and let them morph into beautiful locs
Jenny you look awesome. I started out with some twist and rip in small sections and they matured just great. I had a lot of them combine naturally so I have a good number of thicker dreads now (like 35).
Thank you Indigo for your help!! I really need to get handier at adding pics and links.
Good to hear they should mature into lovely dreads moonstarfalling I keep telling myself they will cause right now it's all on faith. Just a note, I had my dd in May and lost half my hair(as usual), so now I have a whole head of fuzzy regrowth about 1/2 inch long. Will this lock into my dreads do you think? I did my dreads so thin because I know I only have about half the hair I usually do. Thanks
I had dreads for over a yr and a half, and then pregnancy and super sensitivity led me to take them out a couple of months ago. I couldn't stand it though, i missed them and didn't feel like me, so i just finished putting them back in this evening!
I feel much better now
Hopefully my hair loss after this birth won't affect them too much
That makes sense Jenny. That extra growth coming in should combine and make them thicker. I have a whole bunch of growth that's about 4 inches long and I'm trying to get it to combine w/ the dreads but I'm afraid I'm failing at that! I need to figure something out because I'm getting sick of being a fuzzy head.
Thanks Narn Moonstarfalling, loved seeing the pic of your dreads they are so lovely and thick. You don't look like you have fuzzy head at all, you should see my head right now! I haven't done too much since the initial twist and ripping. I had to redo about 4 that fell out altogether. And at the roots and the very ends they are not knotted. I'm still having faith that my hair is just going through the process and I will have real dreadlocks in the future. Meanwhile I'm getting used to my hair kind of looking like crap, I can't believe I'm allowing this. It feels kind of good