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Congrats mothercake!!!
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Mother Cake: Congrats, good luck, and enjoy!
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Blessings on TTCing Mother Cake!
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Thanks for all the support and good wishes ladies!
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It's been pretty quiet around here the last few days. Hope everyone is doing well.

I called my gyn office to get the results of my second prolactin test, and they said they were "normal" so YAY! Weirdly enough, I am not feeling overly relieved about that, though. I'd like to know what caused a random 4 week delay in my cycle, but if all goes normally for the next few months, I'll just call it a fluke and try not to stress about it. I am still supposed to get a trans-vaginal ultrasound done, hopefully that is all good too.

I did finally mention it to my DH - I was like "my dumb doctor's office hasn't called me back yet" and he finally asked what results I was waiting on. I told him what was going on, and he was like "I didn't know" and gave me hugs, which actually helped a lot. I did downplay the effects of PCOS and didn't mention fertility effects. Until I know if there is actually something to be more concerned about, I didn't want to get into a big conversation about it, especially right when I was going to bed. I think that I might try to talk to him about it this weekend, though. The fact that there was (still might be) something that might cause a fertility issue may actually help him see that this is really important to me and that I'm not getting any younger. Men can wait much longer than women to have kids, why don't they get that?!

I feel a little scattered, and I'm not really sure why I feel so wonky about things. Hopefully I can get some productive things done around the house this weekend and feel a little more grounded.

Sorry for the LONG post!
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Pinkgeek, "Normal" is good, even if it leaves some questions unanswered. Maybe the ultrasound can be more conclusive -- or at least "normal" again.

You said, "Men can wait much longer than women to have kids, why don't they get that?!" I really connect to that!

My husband's said a few things in the past week or two that give me little glimmers of hope that when we have "the big talk" in July or so (since he asked for 6 months to think in February) he'll be ready to have a baby. But I'm not ready to hold out hope just yet. I'm just trying to be patient.
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I need to vent

Yesterday I saw this woman who has 3 children already and is pregnant with her fourth. I was so saddened to see her already pregnant again, I feel guilty for that because I should have felt happy for her not sad for myself, but I couldn't help it.

Her youngest is only 17 months old and I remember feeling this sadness when she was pregnant and had her youngest last year....and here we go again.

I'm so jealous. I'm not even close to having my second child and she is on number 4. When will it be my turn again? Will it ever be? Feeling really hopeless about my situation after seeing her.
I can relate as well. We have two lovely children...BUT, it feels like everyone around me is pregnant and having babies again!!! I'm happy for them and for their families, but darn it, I'm ready for another and my dh just isn't on board yet. *sigh* the wanting and waiting continues....
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Hello all, may I join? I'm Chelci, 21, I've been married for 2 1/2 years and we have 2 children together. We want another child but we don't know when we will start TTC. Hopefully, it will be soon. I currently have the Paragard (Copper T) IUD so there should be no "oopsies" before we are ready.
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This is my first real cycle since getting my mirena out that I'm going through the Fertile Crazies (as I like to call them). I'm about to O (tons of EWCM, CD14, positive OPK) and am ready and willing to make another baby. I have to make DH whisper in my ear to remind my why we don't want another baby right now, b/c in my crazy hormonal mind, the timing just couldn't be better -- and aren't babies just so adorable?

It's SO. FRIGGIN. HARD. to wait. I mean, we have practical reasons. Everyone on this thread has practical reasons. But there is just NOTHING that makes sense to me when I'm on the verge of O and the timing would be PERFECT to make a baby. It's like, why waste such a perfect opportunity?

Does anybody else get the Fertile Crazies or is it only me?

BTW, we're still on track to TTC next spring or summer...(unless I get my way, muah-ha-ha!)
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Logan, what does the * mean next to some of the names (like mine ) on the first post?
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It's SO. FRIGGIN. HARD. to wait. I mean, we have practical reasons. Everyone on this thread has practical reasons. But there is just NOTHING that makes sense to me when I'm on the verge of O and the timing would be PERFECT to make a baby. It's like, why waste such a perfect opportunity?

Does anybody else get the Fertile Crazies or is it only me?

ME!!

And then I also get majorly irritable when my period starts, cause despite the fact that there is no chance I could be pregnant (CTA) I'm mad that I'm not... I'm really a rational person most of the time, honest. I know that we have good reasons to wait, they just seem very unimportant around the time I ovulate.

