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Wanting But Waiting Tribe *2010*

post #1 of 387
Thread Starter 

This tribe is for those of us who are longing for a baby right now but, for whatever reason, are waiting to try for one. This is the place to go for support from others in the same boat.

Please PM me to be added, removed, or have your information changed. Make sure to include what year you would like to be listed under if you are requesting to be added or moved. Thanks!

Wanting but Waiting until later in 2010!:
AFWife
BHappy *
BirthMomMom
Blanca78
Brown Lioness *
CarsonBookworm - mid to late 2010
cmarie - July
Crafty
CrunchyDoula
DanielleBlueToo
earth-mama - spring
elonwy - late 2010
ema-adama
Eresh - January
firespiritmelody - January
gringuitica - mid to late 2010
jeninejessica
Jennifer3141
Jenniferadurham- Aug/Sep
karkli - April or May
KBL7 - fall
knittinanny
lakeruby *
Leaveit2Beeker- June/July
LitMama - early 2010
MaerynPearl - July
Maine Mama Doula - December or January 2011
Mamabear<3 *
mamalove1 - spring
MovingMomma - sometime in Feb-June
Nerdymom- November *
Neuromancer - spring/summer *
nia82 - February or March
nicolelynn - January
NikkiTwist - October
Owachi
sarah_bella1050 - fall
Say - May
sewcool
SimplyRochelle - fall
Sol_y_Paz
Tara2 - May-October
tmwmommy- September
wateraddict
weliveintheforest- May

Wanting but Waiting until 2011!:
Alicewyf- April/May *
Baby_Cakes
BettinAuSucre
Cowgurly02- May *
Deefodil - early 2011
dsaucone - April
First Time Mama - January
HerbanGirl *
kriket - summer
maia.springgoddess*
MommatoAandA *
Momtomy3boys
M.Q.
PinkGeek *
Sk8termaiden- January
Skrimpy
slave2myprincess - winter

 

Wanting But Waiting Until 2012....

Dicksonley- Spring/Summer *
nemrac917


Just Wanting but waiting (a little bit longer)...
ananas
anjelika
Ardor
CarricksMom
Chloe2326
doulajewla
fresh_veggie
granola_mom
habitat
heidirk
Hellga
jaxxy
Jen1977

JHopesMomma *
kangamitroo
Kapatasana
Lyterae *
Magelet *
MarineMommy
natural_mama89
newmommy27
Oriole
pixiekisses
RoseRedHoofbeats
sarahdavida *
shanna-cat
sleepingbeauty
SomedayMaybe3
sparklett
TreeGardner
tutucrazy
VK1987 *
wholewheatchick


Edited by Logan - 12/10/10 at 4:02pm
post #2 of 387
Yay! Thanks Logan! I was so excited to find this tribe. I only wish I'd found it a couple of years ago.
post #3 of 387
Moving over!

Mother Cake, thanks for your comments in the other thread. I have watched my friend go through having her first without much preparation at all, and she has a great mothering relationship with her beautiful (inside and out), smart 17-month-old daughter. Things have been hard, especially negotiating schedule and child care and duties with her husband, but I am probably over-thinking and over-reading and worrying too much in advance. I can't be as prepared as I'd like to be, because there will always be variables and surprises, so I should probably just get to a reasonable point and say, "Go!"
post #4 of 387
Logan - Thanks for taking over the new thread!

I'm still here. We're technically not avoiding and not trying this month, but I'm spending lots of time in the TTC forum because our last two pgs were unplanned and I'd like to get to feel like we're trying for once

Lots of patience dust to those waiting, especially those of you with long waits ahead of you When DH and I got married, we planned to wait until 2010 to try for #1. Obviously, we weren't strong enough to wait that long I admire those of you who are. I know it's not easy
post #5 of 387
Can I please be added?

waiting until 2011 at the earliest.


i started spotting yesterday, and its worrying me. I believe i O'd on the 25th and ended up dtd unprotected on the 29th. I hope i didnt catch a egg
post #6 of 387
Sorry to be dense, but what's dtd? I'm kinda new to all this stuff. :-)
post #7 of 387
doing the deed
post #8 of 387
Oh. Thanks. That seems really obvious now.
post #9 of 387
I knew if I came to MDC there would be some group of ladies waiting to commiserate with me! I'm wanting so badly but waiting until later in 2010. DS was unplanned yet wonderful. But this time around I'd like to have the money to buy some pretty maternity clothes and have a doula and go the chiro and of course save for the MW. We will pay off the last of our cc debt in MARCH! Then we'll be saving for the whole summer and DH said we can begin TTC in the fall.

I have so many friends who I was pg with who are expecting again, and other friends who have just had babies or are expecting, and all this squishy newborn wonderfulness on facebook is making me pea green with envy!
post #10 of 387
Welcome nerdymom! I actually just found this tribe, too, and am very much the same boat as you, except I am waiting on TTC my first.
post #11 of 387
Thank you for taking the thread Logan!

