Wanting But Waiting Tribe *2010* - Page 2

[Brown Lioness]

Im here. If we TTC later this year, i'd be very surprised. I plan on getting my amalgam fillings removed in the next couple months, so that pushes my TTCing back to early 2011 at the earliest, but hey, if my mercury load is minimal, it may stay late 2010, so at this point, i just dont know.

There is much to be done this year but im very excited about it all.

[nerdymom]

Originally Posted by daniellebluetoo

Hi mamas, I (we) are planning to TTC fall/winter 2010.

I am a full time student, I just started this fall, I have one ds from a previous relationship, he'll be 8 in march. My dp is also a full time student (6hrs away) and we are trying to time things so that dp will be out of school before baby comes along.

Ds, is WAY excited about having a brother or sister, (altho doesn't know the current plans) Dp has made the plans but has NO clue what he's in for

I hope to get LOTS of great information about the hows and whats and wheres and why's of actually planning a conception (ds was NOT planned).


So tell me whats every one doing besides saving $$$$, I did notice exercise, and prenatals listed.???

I DEF. need to save up, right now I am working 2 evenings a week and barely making ends meet, but I know it's temporary. I'm also thinking about joining a local gym.h

Would LOVE a suggestion for good prenatals too!

welcome! The things I want to accomplish before TTC: pay off last CC (in March if all goes according to the plan), double our current emergency fund, get in the habit of working out atleast 3x a week (I'm working on that, 2x last week, shooting for 3 this week), finish decorating the house (I know this sounds like a silly one but we really need curtains instead of blankets hanging in the windows to keep the cold out, things like that.), and the big one is saving $ for the midwife, doula and chiro. After one failed HB I want a HBAC so bad I can taste it! If I give my body 2 years to recover from the c/s, plus work out and see the chiro regularly during my pregnancy, plus the midwife and doula, then if I end up with another c/s I will know I did absolutely everything I could to avoid it.

[lakeruby]

Originally Posted by daniellebluetoo

So tell me whats every one doing besides saving $$$$, I did notice exercise, and prenatals listed.???

I DEF. need to save up, right now I am working 2 evenings a week and barely making ends meet, but I know it's temporary. I'm also thinking about joining a local gym.h

Would LOVE a suggestion for good prenatals too!

Welcome! I've been happy with the Rainbow brand of prenatals, and plan to take them for several months before TTC, but I also think it's really important to get most of your vitamins through diet. I am not sure that vitamin pills are all the effective, but I want to make sure all my bases are covered! I've been expoloring lots of new (to me) foods-- whole grains like amaranth and quinoa (so yummy!) and have been working on having home-cooked meals at least 5 nights a week, featuring veggies from our farmer's market-- so this has required me to be a lot more organized than I normally am! I have a whole moleskine weekly planner devoted to meal planning

Besides saving up some money and trying to get into better physical shape, I also hope to do lots of reading about pregnancy/birth/childrearing while I have extra time. I'm also planning a fun vacation! I just read an article the other day about the importance of NOT being stressed while you're pregnant, so I want to work on being more relaxed and finding ways to de-stress, as I tend to be kind of up tight.

I have high hopes for 2010~!

[daniellebluetoo]

OOOOOOooooooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, A VACATION!!!!!!

That sound SO lovely!......Hmmm, more planning!

I'm looking into home births, assisted and unassisted, I figure, at this point, I'll start with what I have No clue about...I had a hospital birth last time, AWFUL!
The OB, didn't even ask me if I wanted an episiotomy, just cut me open! Well, 9 stitches latter...... I'm also going to be looking into hypnobirthing,

Other than the whole get in shape, save $ detox, I'm not sure what else I need to be doing.

[mamalove1]

Returning mama

Hi Everyone,
Haven't posted in a very long time. We originally were going to TTC over the summer but we weren't truly ready. I want my DD to have enough mama and daddy time. (She will be 2 this Feb) So, it is planning time for us. WE are banking on getting PG this Spring. It is funny, now that I am 36, I feel a bit stressed about my age and being pregnant. Silly really but I do feel societal pressure about it. AVoid all over 35 TTC articles, let me tell you. It is like they are TRYING to scare you! But after having one I feel so much more prepared for all the planning I should do - money, healthwise etc... (I was gestational diabetic last time. Anyone else? Any advice on how to avoid this time?)
Anyway, I used Nordic Natural vitams - reccomended by a naturopath. She also said that it was essential to take your omegas too for brain development.
Have a great day!!!

