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post #141 of 387
Hello, add me to the waiting until 2010 list (may.)
There is an ever-so-slight chance I could be pregnant right now, but I honestly doubt it. If I am not, I really want to spend a couple of months working on getting myself in shape and getting my clutter in order before we start officially TTC. I will work on these things anyway, but I feel like I will handle a pregnancy much better if I do a few things to help prepare. I got really sick with the first two and expect it to happen again.
I am also hoping that my dh will be more excited about it by then. He is not against it, but it would be so nice to have him on board and excited about it. I also like the idea of waiting until late winter/early spring (or later) to give birth, since my first are september and november.

Anyway, I need somewhere to think out loud and remember why I am waiting, so I will join in this thread
post #142 of 387
The bigger place fell through. Everything else around here is WAY more expensive, so I guess we have to wait for awhile. It is still a daily conversation right now.
post #143 of 387
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Originally Posted by Ardor View Post
I have to say that I'm actually happy to see AF show up today. This means that if I get pregnant anytime from here on out, I won't be giving birth until I graduate college! Well, assuming I have another boring long pregnancy This feels like such a milestone. I remember thinking about this last year and March sounded so far away. I know we aren't really officially trying until this December, but knowing that we don't have to work as hard to prevent gives me a lot of relief.
I am dropping out of school this semester (not doing that well and completely lost interest), so I will just have more time to sit around and wait

I am so glad you all will be able to finish your degrees though!
post #144 of 387
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Originally Posted by libranbutterfly View Post
I am dropping out of school this semester (not doing that well and completely lost interest), so I will just have more time to sit around and wait

I am so glad you all will be able to finish your degrees though!
I'm sorry that you're having to leave school. Well, unless you're going to be happy to be rid of it!

I tell myself that it would be ok to get pregnant right now, but I remember how miserable and sick I was for months during my last pregnancy and how difficult it was to think and concentrate and I know that trying to finish school pregnant would be very difficult so I should just keep waiting... Also, my husband seems to think that having another baby in our two bedroom apartment would be just fine (that would make three kids and two adults in two bedrooms)! That is not going to happen - we need a bigger place or I'll go crazy. We're so cluttered as it is. Rent is really expensive here though - like $1450 for a 3 bedroom apartment.
post #145 of 387
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Originally Posted by Ardor View Post
I'm sorry that you're having to leave school. Well, unless you're going to be happy to be rid of it!

I tell myself that it would be ok to get pregnant right now, but I remember how miserable and sick I was for months during my last pregnancy and how difficult it was to think and concentrate and I know that trying to finish school pregnant would be very difficult so I should just keep waiting... Also, my husband seems to think that having another baby in our two bedroom apartment would be just fine (that would make three kids and two adults in two bedrooms)! That is not going to happen - we need a bigger place or I'll go crazy. We're so cluttered as it is. Rent is really expensive here though - like $1450 for a 3 bedroom apartment.
I am waiting to finish school too! I can't imagine myself pregnant and working in a pro kitchen during the last few months of my pregnancy. We are also waiting until we move so i can be helpful and not hurt during a big transition. I sometimes want to quit school just so i can enjoy time with my partners but i am still learning so much and love it. So i think i have to stick it out until I graduate.
post #146 of 387
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I can't imagine myself pregnant and working in a pro kitchen during the last few months of my pregnancy.
Ahh... remember trying to do dishes in the third trimester? Standing sideways against the sink?
post #147 of 387
Oh my god yes. I hated every living second of it. I had the WORST back pain and swelling
post #148 of 387
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We took a Dave Ramsey course through the fall and we are working hard at paying off debt but it may still take us another 2 years. I'm hopeful that even if that is the case that we will be able to TTC in winter of 2011 (that sounds so far away!) because DD will start Kindergarten in fall of 2011 and because we should be mostly done with paying things off at that point in time.
Dave actually does not have a problem with interrupting the Snowball to have a baby. If you chose to do this he recommends you stop your snowball and start working on an emergency fund. Then once mom and baby are here and safe you can go back to your snowball.
post #149 of 387
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Originally Posted by SashaBear View Post
Dave actually does not have a problem with interrupting the Snowball to have a baby. If you chose to do this he recommends you stop your snowball and start working on an emergency fund. Then once mom and baby are here and safe you can go back to your snowball.
Unfortunately right now my income is needed to pay the bills and we're talking about me staying home either full-time or part-time once we have a second child.. Which I can't do right now. So waiting and praying and waiting some more. Thank you though.
post #150 of 387
Can I introduce myself? I have two kiddos. They turn 5 and 3 in March and April respectively. We have been thinking about having another baby for almost a year. Unfortunately both births were hard with the second ending in a c-section and my husband is worried about having another. He thinks my 'problems' as he says are too much. He doesn't know anything about birth unfortunately. There is no reason to think I will have difficulties next time around.
I do want to lose weight before TTC. I weigh 150lbs and I am supposed to weigh 115lbs. I want to be at my healthiest for my pregnancy. I gained 60 lbs with both kids and do not want to repeat that.
post #151 of 387
Hi Sasha Bear - my husband sort of thinks the same way about my last delivery. He's so glad that the doctors "saved" me and the baby that he can't imagine having an out of hospital birth.


