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post #441 of 636

hi everyone....I just have a few questions. This is my 2nd full set of dreads, the first I had about 5 yrs ago and they were done with backcombing and wax...yuck. I sat three days later in my bathtub for many hours,pouring hot water and conditioner over my head and combing them out. That wax is naaasssttyyy stuff,dudes. This time, I had about 5-6 started by neglect along the nape of my neck and my friend did the rest of my head with twist n rip...they are about a week old(babies). Here's my questions:

 

1. They look very rope-like...I'm not entirely comfortable wearing them out and loose if I'm going anywhere just yet.I will add that I haven't washed them yet,I'm trying to hold off until I can't stand it yet. Once I wash, will they not look as flat and strand-y?

 

2. Is crocheting them bad? I've read so many conflicting things that now I'm completely confused! I'm really starting to get alot of loose hair and I'm not sure what I should do with it...I always thought the crochet hook to incorporate the loose with the dread, but then I read negative about it. So-- who knows?!

 

Thanks in advance...I have followed this forum for years now and have enjoyed reading everyones dready progress...I will try to post pics soon :)

post #442 of 636

http://community.livejournal.com/get_up_dread_up/3949753.html

that is the best tutorial I have seen for the process of felting wool into your hair. It's easy and fun.

 

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Can I join? I finally went for it over the weekend and l'm loving it! I've liked dreads forever but never really thought i'd do it (don't know why). So I did a twist and pull apart, no backcombing, and used a little shea butter. So, now they're doing OK, a little separation, though. What do you all recommend for maintenance? I read some of this thread before doing it and remember ppl saying not to palm roll every day. Should I be trying not to mess with them? I've been spraying salt water on my hair. I haven't washed it yet, never have washed my hair more than a couple times a week bc it's so dry. I'm scared to now, worried they'll all fall out!

 

So how do I combat frizzies? Obviously it's gonna be frizzy, but I mean those little ones on top...should I just wear a bandana?

 

How about wrapping? Can you all post pics? How do you do it? Inkedmamajama-how do you do yours will wool roving? sounds pretty!

 

Well, I'm excited and hoping it won't take too long for mine to loc up since I have naturally coarse, curly/wavy hair! Sorry bout all the questions!

post #443 of 636

Hey there Dready Mama's, I'm at 1 year... biggrinbounce.gif Here is a picture of my dreads from behind, I added some pink color on 2 of them for fun. Let me know what you think. I really have done very little maintenance. They were started with backcombing and some twist & rip. I hope it's ok to post the picture right into the message. If not let me know, I can do different next time.. And since I shared a picture why don't you all share one to. We can all enjoy all of our dreads. thanks, Brenda

 

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Oh, I wanted to also say that I love the live journal community Get up Dread up, really a great site. smile.gif

post #445 of 636
I love the pink! I need to get a recent picture taken. I've been working on them, separating and crocheting some ends. I'm pretty happy with them right now.
post #446 of 636

yay!  I love looking at pics, thanks for posting!

 

my baby dreads are not quite 3 months now.  Some are feeling pretty good but others came out almost completely (I started with back combing) so I did a little more back combing the other day on a couple that needed it.  I've had to separate a few.  It's exciting to feel them starting to lock up.  :)

post #447 of 636
I don't have my dreads yet...but hoping to get them soon!! I've been following a couple blogs of dready mamas who are/were full-time on the road and unschooling their kiddos. I've been wanting dreads for a while, but as you all know...they are NOT the norm in the suburban soccer mom circles (which I really don't fit into, but which are the norm in my area)...and I'm not confident enough to do them myself!!

The guy who started dreadlockssite told me a couple times that with my hair I should go the natural route...and sometimes when I'm home straight for several days in a row my hair almost looks like it's going that route cause I don't bother brushing my naturally curly hair!! But I just can't seem to be comfortable enough about my hair around snooty soccer mom types to go that route really...so I've been leaning towards twist and rip and/or backcombing and palmrolling myself. I am a little anal (even though I know dreads themselves have a life of their own), so I do want to have neat sections to begin with though!! :-P

I know once I HAVE my dreads that I will have to get over the whole "what will the snooty soccer moms think of me?" thing...but with actual semi-formed dreads I think I will be able to be more confident than trying to go the natural "lost hairbrush" route!! Do/did ya'll use wraps/caps at first till your dreads locked, or did you just let them fly free?

The ONLY concerns I have is that I'm the "throw my hair up in a ponytail when it's hot or I'm cleaning" type of person...just can't stand to have it on my neck. Will I be able to get my dreads up off my neck before they've fully locked? Also, I think I need to do a baking soda/ACV degunk of my hair cause it's been greasy and my scalp is flaky at the moment...need to deal with that issue before I get my hair all locked!!