[Mother Cake]

Originally Posted by daniellebluetoo

So tell me whats every one doing besides saving $$$$, I did notice exercise, and prenatals listed.???

I posted some of this on the 2009 Wanting but Waiting thread, but I'll post again here.

1)Top priority is getting our new apartment in order. We just moved and we aren't done unpacking. Someone else mentioned blankets on the windows--we don't even have those (but we need them)! So finish unpacking, eliminate unnecessary stuff, and get our home organized, because I am a cluttered creative, and I know that having a baby will probably intensify that.

2)I'm taking a B-complex (with folic acid) and getting more exercise. DH is trying to improve his diet--he's currently flexitarian, moving towards vegetarian--I'm already vegetarian. I'm also considering some sort of a cleanse for myself.

3)Discuss homebirth with my in-laws and try to help them be a little more comfortable with the idea. My FIL was an ER doc, and MIL had hospital births, so we're starting from ground 0 there. Luckily I was born at home, so I at least have my parents on board.

4)Prioritize and budget spending. I am a homemaker and plan to be a SAHM, so we need to be very carful with income and savings. Luckily we don't have any debt, but we also don't want to drain savings unnecessarily.

5)Since we're hoping to start TTC this spring, I've started attending a local fertility support group. It seems to be mostly women who are having difficulty concieving, but I fit in since I've been wanting a LO of my own for years, so we connect on that level. Also it's good for me to get out of the house and off the internet and meet some real people. As an introvert, I can stay in for days and only see DH and hardly notice.

6)See a dentist and get any needed work done (me) and choose a Family Doc. that will be likely to support homebirth, delayed/selective vax, and breastfeeding, etc. (We're realitively reacent transplants to our metro area, and both need a regular Dr. for check-ups, emergencies, etc. & it would be nice to find someone who can take care of our whole family.)

I think that's most of it. We are both very motivated to work on these projects so we can start TTC ASAP, possibly as soon as March 2010, although I'm starting to think that is a bit ambitions. But soon!

[jenniferadurham]

Hello Ladies!

I guess I belong here! Moving over from TTC thread. We TTC for 2 cycles and then both DH and I decided to wait for a few more months. We are going to TTC Aug/Sept 2010. I would like a June baby. A June GIRL baby . We have a DD, who will be 8 in April, and a DS who just turned 1 in Dec. We decided to wait bc I need to get back into shape. I gained about 70 lbs with DS and still am carrying about 30 lbs. So I'd like to lose that, and give our son a little more 'baby' time alone, w/out having another baby to come in and steal his thunder. This cycle not TTC might be a little hard for me bc I wanted an Oct baby PRETTY bad. But then again...we might have a date night and 'forget' that we aren't TTC...hahahahaaha. Whatever God wants for us, I am perfectly happy with.

So here I am...hope to get to know you all...I'm a chatter box...sorry in advance!

[daniellebluetoo]

I Love to read what everyones up to and how their journeys are going!

yeah, in a matter of days i've gone from the notion of having a midwife assisted birth in a birthing center (what dp wants) to KNOWING I will birth in water unassisted (except for dp) next time in the peace and comfort of my home, but maybe with a midwife on "call".......LOL, for Dp of course!

Can you tell I've been online all day reading stories and watching birthing vids on Utube????

Now if I can just find a "how too" kinda book, I'll be all set! Well, if timing goes right, maybe I'll be taught in school, the birthing basics..LOL..... I start nursing classes fall 2010, right now just doing pre-reqs

[Blanca78]

Hi, may I join Wanting and Waiting until Later in 2010? I've been hanging out on the TTC board, but am on a (semi-involuntary) hiatus due to a molar pregnancy diagnosed in early December. That was our first pregnancy. All went well with the treatment and emotionally I think I'm doing pretty well, too, but they have to monitor me for six months to make sure the cells aren't growing back.

Technically we will be cleared to TTC in June, but I'm in grad school and this baby (the molar pregnancy) would have had the perfect timing of being born in July, after this school year but old enough for me to go back for my final year without missing too much. However, if we got pregnant this summer the timing wouldn't be so hot. So we'll probably postpone until the fall so I can finish my degree before I have the baby. That is assuming we will be able to get pregnant without problems--I don't have any real reason to think we won't, but I'm paranoid...

Anyway, I'm glad to find this thread!

