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post #321 of 387
I DONT WANT TO WAIIIIT.. HAHA, my whine for the day.

Me and DP talked it over today and we both just are crawling out of our skin wanting a new baby. So, we talked about trying in March 2011. Which is less than a year away. I would just be 3 months into the nursing program, but it would leave me enough time to finish the program if I got pregnant RIGHT away. We are still thinking it over. I am off the depo and on the pill as of tomorrow, then I can just stop them at any time to start charting to see where my fertility is at.
post #322 of 387
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Originally Posted by MommatoAandA View Post
Its like if I get pregnant right after I get my nursing certificate, then I have to deal with starting a new career pregnant.
My SIL went through the last part of nursing school pregnant and then with a newborn, and then accidentally got pregnant again right as she started her new job as a telemetry nurse. Not the best situation- with the first babe she had literally zero time off (she went back to school just 3 days after a c-section) becuase she had to go to school and with the second babe she only was able to take 5 weeks off. Although it wasn't optimal, it all worked out in the end and everyone is fine. It worked out just fine for her family. People do what they gotta do, right?

The situation I described above is too chaotic for me, so we're waiting until next summer to start trying for another babe. It's been soooooo hard and heartbreaking to have to wait, but it's for the best- I'll be able to be a SAHM again while DS works, and that is optimal for us. I couldn't dream of going back to work with an infant at home.

By the time our next babe comes along, I will have waited five years between babies and I'll be 35 years old! But it will be worth the wait, and waiting is what's best for us right now
post #323 of 387
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By the time our next babe comes along, I will have waited five years between babies and I'll be 35 years old! But it will be worth the wait, and waiting is what's best for us right now
Have you been ready all this time?! OMG, I couldn't do it. You are so strong to have held out this long w/o going completely nutso!

Not that we're being super careful this cycle, but honestly I feel like waiting is better for everyone involved (including myself). I don't like admitting that! Ugh! But really -- I don't want to buy a new car, I don't really want a double stroller, and I do want a break from nursing before getting pg again. It's all about what you want to do and what you can sacrifice/handle.
post #324 of 387
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Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes View Post
Have you been ready all this time?! OMG, I couldn't do it. You are so strong to have held out this long w/o going completely nutso!
Ha ha ha! Who says I'm NOT completely nutso? Just kidding. Really, it's hard and I'm sometimes pretty emotional over it, but that's just life. I'm proud of the choices I've made for my family, so it's all good. And besides, my best friend is expecting twins in November and I'm riding her coattails through the whole thing. I'll tell ya, buying clothes for twins is just about the funnest thing ever!!
post #325 of 387
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Originally Posted by sparklett View Post
My SIL went through the last part of nursing school pregnant and then with a newborn, and then accidentally got pregnant again right as she started her new job as a telemetry nurse. Not the best situation- with the first babe she had literally zero time off (she went back to school just 3 days after a c-section) becuase she had to go to school and with the second babe she only was able to take 5 weeks off. Although it wasn't optimal, it all worked out in the end and everyone is fine. It worked out just fine for her family. People do what they gotta do, right?

The situation I described above is too chaotic for me, so we're waiting until next summer to start trying for another babe. It's been soooooo hard and heartbreaking to have to wait, but it's for the best- I'll be able to be a SAHM again while DS works, and that is optimal for us. I couldn't dream of going back to work with an infant at home.

By the time our next babe comes along, I will have waited five years between babies and I'll be 35 years old! But it will be worth the wait, and waiting is what's best for us right now
Well, I would be due after my class ends (even if I got pregnant on the first try). I will have been at my job for over a year and have paid into short term disability and have PTO saved too, so i would be able to take 12 weeks. I also think I could go part time upon going back until the babe was 6 months (my DP makes a fantastic salary and could support us without me working) We also work opposing shifts with an overlap of only 3 hours so I would only need a sitter for those 3 hours a few times a week for work. I already work in the healthcare field as a CNA, and even after getting my nursing certificate I can still work as a CNA for a while until I am ready to take on the nursing thing.