I've talked to a couple ladies semi-close to me (one on the mothering boards) who have said they could maybe help with my dreads (one who is dreaded herself and one who dreaded her son's long hair)...so I'm hoping I can do it soon. I NEED to do it soon or I will end up chopping my hair short, cause curly hair as long as mine during a Texas summer is insane!!
post #448 of 636

Hey Mamas!

 

I miss my dreads. I had a really fun set last year for 6 months. I have really bad psoriasis over about half of my scalp (from the nape of my neck up to my crown) and I ended up combing them out. 

 

I really miss having them, and am considering doing it again. Are any of you dealing with itch and flake? Even without dreads my scalp is constantly itchy and uncomfortable. I really wish there was a way for me to dread up again and not go insane from irritation.

 

Thanks beauties :)

post #449 of 636

Hey all!

 

So glad I was directed to this thread thanks to another member--loving all the photos and info on here. I have a bit of a dilemma, could any of you dready mamas on here help me out?

 

My husband isn't liking the dread idea--but I feel it's for me and I'm ready to do it. He gives me the same old, stereotyped excuses: "they stink, they're gross" etc. etc.

 

So what advice could you all give me to help convince him to be okay with my decision? When I posted this on another forum another member gave the suggestion of doing a dread "trial run" which I think is a great idea. Have any of you been in a similar situation with your significant other?

 

Any and all advice is greatly appreciated! Looking to get mine going pretty soon! Also, how long was your hair when you did the dreads? Mine is about 6" all over and I think that's pretty short, but I'm hoping the dreads will still be long enough to pull out of my face if needed!

 

Thanks so much! blowkiss.gif

post #450 of 636

I am losing my mind, my dreads keeps slipping out. The ones on top are pretty sell locked- but the underneath ones, and behind keep falling out- I don't have enough time for maintenance, as I would like. Does anyone know of a salon around New England where I can go have them fixed up a bit? I need someone to weave or crochet in some loosies that insist on falling out. Sigh, it's a lesson in patients. I probably should probably be washing my hair w/o a residue free soap, but I have been using Aveda Shampure that should have less residue than other shampoo's. Arg. Any thoughts, suggestion?

post #451 of 636

I have been using California Baby shampoo for a couple months with good results (makes my scalp happy).

 

There is a gal in CT that does dread maintenance, you can look her up on Facebook as the Dread Queen.  If she is too far, she definitely knows others.

post #452 of 636

dinan6, yours look very much like mine (without the pink). I'm at 1 and 1/2 years.

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Originally Posted by meamoaristeyo View Post

Hey all!

 

So glad I was directed to this thread thanks to another member--loving all the photos and info on here. I have a bit of a dilemma, could any of you dready mamas on here help me out?

 

My husband isn't liking the dread idea--but I feel it's for me and I'm ready to do it. He gives me the same old, stereotyped excuses: "they stink, they're gross" etc. etc.

 

So what advice could you all give me to help convince him to be okay with my decision? When I posted this on another forum another member gave the suggestion of doing a dread "trial run" which I think is a great idea. Have any of you been in a similar situation with your significant other?

 

Any and all advice is greatly appreciated! Looking to get mine going pretty soon! Also, how long was your hair when you did the dreads? Mine is about 6" all over and I think that's pretty short, but I'm hoping the dreads will still be long enough to pull out of my face if needed!

 

Thanks so much! blowkiss.gif



My husband doesn't like dreads at all, even after I showed him pictures of really nice looking ones. But I did it anyway. He hasn't said much about them, so I guess they're not bothering him.

 

post #454 of 636
texanromaniac, LOL We are an RVing unschooling family but I had dreads before that too. I always think it's interesting the different reactions I get in different geographical areas. I still come across close minded people. I was pretty insecure the first year and I wore bandannas almost every day. I've become much more secure since then and I think the dreads helped. I get way more positive comments than negative, I think you'd be surprised. There are a lot of closet dread lovers out there.

meamoaristeyo, I never considered talking to my DH before I dreaded my hair! lol I'm no help there. My hair was pretty short though, not even to my chin. They were cute. I miss those first few months.
post #455 of 636

Narn, I would love to see a picture of yours.

 

meamoaristeyo, my husband was really supportive of me dreading my hair. I think he likes that my crazy freakiness is on the outside now. But he is a bit dread shy now, I miss him playing with my hair. I don't know if he really "loves" them but he seems to "like" them fine. Really I had that feeling that it was time for me to dread my hair and that's what I did. I didn't want to put stuff like that off for myself anymore. It has helped me feel more like myself than ever before. Hope that makes sense. Go ahead and dread. Have Fun.

 

Samuraimom, the back of my hair would not stay dreaded for at least the first 8 or 9 months. I got very frustrated with it. I would redread each one and it would fall out, then I would let it be for a long while. Finally they have stayed after this last dreading.

 

So, I called around my area looking for a stylist that would color my dreads blonde. I found this stylist that has helped people with dreads. I'm going tomorrow for a consult, I'm a little nervous. I haven't been in a salon for almost 2 years. And I don't want her to do any crazy maintenance stuff on them. So, hopefully it works out and I will have beautiful blonde dreads soon. 