Neuromancer--I love Misconceptions. Okay, I haven't finished it because I moved and misplaced it. It's in my house somewhere and one of my projects is to hunt it down and finish it, because the first half was awesome.

[pinkgeek]

Hello all! It's been pretty quiet around this forum recently - how is everyone? I'm back to a new cycle, and this time I'm determined to chart/temp. I really want to be able to know my cycle better so that once I have the "yes" from DH, I will know how to work the timing.

This 3-day weekend I have a ton of housecleaning planned (a big bone of contention with DH) and am hoping to bring up the TTC topic of conversation when he's all happy from the clean house.

[jenniferadurham]

So I keep changing my mind on waiting to TTC...it's frustrating. I want to TTC one day and then the next day I dont. I talked to Dh last night about not waiting...and he said that we made some valid points the other day about waiting...so we'll see. I will more than likely be O'ing this time next week. I guess we only have a few days to think about it. ARGH. Anyone else doing this? Being confused?

[MamaFern]

i feel that way too. in most ways i feel like my family is complete, but i know that there is this baby out there. if i didn't know about him i think i would be done, at least for a long while (im not yet 30, so i do have many baby having years ahead of me, if i choose to do so). i loved being pregnant and giving birth though, and i know that no matter how many babies i have, i will probably always look upon those days as very special and probably want to do it again. since my dp is no closer to saying that he ever wants more babies (he has said maybe..but that doesn't mean much to me.. and our oops?! the other night at cd8. arg!) im kind of at a standstill. we are not actively ttc, but in my heart i am! i want my baby rue to have a brother before she is all growned up!

[Magelet]

Can I join for a little longer? I'll send a pm too.

We're waiting on a few things. We want to get married first, and save up money for a mw. Also, we need to be muh stabler financially. Right now we couldn't afford for me to take maternity leave.

Two days ago, I had crazy ew cm, and at one point were planning on dtd and stopped because we both ha this feeling that if we did w/a condom, I'd get pregnant and as much as I desperately wantthat we really can't afford it yet.
It reminded me that i've felt for several years that we would get pregnant this year or next trying or not. We'll see what happens. And if it's the end of the year, I think we'll be fine 9 months from then.

I've just been thinking babies like crazy since the other day, far more than I normally do. And I am glad that I can/ do share that normal baby crazy with dp.

[lakeruby]

Originally Posted by Magelet

We're waiting on a few things. We want to get married first, and save up money for a mw. Also, we need to be muh stabler financially. Right now we couldn't afford for me to take maternity leave.

This is totally me too! I never thought I would want to get married, but now that we're talking about kids I've really been thinking about it. What are you doing to save money? I'm interested in any ideas/inspiration!

[Mother Cake]

Originally Posted by jenniferadurham

So I keep changing my mind on waiting to TTC...it's frustrating. I want to TTC one day and then the next day I dont. I talked to Dh last night about not waiting...and he said that we made some valid points the other day about waiting...so we'll see. I will more than likely be O'ing this time next week. I guess we only have a few days to think about it. ARGH. Anyone else doing this? Being confused?

I have something similar. I have been crazy to get pregnant/have a baby for years, but didn't want to do the single mom thing. Now that DH and I are married and starting to talk about when to TTC, suddenly I'm getting scared. Wondering if I'm really ready. Wanting to put it off a bit longer.

I think unconsciously I'm putting it off by putting off the projects I need to finish before we start TTC, kwim?

[chloe2326]

Can I join?

Me and my guy have only known each other for about 6 months so its too soon for us to be talking about a family, but oh my golly do I have babies on the brain! For the time being I'm focusing on getting myself ready to someday - maybe in couple years or so - have a little wee one.

Financial Goals -
1. Pay off my last CC.
2. Beef up my emergency savings fund
3. Get a 4 door car --- 'cause 2 doors don't work so well with children
4. Save up for midwife attended birth.

Other stuff -
1. Lose those last 10 pounds
2. Workout 3 days/wk

[nerdymom]

Originally Posted by daniellebluetoo

OOOOOOooooooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, A VACATION!!!!!!

That sound SO lovely!......Hmmm, more planning!

I'm looking into home births, assisted and unassisted, I figure, at this point, I'll start with what I have No clue about...I had a hospital birth last time, AWFUL!
The OB, didn't even ask me if I wanted an episiotomy, just cut me open! Well, 9 stitches latter...... I'm also going to be looking into hypnobirthing,

Other than the whole get in shape, save $ detox, I'm not sure what else I need to be doing.

