I hate my cat. - Page 2

[Juvysen]

I did the same thing when i had babies... things had just started to get better for me when we found out that the older cat had a thyroid problem (so now he's on meds and doesn't play with the younger one anymore, for some reason) and now the younger one is harassing us all the time to play. The older one started peeing on the carpet, but we got that curbed, and he was using the litter box again... until recently when he decided it's better to just pee on the (luckily, laminate/linoleum) floor NEXT TO the litter box. I'm so at the end of my rope with the kids and the pregnancy being difficult at this stage (due in two months) and... now the peeing on the floor. I don't know what to do - he doesn't do well going IN to a vet, so we have a home-care vet that comes to our house but he seems to be very drug-pushing... thinks that we should be giving the cat anti-anxiety meds or something... I don't feel like that's going to fix the problem.

So I feel you on "hating" the cat. I'm so done. But who is going to take a 14 year old cat that pees on the floor and doesn't like anyone but us? No one. Meh.

[BunnySlippers]

Can you put the litter box on a boot tray?, or put a tray where he pees?

[North_Of_60]

Pets are not disposable.

[greenmagick]

Originally Posted by North_Of_60

Pets are not disposable.

I agree...however if its a situation where the pets needs are not being met (affection, play time, etc) then I think it is only fair to either suck it up and meet them or to rehome. Its like new parents who stick a dog outside...I would usually rather see that dog go to rescue then live that kind of life.

[North_Of_60]

Originally Posted by greenmagick

I agree...however if its a situation where the pets needs are not being met (affection, play time, etc) then I think it is only fair to either suck it up and meet them or to rehome. Its like new parents who stick a dog outside...I would usually rather see that dog go to rescue then live that kind of life.

Of course there is the lesser of two evils. But if people take into account the life changes they'll have in the 15 year life span of their pet (possible moves, additional pets, family death, children, etc) instead of living in the moment at the time they get the animal, these situations would be much fewer. It is a life long commitment.

Rescues and shelters should exist for people who absolutely can not keep their pet anymore. Not for when life changes and they no longer want it. I'm on team "suck it up" and meet the cat's needs. There are way too many in shelters as it is.

ETA: This post is mostly in response to taking the animal to the shelter, which I think should be a last, last, last, last resort. I think if you must get rid of a family pet, it's better to put the time in finding them a home privately instead of taxing the shelters and rescues that are already understaffed and underfunded and way too crowded.

[skai]

I think what you're feeling is really, really common - all my friends who have pets & my sister who has 2 cats have had this happen when they had babies. What's fortunately also common is that those feelings will change. Just wait for a while. My sis got her love for her kitties back when her baby was about 6 months and was clearly interacting with the cats. The baby loves the cats now and so does the mama.

[Amanda Burritt]

I completely identify, believe me. I don't hate cats, just my partner's. She's an elderly cat he took in years ago off the street, and I understand she has territory issues, but her behavior is completely over the top and totally unnecessary. She bullied his other cat for years and when we moved in together she also bullied mine. She guarded every litter box and food dish she could find, causing my cat to resort to going in my son's room (she seems to feels safest there). She would snarf up all food that was placed down, puke it up where anyone would be sure to be walking, and go eat again. She'd attack my cat for no reason, and claim my partner's lap any time he was sitting down, looking at me pointedly ( I swear). When I became pregnant I wasn't taking any chances. I had her relegated to the basement (with all the comforts of home, don't get excited). Now she still does the snarf-puke act down there, then yowls at the door for more food. It's gotten to where I feel irritated if he pets her, or gives her treats I gave the other cats.