I understand that things may not totally work out the way I plan, but I did have 2 really great and pretty uneventful pregnancies. I guess its really all about considering what it is I realllly want. I think after I get into the nursing program I can assess better.. HEE HEE But the idea sure keeps me sane for right now! HAHA


I started my birth control pills today. I hope my period comes back this month. I havent seen AF in a while and I miss the old hag. HAHAHA
post #326 of 387
What does the * mean next to some names on the front page?
post #327 of 387
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Originally Posted by Brown Lioness View Post
BirdieB, TRUST WE understand right where you are coming from!, lol. I am literally SURROUNDED by pregnant women, SURROUNDED you hear me!? lol

I feel like running, screaming for the hills for shelter before the babies come raining down on my head here soon, lol. My ovaries wont be able to take the cuteness! AAAACK! LOL!
Haha, this was great! This is totally how I feel, so many of my friends are pregnant or have newborns right now. But I am (almost) sure that waiting is better for us.

I need to start charting again, so I know what's going on. My periods returned in December, but they've been pretty irregular since then. I've been lazy about getting started again, and I'm also afraid charting might make the baby fever worse! Has that been true for anyone else - do you go a little crazy keeping such close track of your cycles and knowing exactly when you're fertile?
post #328 of 387
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What does the * mean next to some names on the front page?
It means I've seen someone post recently....Im shamefully bad at keeping up though LOL and really need to go through everyone and make sure that all the names there are still supposed to be there.
post #329 of 387
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Originally Posted by Birdie B. View Post
I'm also afraid charting might make the baby fever worse! Has that been true for anyone else - do you go a little crazy keeping such close track of your cycles and knowing exactly when you're fertile?
MEEEE!! I thought I'd be good for a little while after I got my IUD out. DH knew I was going to go nuts once I started and we both promised to wait a few cycles (he wanted to wait a year) before TTC. Well, yeah that plan is down the drain! I'm ticking like CRAZY over here after charting only 3 cycles!

I feel like if I weren't charting I wouldn't be as baby crazy but the only other alternatives are condoms all the time (ugh) or hormonal bc, and I REFUSE to go back on any hormonal bc. So our only real option is charting/FAM.
post #330 of 387
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Originally Posted by Birdie B. View Post
I'm also afraid charting might make the baby fever worse! Has that been true for anyone else - do you go a little crazy keeping such close track of your cycles and knowing exactly when you're fertile?
Definitely true...I´ve never really "charted" officially...just a very general either "I have my period (or am within just a few days of) or I don´t"

I´m not on the pill because I´m still nursing DS...once he is fully weaned I´ll go back on the pill, because I know that it´s just make the whole issue much more relaxed...We can just be content and settled with our decision to wait and we won´t have any of those "what if? could I be?" moments that just bring the whole issue back again...
post #331 of 387
I try to use charting as an informational tool. Like I know I am ovulating and I know when to avoid/try, but I try not to get too upset when trying if we dont have sex on the golden day, KWIM? I think it can make you neurotic when you want a baby and you see your Oing and for whatever reason you cannot try at that time. I am on the pill as of this cycle. We decided to take it one cycle at a time. If we decide to stop using the pill, then I will chart to avoid, until we are ready to just say "the hell with it" and just "whatever" at which time I will prob stop temping. It would be nice to "try" for a few months, sometimes, I think it can be so magical to be making love to your partner and have this little secret between you two, that you MIGHT be pregnant, but no one else knows.

I am going to get Short term disability insurance with work and start saving my PTO now so I can use it when we decide to have another little one. But I think March/April 2011 will be our time to start trying. Unless I do not get accepted into the nursing program for this January, then we may try sooner rather than later to get it out of the way, if that makes sense. Because I would not be starting then until the following January, 2012. So it would make sense to start asap.

Anyway, more babbling and planning from me.

Hope you are all well.
post #332 of 387
Hey mamas! I haven't posted here in a while, but I've been thinking a lot about TTC lately. I go back and forth all the time and I'm kind of making myself crazy! I definitely want to have a kid, and the sooner the better, but I feel so conflicted because of our financial situation. I had a reality check earlier in the week and realized that if I want to concieve later this year (we have been thinking about starting TTC around Sept), we would need to save up around $500 a month from now until the brith (assuming I conceived right away) in order to have enough to pay the doula/midwife and buy baby neccessities. And, frankly, we've only been managing to save about $200 a month lately, so I'm not sure where that $300 is going to come from... but the thought of waiting any longer makes me want to cry.
My DP is firmly in the camp of "there's never a good time" and thinks we should start TTC as planned anyway, and figure it out along the way..... I just feel so irresponsible.
Anyways, I just needed to vent this morning! I've had a frustrating week....
post #333 of 387
@Logan Can you move me to the 2011 group on the main page? As much as I am wishing and hoping for 2010, I'm trying to be more realistic at this point and that makes it more likely to be 2011.