I'm feeling guilty today about wanting another baby so I will finally be justified in staying home with my kids. Ugh. I mean, part of it is that I will also be finished with my BA so it's a good time to stay home while I work on my masters, but sometimes I just feel like my current children are missing out because I have to work right now. It doesn't help that I'm having daycare issues and have to leave a daycare today with basically no notice because she isn't wiping his butt or his nose! That makes me so mad. He keeps getting diaper rash and at his last daycare we never had problems with this. She isn't feeding him any of the snacks that normally give him a rash and I know it's from not wiping him well enough. I just don't know how to tell her that. I shouldn't even worry about her feelings or her business because I know she has a waiting list of kids to get in.
post #152 of 387

Should we???? Can't seem to give up the idea...

Hi,
I can't believe I am posting here...now...in the 11th hour of trying to decide whether or not to go for #3,

We are NOT young. I am going to be 44 next month. We have 2 amazing, attached, loving girls ages 4.5 and 7 (this month). Having a third does NOT make sense financially. I was the bread winner, and stopped working fulltime when I had dd#1 -- and have loved being home for every little thing they go thru. Going from 1 to 2 kids -- was TOUGH. I thought I was going insane at times. I thought (and so did my husband) that adding one more, would surely send me over the edge. Plus dd#2 was EXTREMELY attached and I always thought it would be hard, and unfair, for her to be a middle child (because of her disposition). YET -- I never stopped thinking about allowing myself the "possibility" of another. I was always "doing the math" in my brain. If I conceived during this month of that year, how many years apart in school would my kids be. I was sort of obsessed with the keeping the door open. But no way would I even TRY for one.

Then...out of the blue...my girls got older and sweeter and I suddenly thought, wow, a third would be great! The older ones would be in school and I would get plenty of rest and time alone with the baby -- and things would NOT be crazy at all, because now I know how to handle the chaos.

DH and I have always been on the same pathetic page -- unable to commit to doing it or NOT doing it. The one thing we agree on, is that we have never been able to stop thinking about it. AND that we are pretty kick ass parents who have produced 2 amazing kids, and it feels like there is a third knocking on the door who really wants us...

bla, bla, bla

Am I crazy to think of doing this again at 44 (my husband will be 48)??? Selfish even??? We REALLY need to make more money -- my staying home has meant spending a chunck of our retirement. And one more kid -- might mean I won't be able to work much again for the next 5 years. I keep HOPING the feeling will leave me, so I can finally donate the crib and baby clothes I held onto "just in case" ... but the feeling won't go!!!!!!!! Ugh! Lastly, things are so good with 2 kids...do I want to rock the boat that is on calm waters FINALLY???

Marni
post #153 of 387
Thread Starter 
Well, you asked for opinions so .....

I say go for it! You will never regret having another child. You may spend the rest of your life regretting not having one though. I dont want to offend you, but you are almost running out of time to try. And your DH sounds like he would be happy to try as well so its not like you are fighting against an unwilling partner.

I have also heard that people either find the jump from 1-2 hard, or the jump from 2-3. Im hoping its true and you dont find both hard (Im waiting for my third ). I dont believe being a mom is ever selfish! Sounds like your DD's would make great sisters too!

Im a 'follow your dreams' kind of person, so maybe Im biased
post #154 of 387
DH and I had a conversation this weekend. Looks we are going to have another baby one of these days. We dont have a date set. I need to lose some weight and get in better shape. I'm going for a VBAC but DH doesnt want to switch to a new doctor. I want a homebirth but I haven't told him that. I'm not ready to enter that conversation yet. That will come later closer to TTC.
post #155 of 387
Yeah, *sigh* I think I belong here too!
Marni, we are all crazy it seems - it can not be helped!

Yes, I have a 2.5 MONTH old and I am considering another little one... I have to be off my rocker. I am 36, husband 38, but it is more that we have an oldest child headed to COLLEGE in a few months! Yikes!!! Yet, since having my newest little cherub I can only think on how awesome the feeling of loving something so wholly is and I dream about having just one more (yeah, until the next time!!). I don't know if I will actually do it anytime soon (as in this year) but that doesn't mean I don't want to! My 13 y.o. is so incredibly wonderful with his new brother it is such a joy to see. There is so much wonderfulness in having kids - I guess I will never fell like I am "done" with having them... It is so nice to know I can come here and dream.
Thanks!
post #156 of 387
Since deciding we are going to have a baby likely this year, I want to look at baby stuff!
post #157 of 387
Yesterday, I priced cloth diapers and swings
post #158 of 387
We got a bigger place. It is not the ones we were looking at, but still nicer and much more space. The rental company was running a special due to low occupancy and I got a 3 bedroom apartment that usually rents for $755 for $635 a month. When we close out our storage building, that means we will only be paying $40 more a month for nearly twice the space.

Lexi is still not doing too hot potty learning though. She usually does fine at school, but bad at home.
post #159 of 387
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Originally Posted by libranbutterfly View Post
We got a bigger place. It is not the ones we were looking at, but still nicer and much more space. The rental company was running a special due to low occupancy and I got a 3 bedroom apartment that usually rents for $755 for $635 a month. When we close out our storage building, that means we will only be paying $40 more a month for nearly twice the space.

Lexi is still not doing too hot potty learning though. She usually does fine at school, but bad at home.
Wow! What part of the country are you in? We are paying twice that for a 2 bedroom apartment.
post #160 of 387
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Wow! What part of the country are you in? We are paying twice that for a 2 bedroom apartment.
I live in Northern KY. It is more expensive here than where I am from, a small town in central KY. I am shocked by how much more expensive rent is other places!
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