Subbing
post #12 of 387
Thread Starter 
No worries Gives me something meaningful to do while we wait!
post #13 of 387
yay! This is where I belong-- thanks so much for starting this thread. I obsess about baby stuff morning noon and night these days, and am excited to have a place to let off a little steam

We're planning a vacation for this spring before trying to concieve, and we also need to save up a whole lot of money, so I don't really have a good idea of when we might actually start trying-- but I really want to do it this year! My goals for right now are to start exercising regularly, and continue improving my diet -- and also to stress less! Here's to a happy, healthy and FUN 2010!
post #14 of 387
can i join?
i guess im not wanting another baby as much as knowing that some day (one day?) i will have another baby..i know it sounds odd, but about a year ago i had this vivid dream that i had a baby boy and we were walking down the snowy street and i had my toddler and two older children. he was a few months old and had a name and everything.. and ever since then i have felt his presence asking me to let him in. i have dreamt about him quite a few times since. my SO and i have 3 children (7, 4 & 2) and he was not exactly excited about my pregnancies, at least not at first. they were all unplanned and, well..he says no way no how about another one..that said he completely adores them and is a wonderful father. i feel like this baby has chosen us and will eventually come, but its Very hard knowing that this little being wants to be part of our family and not being able to just say "you are welcome anytime!" so yeah. i guess i am wanting, but willing to wait, but not forever! not exactly the same as most of you, but im not sure where else i fit in.

eta: so i have been telling my SO about how i feel after keeping a secret for almost a year..i kind of jokingly have mentioned it in passing, but im letting him know how serious i am..tonight and he said "i am very seriously considering having another baby" so i guess i have some hope. he also said he really wants me to change my name to his (we aren't married) as well as our middle daughter whom i was pregnant with and gave birth while we were not together. i agreed to this wholeheartedly, but i really don't see how it should affect our having babies together...i think he is just trying to put it off as long as possible. i want the baby sooner than later so there isnt such a huge gap in age between him and my youngest now almost 2
post #15 of 387
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Originally Posted by MamaFern View Post
i feel like this baby has chosen us and will eventually come, but its Very hard knowing that this little being wants to be part of our family and not being able to just say "you are welcome anytime!" so yeah. i guess i am wanting, but willing to wait, but not forever!

Wow, MamaFern-- that is really special! Good luck convincing your husband
post #16 of 387
Last night, I shared my baby books/stuff wishlist on Amazon with DP. We talked about cloth diapers. I'm letting him see the full force of my baby wishing.

It's helping that my sister is due any day now. It's easier to talk about it, and he is definitely aware that I'm ready to make one. He is not on the same page, but he is listening, and understanding. I just wish I didn't have to wait.
post #17 of 387
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Originally Posted by Oriole View Post
Last night, I shared my baby books/stuff wishlist on Amazon with DP. We talked about cloth diapers. I'm letting him see the full force of my baby wishing.

It's helping that my sister is due any day now. It's easier to talk about it, and he is definitely aware that I'm ready to make one. He is not on the same page, but he is listening, and understanding. I just wish I didn't have to wait.
It makes a big difference to be able to talk about it, doesn't it?

I'm reading Naomi Wolf's Misconceptions and trying to work out my reasons for wanting a baby (I would like to have a good reason, but am not sure there really is one). I read my husband a passage from the book last night about how a baby should be born into a strong support system and be accepted as its own entity -- not just as an extension of the parents. Anyway, Wolf put it better than I could. It opened up a conversation that left me feeling better about my husband adapting to life with a baby. I've been worried that he'll see all of his freedom as disappearing, but I have to give him more credit as someone I love and trust to step up to the challenge.

In other news, I finally got a skin cancer checkup (after 6 years!! of putting it off). I had a carcinoma back in 2002 and have been feeling really guilty about not keeping up with regular check-ups, since my insurance pays for most of the cost. Now I feel like another box has been ticked. My exercise routine is becoming a habit, too, and I've scheduled a yoga class for next week.

If I can just get my dental work up to date (been putting off fillings for a year), I'll feel much better about the physical aspects of TTC. I still have a little work to do on the mental/emotional readiness, but I know that will be a work in progress for the rest of my life if I become a parent!

Also, my reading list keeps getting longer and longer. I think that's a stalling technique.
post #18 of 387
Can I be added? I'll be optimistic and say Wanting but Waiting until later in 2010. (waiting on DH to give me the go-ahead!)

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Originally Posted by nerdymom View Post
all this squishy newborn wonderfulness on facebook is making me pea green with envy!
You have just described my feelings exactly!

I'm so glad that I found this group. I had looked around for other people who were waiting, but didn't come across this until this morning.
post #19 of 387
I'm just letting you all know I'm sitting here reading and sympathizing.
post #20 of 387

ME too Me too!!!!!!

Hi mamas, I (we) are planning to TTC fall/winter 2010.

I am a full time student, I just started this fall, I have one ds from a previous relationship, he'll be 8 in march. My dp is also a full time student (6hrs away) and we are trying to time things so that dp will be out of school before baby comes along.

Ds, is WAY excited about having a brother or sister, (altho doesn't know the current plans) Dp has made the plans but has NO clue what he's in for

I hope to get LOTS of great information about the hows and whats and wheres and why's of actually planning a conception (ds was NOT planned).


So tell me whats every one doing besides saving $$$$, I did notice exercise, and prenatals listed.???

I DEF. need to save up, right now I am working 2 evenings a week and barely making ends meet, but I know it's temporary. I'm also thinking about joining a local gym.h

Would LOVE a suggestion for good prenatals too!
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