That makes me so mad for you! A friend of mine told the doc she didn't want one and he cut her anyway. The recovery was terrible. Another friend was unable to DTD for 6 months because of her episiotomy. It's just a barbaric practice imo!

Originally Posted by mamalove1

Hi Everyone,
Haven't posted in a very long time. We originally were going to TTC over the summer but we weren't truly ready. I want my DD to have enough mama and daddy time. (She will be 2 this Feb) So, it is planning time for us. WE are banking on getting PG this Spring. It is funny, now that I am 36, I feel a bit stressed about my age and being pregnant. Silly really but I do feel societal pressure about it. AVoid all over 35 TTC articles, let me tell you. It is like they are TRYING to scare you! But after having one I feel so much more prepared for all the planning I should do - money, healthwise etc... (I was gestational diabetic last time. Anyone else? Any advice on how to avoid this time?)
Anyway, I used Nordic Natural vitams - reccomended by a naturopath. She also said that it was essential to take your omegas too for brain development.
Have a great day!!!

On the subject of avoiding GD, making sure you exercise and eat well pre-preg as well as during your pregnancy can go a long way. Eating a ton of quality proteins and avoiding refined sugars is also supposed to help during pregnancy. Also, I'd read Henci Goer on how they diagnose GD. It's kind of fishy and if I had eaten a good diet I would strongly question a diagnosis. Also if you have a HB MW you can always just opt out of the testing! (that's what I did)

Originally Posted by pinkgeek

Hello all! It's been pretty quiet around this forum recently - how is everyone? I'm back to a new cycle, and this time I'm determined to chart/temp. I really want to be able to know my cycle better so that once I have the "yes" from DH, I will know how to work the timing.

This 3-day weekend I have a ton of housecleaning planned (a big bone of contention with DH) and am hoping to bring up the TTC topic of conversation when he's all happy from the clean house.

Oh, yes, charting! I really want to begin that again as well. Thanks for the reminder, I'm going to get DH to print me off some more sheets at work tomorrow!

Originally Posted by jenniferadurham

So I keep changing my mind on waiting to TTC...it's frustrating. I want to TTC one day and then the next day I dont. I talked to Dh last night about not waiting...and he said that we made some valid points the other day about waiting...so we'll see. I will more than likely be O'ing this time next week. I guess we only have a few days to think about it. ARGH. Anyone else doing this? Being confused?

YES! Most of the time I want a baby. But sometimes when DS is being a pill, and especially this week since I broke my toe and have been hobbling everywhere, I just wonder if I can even handle another one without losing my mind!! But mostly I want want want a baby so bad. For now DH is firm, no TTC until later this year. And I am too, when I think logically. I hate logic!!

[Neuromancer]

Originally Posted by Blanca78

Neuromancer--I love Misconceptions. Okay, I haven't finished it because I moved and misplaced it. It's in my house somewhere and one of my projects is to hunt it down and finish it, because the first half was awesome.

I loved it, too. I read the whole chapter about "fairness" with your partner in parenting out loud to my husband the other night and it sparked another really good conversation. I just finished it yesterday, and now I'm reading Get Ready to Get Pregnant.

My next short term goals are:

1. Floss every day for a month to get back in the habit, then
2. Make dental appointments and get cleaning + fillings
3. Make appt. for yearly checkup with PCP in order to ask about any blood tests she'd 4. suggest (based on my reading)
5. Read some more books!
6. Work on the "baby plan" with my husband (it's very flexible and will certainly change, but it's a way to talk about how we are going to strive for equity if we have a kid).
7. Add a yoga or pilates class a week (to bring my total to 2 classes a week, plus at-home exercise 3-5 days)
8. Plan an international vacation with my husband

And right now I am thinking I'll sit down with my husband in early March to talk about how we're both feeling about TTC.

[jenniferadurham]

So...explain to me WHY I watch baby shows such as Bringing home baby, Baby story, and Birth Story when I'm(well, DH rather) is not TTC yet...what good does that do again? Oh NOTHING....I forgot.

[fresh_veggie]

Can I be in the waiting a little long part of the tribe?

DH and I don't have any kids, we're both still students (21 & 24). So many of our friends our age are having babies! (In Utah...lol...) And I myself and baby-crazy, but we absolutely do not have the money or lifestyle to bring a baby into the world. So we'll be waiting a few more years. Isn't it frustrating when everyone around you is either pregnant or breastfeeding?