If things change though, I'll be sure to ask to be moved back!
post #334 of 387
hi ladies, just a fast check-in. no time to catch up on reading. hope all is well...

i surprised the heck out of myself and got early... so much for knowing i was preggo !! ha ! i got over the shock and am striving for more equanimity going forward.

still wanting. going with the flow.

xxo
post #335 of 387
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Originally Posted by lakeruby View Post
Hey mamas! I haven't posted here in a while, but I've been thinking a lot about TTC lately. I go back and forth all the time and I'm kind of making myself crazy! I definitely want to have a kid, and the sooner the better, but I feel so conflicted because of our financial situation. I had a reality check earlier in the week and realized that if I want to concieve later this year (we have been thinking about starting TTC around Sept), we would need to save up around $500 a month from now until the brith (assuming I conceived right away) in order to have enough to pay the doula/midwife and buy baby neccessities. And, frankly, we've only been managing to save about $200 a month lately, so I'm not sure where that $300 is going to come from... but the thought of waiting any longer makes me want to cry.
My DP is firmly in the camp of "there's never a good time" and thinks we should start TTC as planned anyway, and figure it out along the way..... I just feel so irresponsible.
Anyways, I just needed to vent this morning! I've had a frustrating week....
Hugs. It's like any other major decision in your life, but it's also much much different. You can plan and plan, but nothing really prepares you. I hope you are able to find a path that works for both of you!
post #336 of 387
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Originally Posted by Birdie B. View Post
Hugs. It's like any other major decision in your life, but it's also much much different. You can plan and plan, but nothing really prepares you. I hope you are able to find a path that works for both of you!
Awww, thanks lady! I do feel better about it this week. Sometimes I just freak out and need to vent about it, but I have a good feeling that everything will work itself out in time...
post #337 of 387
DP would always talk about planning before we had the kids, but now he sees it as, you are never really totally ready. I mean you can plan and be careful to the best of your capabilities, but sometimes you just have to jump in the deep end, right?

As for us, my work situation is changing a bit. I am cutting down to 22.5 hours a week, so two weekly shifts and then every other weekend. I was originally hired for that, then took the 3rd shift per week, to make for 30 hours. So I wont get benefits anymore, which is ok with me, since I am on medicaid now anyway.

We keep tossing the idea around about just whatevering and seeing what happens, but I am still taking my pills like a good girl. I dont want to, but I know now would be a bad time...
post #338 of 387
Hi ladies. Was wondering if I could squeeze in over on this thread? I was around the CTA thread, but that's not really me and I am not that strict about charting. I really want a baby right now, but our finances and living situation is not good for a baby right now.

I will introduce myself...

I am a half-single mother to one DD (2), and I have a loving DP that is truly my 100% match in life. I am going through a divorce that has lasted 2 years so far. The reason why I say I am a half-single mother is because DP helps me out a lot, but he can't be here with us overnight. So, that's the half of the time that I am truly a single mom.

I have wanted another baby for a little over a year now, but it just isn't right for us now. We have debt to pay off and we would love to get to the point where we can live together before we try and commit ourselves to another child. We just don't know when that will be. We w/d and use condoms, but we have our share of "oops" moments, too. We both have agreed that if it happens, it happens and it was meant to be, but we are not actively trying.

I hope I fit in a little more on this thread
post #339 of 387
Hi everyone, I'd like to introduce myself as well. I'm a college student and I still have two more years of school; I want to be a social worker.
My fiancé and I are hoping to be married within a year. He wants to have kids "someday", but I am consumed with baby fever! I'm constantly reading about everything to do with pregnancy and birth and babies, I want one so bad!!
I know it's best to wait until I'm done with school and have a chance to save up some money.
So that's where I am, just fantasizing and waiting!
post #340 of 387
Well, I am still waiting, but we are no longer avoiding (as of last week). I see the doctor on Wednesday to make sure there's nothing I'm forgetting to do, but otherwise I am now wanting and waiting-to-see-what-happens! My husband seems even more on board than I am, so I feel supported and ready as I may ever be (though not without doubts). Thanks for all the support on the most recent leg of my journey to this point!
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