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post #201 of 366
that sounds great jen!

Also....I have not found anyone to watch the kids while I labor. I also was hoping to have someone snapping pics and taking video that WASN"T my labor coach. Anyone want to be present and take pics/vid (my camera)? Anyone want to watch kids on short (short!) notice? I don't have much to offer in return but I can get groceries (food stamps) for you or $40 or something like that for watching the kids. TIA
post #202 of 366
Hey Danielle!

I have a bunch of clothes for you, and some prefolds. We're having a moving sale this weekend so I can't go anywhere-maybe you could stop by and get them? I will *hopefully* make it to Conner on Tues. if all goes as planned, (can't remember if you're going on tue's) but its kinda crazy here-we need to get the house on the market next week!


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I'm amazed at you guys! I luckily never had to go through any of the hate stage for a baby. Ethan was "experimenting" and saying he hated grandma and my BF but considering how things have been I'm not surprised. People ask me if the kids are "excited" about the baby....um...well no. But it's not a bad thing. They just KNOW there's going to be a baby and it's a fact of life. Their attitude will not change it! I think it helped a lot when I was pg with A that there was never a chance to even think that it could be upsetting, or negative, or something that could be changed especially based on negatives/hate. So while the kids aren't "excited" i'm hopeful that E will do just as good as he did with A and I can tell A is kinda curious about it all. She likes to touch and caress any real baby that we've seen.

So i'm thinking about going to the park tomorrow! Anyone up for it? BF is now working tues-sat so I actually am going to have time to go to the park!

Also I am gearing up for baby (i'm not late right? lol). If anyone has any small dipes they don't need I would gladly borrow them. I'm going to just use prefolds and covers so anything is helpful. I actually got given enough sposies for the newborn stage (which i had planned to buy ) so just the "small" size (or whatever you call it!). I know many of you are probably still using them though! I also am still needing 0-3 clothes if anyone's chubby boys are growing out of them.

Next week I am going to finally go shopping though. Going to feel really nice to have all the baby stuff paid for and be actually ready...
post #203 of 366
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I posted the below in the main Arizona tribe area. However, in case anyone here doesn't check out that area, I wanted to run it by you folk:

I'm getting ready to put in a garden. I feel like I'm late, but at least it's going in. I haven't had a garden in decades (literally) so want to make sure I'm planting all the right stuff:

tomatoes
cherry tomatoes
zucchini
acorn squash
eggplant
pepper
basil
coriander/cilantro

possibly
corn
bush beans
cantaloupe
watermelon

Any other suggestions?

Thanks
post #204 of 366
i wish I had gardening advice pam- im good in fertile soil but kinda suck at the desert garden thing.

danielle- we are not sure where we will be in two weeks, but if I am in town you can call us and we can watch kids while you labor... ya know.. if we are here. not very solid as a plan... but maybe in a pinch?

ayn- we are trying for friday to get our house up for sale. its been a pain. ive been in tears more times than I can count. much love to you while you do this too!

call me ANY TIME you want to hit up lakeside- id love the distraction!
post #205 of 366

my cat Zelda

My parents split up when I was 9, and my mom got me a kitten. I've always kidded that the cat was my consolation prize. This morning, 20 years later, my mom had her put to sleep. She was very old and was no longer eating. She lived so much longer than anyone ever expected!

I'm not really feeling sad about--she has lived so long that I long ago accepted her passing. But I felt the need to eulogize her, so there you have it.

RIP Zelda!!!!
post #206 of 366
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My parents split up when I was 9, and my mom got me a kitten. I've always kidded that the cat was my consolation prize. This morning, 20 years later, my mom had her put to sleep. She was very old and was no longer eating. She lived so much longer than anyone ever expected!

I'm not really feeling sad about--she has lived so long that I long ago accepted her passing. But I felt the need to eulogize her, so there you have it.

RIP Zelda!!!!
Awwwe! RIP Zelda- it sounds like you gave her a wonderful life! what a lucky kitty
post #207 of 366
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We are hanging in there! Having some challenging times with Carter, and I can't seem to cope when Rob is at work. But I know we're in a period of heavy transition and some day I'll look back on all of this (including Carter saying "where is Baby Hazel? I want to hit her.") and laugh...

