Ooh, Dinan, can't wait to see pics! Please post soon!
texanromaniac, I'd be happy to meet with you! Pm me and we'll set something up. As far as being a pg dreadhead, really, they can't refuse you service. And I'm like majikfaerie as far as other people's opinions of me aren't my business. Besides, your hair looks long enough that you'll easily be able to cover the wonky stuff if you desire.
Hello mamas! Long time lurker here. I've thought about dreads at various times throughout the past couple decades, but there was always some level of uncertainty, so I never did it. But every time I do any reading about it, that uncertainty diminishes a tad, and now I think I'm ready. My ONLY source of uncertainty is my husband, who thinks dreads are nasty, stinky, same ol stereotypes. And he would be afraid of what his family would think (verrrry conservative, christian, right-wing, republican, straight, white americans! lol (Todd Snider anyone?). Oh well, I couldn't care less what his family thinks anyway. I'm more concerned about his dislike. If I discussed it before-hand, he would be totally against it. Easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission, right?
I work in a municipal warehouse and have minimal contact with the public, so my work doesn't really care about my appearance, so no worries on that front, only my DH. My parents won't be crazy about it, but they might make a couple passive aggressive statements and then move on. They've always been good and letting me do my own thing (well, I'm 34 now, so they don't have a choice anyway!).
Sooo, I twisted and ripped one dread underneath the rest of my hair in the back! I have long hair, between bra strap and butt, so it's easily hidden for this experiment. I don't think I got it tight enough next to the scalp, but I plan to backcomb that part when I have access to the right tools. Is that possible?
My other question for now is, what do you do about all the fuzzies? I've seen videos of people crocheting them into the dread, but then I read that's not the best thing in the world to do. It seems like all the GOOD dread sites are blocked where I am, and the ones I can access talk about using wax, so I'd rather get advice from you guys than from people who recommend wax.
Nice to meet you all! Love looking at your pics!
Thanks MF! I've been admiring you from a distance for quite some time!
I made my little baby dread a buddy on the other side. I can tie they around my hair to hold my hair back now! I'm on the 2nd day of not brushing my hair and was thinking of letting the rest go naturally, or at least let them go a while to see how they section themselves off and then maybe help them along with backcombing or T&R. My biggest problem with neglect at this conjuncture is I am playing piano in 2 weddings coming up in the next 2 and 3 months and I'm sure my brides would appreciate if I looked "conventionally" appropriate for those days! I don't do that as a job or anything...in fact, these are my first 2 wedding gigs and I am doing both gratis as a wedding gift to both brides who are family and friend.
I went to school w the kids (DS, 11 and DD, 9) for breakfast today along with my mom and my DS noticed one of the dreads for the first time. He says, "What is this?" I said, "It's a dreadlock." He said, "It does NOT look good, Mom." Well, my hair was still damp and unbrushed, so none of my hair looked good, I'm sure! My mom asked how I did it and I explained T&R and my DD, who has recently learned to braid, says "Can I do it?" and starts grabbing a section of her hair to attempt what I explained! I stopped her and explained it's rather permanent. I mean, if she really wants them, that's cool, but she's a little prissy so I don't think she would really want them if she thought more about it. My mom says, "Are you going to do a whole head full of them?" I just shrugged and said, "Maybe." Then she said, "I've always thought dreads were cool. I'd just hate to have to maintain them." At which point I informed her that there is LESS maint. with dreads, but I didn't expect such a positive reaction from her. She's kind of a hippy in her own right, but since we live in such a conservative area and have family that is ultra conservative, she's always maintained a "normal" facade. She fussed a bit when I got a tattoo (which is totally hidden by my clothes).
But, hubby didn't notice the baby dreads yesterday, so I've still got that obstacle to overcome. But I love my 2 dreadies! I keep reaching for them to see if they're still there! lol
Over 3 years ago, when I got my dreads started, my then 3 year old son kept crying for me to "take them out". He didn't like them at all. Mommy didn't take them out and I still love my dreadlocks to pieces!
Nasubi, how are you planning to wear your hair at the weddings? I think if tied back tight and into a bun, dreads can still look very 'neat' and respectable. They're becoming more and more common these days and accepted into the mainstream (like I said a bit upthread, I did a hospital transfer recently with a birthing mama and the OB on duty had dreads!)
Another way to 'normalise' them is to put a pretty headband or scarf over the top. If you're playing piano at a formal wedding, a cute top hat could be another way to cover them, if it goes with your outfit.
I decided to brush my hair for now, but left in the two underneath the rest of my hair. I might add a 3rd or 4th at random places (I saw a pic of a girl that had them like this and really liked it). Normally, I just wear my hair down, or the top half pulled back in a barrette for dressy occasions.
I've realized that I want my hubby on board before I make a drastic change. He hasn't even noticed the 2 I did, so at this point, I can say, "They must not be too bad, it took you 3 (4,5,however long) days to notice!" So, I can add one here and there until he gets used to the idea and then I can go full out neglect, but I will wait until the weddings are done
I could do the scarf, but I am sooo NOT a hat person, lol.
This is how I did my hair up at my sister's wedding earlier this year. my friend made this gorgeous hairpiece out of the same fabric from my dress (when we took the hem up) with a peacock feather - looked fantastic!
but yeah, I've had dreads since I was a teenager and no one was surprised to see them; just that they looked neat and presentable.