Nothing much going on here, we are making good progress paying down debt and I'm trying to work on losing weight finally so that whenever we are "good to go" I'll be ready. I'm wondering if we'll be able to TTC later this fall, it would mean that baby #2 would arrive just as DD is entering kindergarten so our daycare expenses would be manageable. I'm just not sure about things like paying for our homebirth,etc..
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This is my first real cycle since getting my mirena out that I'm going through the Fertile Crazies (as I like to call them). I'm about to O (tons of EWCM, CD14, positive OPK) and am ready and willing to make another baby. I have to make DH whisper in my ear to remind my why we don't want another baby right now, b/c in my crazy hormonal mind, the timing just couldn't be better -- and aren't babies just so adorable?

It's SO. FRIGGIN. HARD. to wait. I mean, we have practical reasons. Everyone on this thread has practical reasons. But there is just NOTHING that makes sense to me when I'm on the verge of O and the timing would be PERFECT to make a baby. It's like, why waste such a perfect opportunity?

Does anybody else get the Fertile Crazies or is it only me?

BTW, we're still on track to TTC next spring or summer...(unless I get my way, muah-ha-ha!)

Oh I get them bad. I get so obsessive about babies and pregnancy that I am in a daze for a day or two often. and then when my period starts, I'm mad/sad I'm not preganant even though it's highly unlikely AND often when I'm not in one of those crazy hormonal moments, I realize that I'd be really scared to have a baby right this moment because of our financials.

We are working on those though, and moving forward towards getting engaged and married so.... we're making progress on some of the barriers. DP's not feeling grown up enough for it yet.... I'll just have to hope that works itself in time FAST
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Does anybody else get the Fertile Crazies or is it only me?
I have been BIG TIME lately - even though even I don´t think I´m ready yet (rationally) - it also comes along with possible pregnancy symptoms (nausea, big appetite, upset stomach, fatigue) which makes it even worse

It´s happened a couple months in a row now and now I know I need to just get used to it and try to relax about the whole thing...very odd though...
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Well, I rescheduled my u/s for Friday, and my annual exam is on May 13, so it should only be a couple of more weeks for me to at least have some additional information. In the mean time, I think I may be near O, so that would be a good sign. Less EWCM than normally but some on Monday, and watery yesterday, so hopefully that means March was a random fluke.

I decided that even though we aren't TTC right now, I should start to pay more attention to the specifics of my cycle besides just CM. I kind of want to temp, but I can't seem to get in the habit of it. I did cave and order some OPKs online, so maybe combining that with CM will give me a better idea of when things are happening; it may also motivate me to temp so that I'm not wasting tests (although at 45 cents each I'm not sure cost is a big concern for me.)

I'm also REALLY hoping to get back on track with Weight Watchers. If nothing else, continuing the weight loss I started last year may a) make me feel better while waiting for my DH to agree to TTC, b) make it easier to convince myself to buy some lingerie, which would then c) increase the frequency of DTD
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Hi ladies, I joined this thread yesterday before I found out that my DH is going to deploy again at the end of the year so... we won't be TTC any time soon. Probably 2012. I think I will be leaving this thread now to save myself from heartache. I just don't even want to think about TTC or babies.
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CTH - sorry to hear about having to delay TTC for a deployment. There are a couple of other military wives/girlfriends on here in the same boat. Maybe chatting with them will help you through it.
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Thanks pinkgeek!
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I'm also REALLY hoping to get back on track with Weight Watchers. If nothing else, continuing the weight loss I started last year may a) make me feel better while waiting for my DH to agree to TTC, b) make it easier to convince myself to buy some lingerie, which would then c) increase the frequency of DTD
Fitness is one of my goals too. I mean, if I felt more comfortable in my own skin, it would help a lot of things -- my mood, my parenting skills, and yes, even my desire to DTD!

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Hi ladies, I joined this thread yesterday before I found out that my DH is going to deploy again at the end of the year so... we won't be TTC any time soon. Probably 2012. I think I will be leaving this thread now to save myself from heartache. I just don't even want to think about TTC or babies.

Hopefully we'll see you back here sooner than later.

AFM: I'm so glad I'm not the only one who gets crazy! But man, what a tough week. I almost feel like I was drugged or something w/how badly I have had babies on the brain!
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I am still waiting to get my IUD removed Needing an ultrasound.
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Chelci

I certainly get the O time crazies!

DH told me late last night that he was finally on board to TTC! I think we're both scared about it but ready. Because of where I am in my cycle and how long they are, it looks like we still have to wait a full month before trying but hopefully the time will fly by.

I just like so many of you was full of heartbreak. I quietly mentioned here and there, and then I wrote him a letter. Finally, it looks like we're going in. I really pray that you will all get to experience the joy of the filp.

Good luck mammas!
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