Right?


Would love to get together next week. Becca, you're the busy workin mama, let me know what works for you and your girls!
I'm sorry, I've not been on here lately and I totally missed this post Sarah... We've been doing the hitting thing in my casa too, though maybe it has now passed? Gia has been much more affectionate and kind to her sister lately. She walked up to Sofia with a hard plastic dinosaur a couple of weeks ago and said "hit you Baby 'Ofia' dinosaur..." then she looked at me grinned and said "noooo" then walked away. Since then she's been very gentle. I think for her it was a matter of time and adjustment, though I know this is not our last sibling challenge.

Now I'm pulling my hair out because all living things in my house seem to be peeing, pooing, and puking on me or my stuff. No one is sick, it has just been a weird three days and I haven't stopped mopping, showering, and laundering and yet the house is a complete disaster.

Good luck to you mamas who are moving. I don't envy that transition with new little ones.

Pam, I'm working on a little garden. I have no advice because I killed everything but zucchini last year.
post #208 of 366
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We had our sometimes handyman dig out a garden for us. We added some rich soil I bought and cleaned out the chicken coop. I'm hoping the coop stuff is a small enough amount that it won't burn the plants.

The garden is big enough that I'm wondering if I can plant half of it and keep the other half for winter crops so that I don't have to worry about killing stuff so I can get new stuff in in time. We'll see how it goes.

I need to get some straw this week to cover the whole thing with.
post #209 of 366
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My all time favorite band is having a reunion this Wed. for St. Patrick's day. The Mollys are playing at the El Casino Ballroom. Anyone want to go?
post #210 of 366
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I need to get some straw this week to cover the whole thing with.
You may know this because you have chickens, but you can get straw for 25 cents/bag at OK Feed--they give you an empty feed bag and you fill up the straw that has fallen on the ground-- fun to do with kids too .

EVERYBODY, we are planning on doing connor park tomorrow AM, prob 9-11ish. Hope to see some familiar faces.
post #211 of 366
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Now I'm pulling my hair out because all living things in my house seem to be peeing, pooing, and puking on me or my stuff. No one is sick, it has just been a weird three days and I haven't stopped mopping, showering, and laundering and yet the house is a complete disaster.
sorry, but this made me laugh!! we were at a party at rob's boss' house this weekend and carter was without a diaper. we were outside (thank goodness) and I looked over and Carter had that look on his face and I said "Carter, are you going pee?" and he said "no, poo poo," at which point poop starting coming out the bottom of his pants. then the dog came over to start eating it, and I had to carry my poop-covered kid through the party to rinse him off in the bathroom. thank goodness most other people there were parents, too.
post #212 of 366
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Originally Posted by sarahtdubb View Post
You may know this because you have chickens, but you can get straw for 25 cents/bag at OK Feed--they give you an empty feed bag and you fill up the straw that has fallen on the ground-- fun to do with kids too .
I didn't know they do this. I normally just buy it by the bale.
post #213 of 366
all right girls who have things. i'm not going to be out/about today but I *might* be able to do some pickups tomorrow. since sarah will be at the park we'll try to show up for a bit before 11. Ayla has preschool that starts at 11:30 so we'll try to be there by about 9:30 (haha?) until 11ish!

and just cause you know how i'm feeling "are we there yet??!!!"
post #214 of 366
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all right girls who have things. i'm not going to be out/about today but I *might* be able to do some pickups tomorrow. since sarah will be at the park we'll try to show up for a bit before 11. Ayla has preschool that starts at 11:30 so we'll try to be there by about 9:30 (haha?) until 11ish!

and just cause you know how i'm feeling "are we there yet??!!!"
I wasn't planning on going to Conner until about 11am- have an am appt, and need to drop things off to donate to SDH around 10:30 at Ft. lowell (if I have the right park for the month!lol) I'll try to make it earlier...hope we bump into you Danielle, I'll have the baby stuff with me

SARAH-would LOVE to see you, C, and Hazel (*love* her name btw!!)
post #215 of 366
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I accidentally bought a green pepper plant. I meant to get a red pepper. Does anyone want this green pepper plant? I live near the U.
post #216 of 366
We're planning on going to the Zoo tomarrow at 9:30am.
(For those of you who know them, Big and little Pete will be there too!)

