Hi there everyone, I'm going on my 2nd week of my dreads... I'm really enjoying all this craziness on my head. My hair was straight and a little fine. I always hated how it was to thin, not long enough, too short, not straight enough, to frizzy.. I have never really been happy with how it was at the moment.. But these dreads feel good, feel right.. I feel more like me then ever before.. It does seem strange that I feel so good when my hair is so crazy, unruly looking... I keep thinking that this how I feel inside and now I match, my outsides match my insides..
Ok, enough of my deep thoughts ...
This 2nd week my dreads are all a little different...Some are loose, some are bumpy and getting tight, the top of my head a frizzy mess and I can't seem to tame any of the frizz into the nearby dreads.. I'm a little scared that they are going to come out, but don't really see how that could happen.. Some of them are tight and I'm loving that.
Any encouragement would be great, is this normal??? I was palm rolling them every day but read somewhere that it is bad to do it too much so have not done that as much.. So, I'm not doing much to them... Should I be doing more?? Also, the ends of each dread is smooth, fine, undreaded hair is there someway I can keep this backcombed or do you all think it would be fine to just let it be.. Sorry for the long post.... I really enjoy this thread and love seeing pictures... I will post some if I can figure out how.. Thanks again...
sounds pretty normal. it's an evolution, and just 2 weeks in they aren't really locked in yet. Some people find the very ends don't lock up, don't worry about that too much. either they will or they wont. After 14 years I still have a few with loose hair poking out of the ends. As long as the hair nearer the scalp is tight, they'll be fine in the long run (though as it grows there's usually about an inch of unlocked hair before the real dread starts). keep it up
dinan6, I would just let them be. They'll turn out great. I would separate and palm roll like once a week. After they get all tight in like 9 months, you can work on rounding the ends or crocheting the undreaded hairs. Don't worry about doing anything like that now though.
I had a dream that I was standing in line for something and two ladies were behind me talking about my dreads. One of the ladies said she could fix my ends, which at the moment are loose so she then took one of my dreads and did something like burnt it with a cigarette or fire and then walked away.. My one dread was all nubby on the end... Very weird..
I have a question for you all, when you first had dreaded or started to dread did you have a period of missing certian things about undreaded hair.. Like, running your fingers through it, or how silky soft it feels after a wash... I'm having those feelings maybe it's because this week is a little crazy with my dreads....
LOL I was afraid my dreads were all going to fall out a couple of months in, I don't think I had any dreams though. I have heard it's pretty common to dream that your dreads get cut open and there is weird stuff inside them, like blue goo or magic stuff lol.
I don't think I have missed my hair at all, but I HATED my hair, I always have.
I kind of missed it the other night, when my hubby and I were messing around... He went to play with my hair, like to run his fingers through it and ended up with a handful of dreads..... That got me thinking ohh thats one thing I will miss but not enough to go back...
i miss the hands thru my hair - DH is a bit dread shy (even after 2 years). but I too love them.
I also just got a job (first job in 7 years) working at a natural food store 15 hr/wk - enough to be social not enough to give up my status as a stay at home mom- anyhow an older woman came into the store and did a double take then told me I was beautiful... when has anyone ever said that?! it made my day.
also they asked me what I wanted to be called (my name has an obvious nickname) and I said Iris - a name that would have been our daughters had any of our boys been a girl. Not so sure that everyone there is feeling totally relaxed calling me that but I love it and I think I could pass as an Iris. All my boys have nature names so it feels good to me.
Who else has renamed themselves?
and I've renamed myself. Changed my whole name; first, middle and last as soon as I was legally old enough to do it. Truly, I believe this is my real name. My parents just didn't get it right
I changed my name when I was 15. Recently though I thought about changing it to Wabi Sabi. I've got some pretty awesome girl names that I doubt DH will ever agree too. I'm tempted to use those. I really love the name Lavender.
I think our culture is strange- to name a child before you met them. I got it right (in my opinion) for 2 of 3 but we actually changed one of their names as it did not fit. Who knows what they will think when they grow up.
I like the Wabi Sabi link - what neat meaning. Lavender is such a wonderful and sacred plant. They both sound great!
I actaully got mail from my cousin today that said "Iris" i was honored that she made the effort.