 

post #456 of 636

beautiful locks everyone!


Edited by pacifica - 6/14/11 at 9:08am
post #457 of 636
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Originally Posted by FarrenSquare View Post

Yay, I'm so happy I just found this thread!! Hey dreadmamas! I've been dready for nine years now and I can't imagine not having dreadlocks. I went for them back because I hated brushing my hair and had a Jamaican friend whose mom said it was a good solution... And she was SO RIGHT.

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Love being a pg dready mama.
Me, too! My dreads are growing so fast and so thick right now. I have to separate my roots constantly or they'll all start growing together.

Here is the most recent picture of me, taken last month I think. I recently combed out my front three dreads and made bangs, I kind of miss the dreads!

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v1...une2010005.jpg

I really love your dreads! I'm thinking about getting them (I actually put one in my hair earlier for fun) and that's how I want them to look! What method did you use? How long did it take for them to look like that? What kind of maintenance do you do?

A couple questions... 1) Why is wax bad? All the "how to's" I see use wax. 2) Why is palm rolling daily bad? Isn't that how you keep them from clumping? 3) The one dread I put in my hair earlier, I just back combed, twisted, and ripped. (I actually twisted the back combed hair, then pulled it apart so it tightened up.) Is this right? Is that how I should do it? I don't want to do the neglect method.

Thanks in advance!

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post #458 of 636

Hey Ladies.  Hi Texanromaniac!  Here's how I keep mine up off my neck.  Let me tell you, I've found dreads in Texas to be HOT.  And I am perimenopausal and sweat alot, so I'm going to have to get one of those dryer bags and wash and dry daily, I'm sure.  Please excuse my red ears.  I'd just been out in my rabbitry.  It's 90 degrees out there!

 

To do this I take 3 or so dreads from each side of my head, above my ears, and tie them together (in a knot).  Then I just take the rest of my dreads and tuck them up and over behind the knot.  Just keep tucking 'til they are in nice and tight.  Or I use a scrunchie, just once around my dreads to keep them up.  I could double the scrunchie a few weeks ago but some of my dreads are really starting to fatten up.  smile.gif

 

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Dinan, love the pink!  I want to ask you about those lovely dreads underneath.  The ones w/the blunt ends.  Did that happen naturally, or did you do anything to make them look like that?  My dreads only want to stay dreaded on the top half of each dread, leaving 6" long wispy ends.  Ya know, "regular hair".  Ewwww, lol.  I thought I'd want it like that at first but now I'm thinking I want them to be more "finished" looking.

 

I have a friend who wants to make me some wool dreads to "install" when I want extra color.  For now I use a few beads, a friendship bracelet made into a dread sleeve (my dd made it), and embroidery floss.  I told her I'd love to have wool dreads (she dyes fiber) but I hesitate to felt wool directly onto my dreads since it's permanent.  That's just me, though.  I love the look of it, but I want to change it up often.

 

One more thing...does anyone have flat dreads here and there?  I think it may be due to sectioning.  I did my own, and should have had help w/a few in the back, I think.  Not taking them out, though!  Is there anything I can do to change the flat ones?


Edited by Chicky2 - 3/18/11 at 3:51pm
post #459 of 636

 Hey everyone! I'm new here :)

I was so excited to find a thread about dreaded mamas! I started my dread journey last September, and they are a bit crazy now. Kind of whispy and loose, but tight in some areas. The tops are growing in kind of funky and thick as well, but I love them. I think they are unique! I've had issues lately with DH asking me to maintenance them more, and wondering why my dreads don't look like the dreads he's seen, and talking about cutting them out. It's frustrating having him show such negativity towards something that is so important to me and he truly doesn't understand why it hurts me. Anyone else run into this issue?

post #460 of 636

Hey Ladies! Joining this thread finally as a dready mama too! I'm about 3 months and am loving my dreads :)

 

So I work in a very earthy vegan restaurant/holistic center mainly as an herbalist and energy worker. But occasionally I serve customers too. So today I get into work and there is a letter posted on the bulletin board that among other complaints says "and there was a woman working there with a hairstyle that showed she clearly hadn't washed her hair in weeks or even MONTHS who was making my drink. Clearly you're employee's need to learn proper hygiene". It really shocked me because I've gotten so many positive comments on my dreads that it I forget how ignorant some people are. Some of her other points in the letter were somewhat valid but it's a shame that many people still believe that dreads = dirty, unclean or that I don't shower. It made me kind of mad (and embarrassed) at first but I have since let it go because I know it is only her ignorance. 

 

At any rate, just wanted to vent a bit to a crowd that would understand!

 

Oh...and what are your favorite site for dread beads and things. I know a woman somewhat locally who makes these amazing macrame/beaded dangley things to add to your dreads but she isn't making any right now that I know of and would love to know of other people who might make something similar!

 

Blessings!

Kristen

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