Come join us!!
post #217 of 366
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We're planning on going to the Zoo tomarrow at 9:30am.
(For those of you who know them, Big and little Pete will be there too!)

Come join us!!
just bumping this up for a reminder!
post #218 of 366
Hello again!
We are going to be at Conner today around 9:30/10ish just in case anyone can join us
post #219 of 366

I give up~ whine ahead

I don't know where to post this...seems like i've complained way to much to BF as is. I thought maybe the single parents forum but i'm not sure that they would have any idea's even though i don't think there are any solutions anymore.

I'll try to keep this short but seriously my life is a mess.

I'm still going through divorce. Things have turned...ugly I guess. Exh has gotten a lawyer who apparently is a bit (or a lot?) of a prick. I've been going to SALA/VLP (legal aid) to try and get help HOWEVER they don't actually have a lawyer for you or even the same lawyer to ask questions too...nor do they do any research etc for you. They help you fill out paperwork...and you still have to be there for it. I went to their "workshop" on tuesday and waited 4 HOURS to get seen. Talked to a lawyer and thankfully her assistent (a law student) decided to volunteer to do some case research for me. They put in a referral to get ME a lawyer to represent/help me (seems like it has to be very special circumstances to get) but no word yet. I have pretrial info to be returned to the court by April 12. I have a domestic conference on April 26. I have our actual trial on May 13. Ex's lawyer is apparently trying to get his fee's worth and sent me "discovery worksheets" to fill out...it asks pretty much the same darn stuff as the pretrial statement. I'm guessing the intent was also to try and overwhelm me (obviously know i'm pregnant and going to school). I've considered getting a lawyer on my own...but it's just impossible. A.) I have nothing to pay for it, ex has paid HALF a month of court ordered child support since Jan 1 so i'm borrowing money just to keep a roof over our heads and B.) the lawyer told me that it's unlikely that a lawyer could even take on my case (a paid lawyer not the possible free one) cause the dates are so close and they wouldn't have time to catch up or might not be free those days. Ex's lawyer will be there to be an arse to me on april 26. I'm already dreading all this stuff with less than a month old baby.

Next on the list is that my ex gets out of jail on April 26th. I don't know what to think or what's going to happen with that. I'm not afraid or anything like that BUT he'll be out of jail and thats a huge change and it means he'll be "free" to start doing whatever he feels he needs to do (paternity case, more court, attempting to establish visitation etc).

I'm STILL anemic. I was supposed to go to TMC for IV iron starting monday but things have been so slow and a PITA that it won't start until next monday. I have to do 5 IV's 2 days apart. I *might* be allowed to birth at the center if I get my levels up otherwise I have to be at the hospital. Of course if the levels are low I run the risk of bleeding to much etc etc etc and all that entails. I'm already worried about this birth cause of the "third is always different" to much stress going on in my life and just general unease.

My car is falling apart. Almost literally. It needs about $1500 worth of parts ALONE and it's all front end stuff (IMPORTANT!). Considering we're trying to keep ourselves housed this is obviously taking a backseat but the longer you wait the worse it all gets.

To top this all off I am still a student and have managed to pull a 97% out of my phycology class and so far have an A in my math class AND am almost done with my homework for the SEMESTER...however my brain turned to mush today and I have a feeling I won't get it back until after the baby's born leaving me with 6 assignments dangling over my head to do with a newborn.

I also have to still do taxes and my FAFSA plus see what other grants and scholarships I need to apply for for the next semester..which seems like its something I could put off however the deadlines for many i *THINK* are in May.

So i just don't know what to do...I'm overwhelmed and although I know that getting a lawyer for my divorce and paternity case would remove almost HALF of my stress load but there's no where to turn. I just really needed to get this all out and written down. Thanks.
post #220 of 366
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Danielle,

We did the court thing with my husband's ex-wife. It was one of the worth experiences I have had in my life.

Who is the opposing attorney?

You can put in a request for a delay for some of the court dates. If you get an attorney they can request a delay since they are new to the case. You could probably also request a delay since you are having health problems and are almost term pregnant.

I've gotta go. My kid says he's starving.
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